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  • 09-08-2019 11:06pm
    #1
    Problem Of Motivation
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 386 ✭✭


    So there's this guy that I met up with a few times since I've been in college with him years ago. One of the things I've noticed about him is that he calls me buddy a bit too often. He puts it in writing too! Does anyone find this annoying?

    The thing about it, is that he usual calls me this when saying hello or goodbye, or maybe on the phone. These are all circumstances when it's hard to call someone out about it. For example if we haven't seen each other in two months and he says "hey buddy" when greeting me, in amongst a bunch of other words, well wouldn't it be unusual to just say "don't call me buddy" at that point in time!? Also, if there's a quick phone call to verify a where we're meeting or something, he'll sneak in his 'buddy' remark. Again, I wouldn't want to call him out on this over the phone. Likewise, when saying goodbye - can you imagine turning you're back as you say goodbye and then as you're turning to leave and turning back around to say "don't call me buddy"? It would really end things on a bad note. If he said it to me mid conversation, I'd say it to him.

    It's kind of weird, because with the way he says it, it's almost as if we were best friends back in the day or something but we really weren't. I feel like saying to him "hang on, we don't know each other that well". In short, I find it patronising.


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  • #2
    corner of hells
    Registered Users Posts: 8,354 ✭✭✭corner of hells


    Problem Of Motivation wrote: »
    So there's this guy that I met up with a few times since I've been in college with him years ago.

    One of the things I've noticed about him is that he calls me buddy a bit too often. He puts it in writing too! The thing about it, is that he usual calls me this when saying hello or goodbye, or maybe on the phone. These are all circumstances when it's hard to call someone out about it. For example if we haven't seen each other in two months and he says "hey buddy" when greeting me, in amongst a bunch of other words, well wouldn't it be unusual to just say "don't call me buddy" at that point in time!? Also, if there's a quick phone call to verify a where we're meeting or something, he'll sneak in his 'buddy' remark. Again, I wouldn't want to call him out on this over the phone. Likewise, when saying goodbye - can you imagine turning you're back as you say goodbye and then as you're turning to leave and turning back around to say "don't call me buddy"? It would really end things on a bad note. If he said it to me mid conversation, I'd say it to him.

    It's kind of weird, because with the way he says it, it's almost as if we were best friends back in the day or something but we really weren't. I feel like saying to him "hang on, we don't know each other that well". In short, I find it patronising.

    Is he the bloke who eats toilet roll ?


  • #3
    Poorside
    Registered Users Posts: 2,098 ✭✭✭Poorside


    Keith calls everyone that, you’re really not that special to him.


  • #4
    refusetolose
    Registered Users Posts: 2,559 ✭✭✭refusetolose


    I'm not your buddy mate


  • #5
    riffmongous
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 12,621 Mod ✭✭✭✭riffmongous


    He's nuthin but a snake Hun


  • #6
    colm_mcm
    Registered Users Posts: 73,380 ✭✭✭✭colm_mcm


    refusetolose wrote: »
    I'm not your buddy mate

    I’m not your mate pal


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  • #7
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭[Deleted User]


    You're not wrong in this instance. "Pal" & "dude" are other common epithets utilised by the passive aggressive individual.


  • #8
    Problem Of Motivation
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 386 ✭✭Problem Of Motivation


    Deleted User wrote: »
    You're not wrong in this instance. "Pal" & "dude" are other common epithets utilised by the passive aggressive individual.
    I knew it.


  • #9
    Woodsie1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 949 ✭✭✭Woodsie1


    Deleted User wrote: »
    You're not wrong in this instance. "Pal" & "dude" are other common epithets utilised by the passive aggressive individual.

    Online maybe,but in the real world it pretty harmless,bud.


  • #10
    Your Face
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,277 ✭✭✭Your Face


    Half squat down in a crouching position and with an explosive upward movement, uppercut him in the balls.
    Then say something really cool whilst lighting up a cigarette.
    Or do what you like, I don't care, stop talking to me, I don't even know you.


  • #11
    Harry Palmr
    Closed Accounts Posts: 40,061 ✭✭✭✭Harry Palmr


    Chummy chums are such a drag.


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  • #12
    Sharp MZ700
    Registered Users Posts: 673 ✭✭✭Sharp MZ700


    Your Face wrote: »
    Half squat down in a crouching position and with an explosive upward movement, uppercut him in the balls.
    Then say something really cool whilst lighting up a cigarette.
    Or do what you like, I don't care, stop talking to me, I don't even know you.

    Great advice there pal.


  • #13
    Sardonicat
    Registered Users Posts: 12,378 ✭✭✭✭Sardonicat


    colm_mcm wrote: »
    I’m not your mate pal
    I'm not your pal, chum.


