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Tinder weight filter

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  • #62
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    TheDavester wrote: »
    I love how women can get away with saying no one under 6 ft and there's no uproar but god forbid if a man mentions a womans appearance

    weight problems = easy mode

    height problems = hard mode


  • #63
    Obvious Desperate Breakfasts
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,474 ✭✭✭Obvious Desperate Breakfasts


    Adam Massive Druggist wrote: »
    Why call women either? It's just that that bravado from grown men is unnecessary. Women don't refer to men as things.

    Don't think that's the case on this thread though. Personally I cringe at women doing that too. Really lets the side down. If a man isn't attracted to overweight women, that's just his involuntary preference, which there is nothing wrong with. I don't care if he even puts it in his profile, because weight can be lost.

    Whereas women who say 6ft only are discriminating based on something a man can't control. And they're ruling out lots of great guys who are maybe 5ft 9 or 10. But I doubt any well adjusted guy would want to get involved with a woman who puts that stupid specification on her profile.

    But, like with weight, it’s an involuntary preference for some women. It’s neither here nor there that a man can’t make himself taller, if a woman prefers tall men, she can’t help that just as a man might prefer a slim women.

    I don’t think any woman should mention it on her profile but I think it’s a bit much to suggest that a woman who preferably likes tall men isn’t going to suit a well-adjusted guy. And even if she doesn’t mention it on her profile, she’ll be mentally using it as a filter. You mentioned involuntary preferences in your post. Wouldn’t liking tall men be one?


  • #64
    Gimme A Pound
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,482 ✭✭✭Gimme A Pound


    I understand a preference for men her own height or taller (and men can prefer women not being taller than them) but that doesn't always have to mean 6ft.

    It's not so much a preference for taller men but specifying a particular height, like a guy saying "must be size 8-10".


  • #65
    riffmongous
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 12,622 Mod ✭✭✭✭riffmongous


    Mister Vain wrote: »
    There's a new dating app that only allows you to match with people of other ethnicities, because if you're a white man and you're only attracted to white women, well that's racist apparently.
    And is everyone is being forced to sign up to it?


  • #66
    One eyed Jack
    Registered Users Posts: 23,654 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    doylefe wrote: »
    Why doesn't tinder have a weight filter? I should be able to choose to only appear to non fat girls.

    Most of the likes I get are from fat ones. The gall of them. I'm in good shape. Why would they think I'm interested in an over weight person?


    Tinder doesn’t have a weight filter because they’re a business, not a public service. If you’re on the app, you’re a target for anyone, same as girls on the app who complain about being messaged constantly by overweight guys. They’re chancing their arm, same as the women do with you.

    I’d say even if you put it in your description, it would be likely to have the opposite effect from social justice warrior types just looking to show you “the errror of your ways” :pac:


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  • #67
    One eyed Jack
    Registered Users Posts: 23,654 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    Adam Massive Druggist wrote: »
    I understand a preference for men her own height or taller (and men can prefer women not being taller than them) but that doesn't always have to mean 6ft.

    It's not so much a preference for taller men but specifying a particular height, like a guy saying "must be size 8-10".


    Cuts out a lot of the tyre kickers and chancers really is all, well, it’s intended to anyway! It’s just narrowing down the criteria to the point where your chances of being matched with your ideal person are higher than just playing “pin the tail on the donkey and hope for the best” sort of thing. You’ll be matching with less people, but higher quality is all.


  • #68
    Mellor
    Registered Users Posts: 39,009 ✭✭✭✭Mellor


    doylefe wrote: »
    Most of the likes I get are from fat ones.

    How do you know you are getting likes from fatties? Unless you are liking them yourself?


  • #69
    One eyed Jack
    Registered Users Posts: 23,654 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    Mellor wrote: »
    How do you know you are getting likes from fatties? Unless you are liking them yourself?


    Kinda reminds me of American Beauty, like the OP is publicly in denial, is disgusted by women who are overweight, but in private is tugging the skeleton out of himself browsing the BBW section on Pornhub :D


  • #70
    somesoldiers
    Registered Users Posts: 13,845 ✭✭✭✭somesoldiers


    Mellor wrote: »
    doylefe wrote: »
    Most of the likes I get are from fat ones.

    How do you know you are getting likes from fatties? Unless you are liking them yourself?
    He explained that earlier, something about seeing pixelated versions of people that like you so you can tell the size but not exactly see the face if I understand it


  • #71
    somesoldiers
    Registered Users Posts: 13,845 ✭✭✭✭somesoldiers


    Mellor wrote: »
    doylefe wrote: »
    Most of the likes I get are from fat ones.

    How do you know you are getting likes from fatties? Unless you are liking them yourself?
    OP explained that earlier, something about seeing pixelated versions of people that like you so you can tell the size but not exactly see the face if I understand it


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  • #72
    chrissb8
    Registered Users Posts: 1,168 ✭✭✭chrissb8


    Met my current GF off tinder. Had weight on her, didn't care because she was just an amazing person and I was attracted to her as result of that.
    She ended up losing 3.5 stone over the last year which while she looks better than ever I wouldn't have cared if she stayed as she was.
    Basically what I'm getting at is that weight is just that. Weight, you can just lose it when you really want to. What you are missing out on is the amazing person they are and what you could potentially be together. That doesn't mean you have to give every big girl a chance but just don't be closed off to it when you're getting along with someone just because of some superficial reason.


  • #73
    chrissb8
    Registered Users Posts: 1,168 ✭✭✭chrissb8


    Accidently reposted.....


  • #74
    OldMrBrennan83
    Closed Accounts Posts: 26,658 ✭✭✭✭OldMrBrennan83


    She'll end up trading you in now.