  • #14
    RobbingBandit
    Registered Users Posts: 18,073 ✭✭✭✭RobbingBandit


    colm_mcm wrote: »
    I’m not your mate pal

    He's not your pal, fweind


  • #15
    Leg End Reject
    Registered Users Posts: 16,313 ✭✭✭✭Leg End Reject


    Don't call me baby when she is waiting in the car
    https://forumofgames.com/index.php

    >>> Staying Alive <<<



  • #16
    Atlantic Dawn
    Registered Users Posts: 81,073 ✭✭✭✭Atlantic Dawn
    M


    stop%20search%20sieze%202.jpg

    "Don't call me buddy, buddy."


  • #17
    Sardonicat
    Registered Users Posts: 12,378 ✭✭✭✭Sardonicat


    Leg End Reject wrote: »
    Don't call me baby when she is waiting in the car

    We"re old enough to remember Strawberry Switchblade, no one's going to call us baby anymore, except maybe BP Fallon or Grandmaster Flash


  • #18
    Leg End Reject
    Registered Users Posts: 16,313 ✭✭✭✭Leg End Reject


    Sardonicat wrote: »
    We"re old enough to remember Strawberry Switchblade, no one's going to call us baby anymore, except maybe BP Fallon or Grandmaster Flash

    Speak for yourself! :pac:

    It was Voice of the Beehive.
    https://forumofgames.com/index.php

    >>> Staying Alive <<<



  • #19
    Sardonicat
    Registered Users Posts: 12,378 ✭✭✭✭Sardonicat


    Leg End Reject wrote: »
    Speak for yourself! :pac:

    It was Voice of the Beehive.

    Ah, so it was ! See, the old memory's going....
    First, they stop calling you 'baby, next, you get the all female pop acts of the early 90s mixed up. Before you know it you start referring to young fellas as 'sonny'....


  • #20
    Snotty
    Registered Users Posts: 1,298 ✭✭✭Snotty


    Are you female/homosexual and your "buddy" male? Yeah it's weird and he might be letting you know that the relationship is always going to be platonic


  • #21
    rainbowdrop
    Registered Users Posts: 1,294 ✭✭✭rainbowdrop


    Did you go to college with that fella on the TV show about Dublin Airport, think it was called 'Customs'?

    Memorable only because he was an absolute dick to the passengers...


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  • #22
    Airyfairy12
    Registered Users Posts: 3,389 ✭✭✭Airyfairy12


    I kind of feel like youre reading into this way too much, he likely calls everybody buddy and doesnt actually think youre best buds, he's probably just being friendly. Does he give you any other reason to think that he thinks you are currently or where previously best mates? Like does he message you all the time or keep asking you to meet up? If he's not behaving oddly then I really think its more your problem than his.


  • #23
    colm_mcm
    Registered Users Posts: 73,380 ✭✭✭✭colm_mcm


    Airyfairy12 wrote: »
    I kind of feel like youre reading into this way too much

    You should see the other threads.


  • #24
    Airyfairy12
    Registered Users Posts: 3,389 ✭✭✭Airyfairy12


    colm_mcm wrote: »
    You should see the other threads.

    Why?


  • #25
    bfa1509
    Registered Users Posts: 1,022 ✭✭✭bfa1509


    There is a very easy solution to this. People who say "buddy" think they are the only person in the world who says "buddy". They also fancy themselves as being "cool". Next time you see him, get in there quick and say "HEY BUDDY!". No person in the world would respond to "Hey buddy" with "Hey buddy".

    The one caveat to this technique is that you then become "that guy".


  • #26
    Ninthlife
    Registered Users Posts: 2,241 ✭✭✭Ninthlife


    Burn his house down. That will take the spring out of his step and next time you see him he'll be too sad and will probably just let out a miserable half ar$ed 'Hi'


  • #27
    KathleenGrant
    Registered Users Posts: 3,777 ✭✭✭KathleenGrant


    Ninthlife wrote: »
    Burn his house down. That will take the spring out of his step and next time you see him he'll be too sad and will probably just let out a miserable half ar$ed 'Hi'

    This.


  • #28
    KaneToad
    Registered Users Posts: 3,156 ✭✭✭KaneToad


    Sardonicat wrote: »
    I'm not your pal, chum.

    I'm not your chum, horse.


  • #29
    Ninthlife
    Registered Users Posts: 2,241 ✭✭✭Ninthlife


    KathleenGrant wrote: »
    This.

    2 people cant be wrong


  • #30
    Sardonicat
    Registered Users Posts: 12,378 ✭✭✭✭Sardonicat


    KaneToad wrote: »
    I'm not your chum, horse.

    I'm not your horse, pilgrim.


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  • #31
    KathleenGrant
    Registered Users Posts: 3,777 ✭✭✭KathleenGrant


    Ninthlife wrote: »
    2 people cant be wrong

    I am NEVER wrong.


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