  • #75
    KevinCavan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 612 ✭✭✭KevinCavan


    I know a friend of my gf who takes amazing photos of herself, despite her big build. Headshots are a big giveaway in my opinion. If they don’t show their body in the photo, it’s not worth showing.


  • #76
    sbsquarepants
    Registered Users Posts: 11,812 ✭✭✭✭sbsquarepants


    Mookie Blaylock wrote: »
    Gimme a pound means you want your arse ridden.... perhaps tinder is exactly what you need!

    :D

    I was born too soon for the whole internet dating thing (it's my single biggest regret!) I mean I do love sluts and I have a phone - would have took to that shít like a duck to water!

    But from what few snippets I've gleaned from reading about people who actually have lives - getting the arse pounded off you is more of a grinder thing;)


  • #77
    jellybellyelly
    Registered Users Posts: 28 ✭jellybellyelly


    Plenty of Fish has a weight filter - but potential dates can circumvent it by answering 'prefer not to say' to the body type question rather than answering more directly, so they're not filtered out of your matches.

    I'm a 'big' girl and am upfront about it, I don't post edited photos or headshots hoping some guy will be so bowled over by my personality and my size will be immaterial - I get that we're visual creatures and physical attraction matters, and irrespective of size, hair colour etc you can't be everyone's cup of tea. That's what I like about Tinder - it's a split second decision on whether someone physically does it for you or not. I don't think a screening question is needed, just swipe left ;)


  • #78
    GarIT
    Registered Users Posts: 8,671 ✭✭✭GarIT


    PapaOscar wrote: »
    FFS, is there people that actually think that?

    I'm sure there are. I was briefly (less than a week) harassed online and labelled transphobic for deciding to stop talking to a woman I had been because she was born with and still had a penis.

    Had a similar story in real life with a fat girl. A few friends tried to set me up with the fat one in the group because I was the ugly one and I was told I was things like mysoginistic and shallow for not going there.

    I do have to say about tinder that sometimes I swipe right on everyone without even looking and I get a lot more matches from women I'm not attracted to than women I am. Obviously though the idea is you pick who you like as you're swiping.


  • #79
    mariaalice
    Registered Users Posts: 12,357 ✭✭✭✭mariaalice


    I went out briefly with someone who was well over 6 foot and he had this theory that he should save himself for tall women as it was more difficult for tall women to meet someone he had a long-term girlfriend who was 6 foot tall he was only half joking.

    I would be a more go with the flow and see what happens type.


  • #80
    Feisar
    Registered Users Posts: 6,597 ✭✭✭Feisar


    I feel sorry for people that feel the need to crop pics of themselves. I don't mean that in any sort of condesending way or anthing.

    What sort of thoughts go through someones head as they get ready for a first date knowing full well the other person has only seen them with rose tinted glasses on?

    First they came for the socialists...



  • #81
    jellybellyelly
    Registered Users Posts: 28 ✭jellybellyelly


    Feisar wrote: »
    I feel sorry for people that feel the need to crop pics of themselves. I don't mean that in any sort of condesending way or anthing.

    What sort of thoughts go through someones head as they get ready for a first date knowing full well the other person has only seen them with rose tinted glasses on?

    Most likely similar to what goes through the minds of all the guys who lie about their height on Tinder :D I presume they think the right woman won't care.

    There's a whole generation of guys who are 5ft11+ in their minds...maybe in heels, if they stood on a chair, on their tiptoes.... :P


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  • #82
    c6ysaphjvqw41k
    Closed Accounts Posts: 466 ✭✭c6ysaphjvqw41k


    This post has been deleted.


  • #83
    Feisar
    Registered Users Posts: 6,597 ✭✭✭Feisar


    jellybellyelly wrote: »
    Most likely similar to what goes through the minds of all the guys who lie about their height on Tinder :D I presume they think the right woman won't care.

    There's a whole generation of guys who are 5ft11+ in their minds...maybe in heels, if they stood on a chair, on their tiptoes.... :P

    Here, yer talking to a lad that spent his adult life thinking he was 6'3''. I'm 6'2'' and a hair, Dad measured me once and made me up to 6'3''! Must have had thick socks on that day.

    First they came for the socialists...



  • #84
    ohnonotgmail
    Registered Users Posts: 40,120 ✭✭✭✭ohnonotgmail


    Feisar wrote: »
    Here, yer talking to a lad that spent his adult life thinking he was 6'3''. I'm 6'2'' and a hair, Dad measured me once and made me up to 6'3''! Must have had thick socks on that day.


    bit of a difference between that and telling everyone you are 6' when you are really 5'9"


  • #85
    Feisar
    Registered Users Posts: 6,597 ✭✭✭Feisar


    ohnonotgmail wrote: »
    bit of a difference between that and telling everyone you are 6' when you are really 5'9"

    I was being a little flippant.

    First they came for the socialists...



  • #86
    Feisar
    Registered Users Posts: 6,597 ✭✭✭Feisar


    Khloe Slimy Watchband wrote: »
    This post has been deleted.

    Back when I was on it, it was just another sting to my bow.

    First they came for the socialists...



  • #87
    ohnonotgmail
    Registered Users Posts: 40,120 ✭✭✭✭ohnonotgmail


    Feisar wrote: »
    I was being a little flippant.


    I know.


  • #88
    Bigbagofcans
    Registered Users Posts: 1,164 ✭✭✭Bigbagofcans


    chrissb8 wrote: »
    Met my current GF off tinder. Had weight on her, didn't care because she was just an amazing person and I was attracted to her as result of that.

    Why describe her as current GF? She's your GF. Unless you plan on breaking up soon?


  • #89
    Bigbagofcans
    Registered Users Posts: 1,164 ✭✭✭Bigbagofcans


    sbsquarepants wrote: »
    I was born too soon for the whole internet dating thing (it's my single biggest regret!) I mean I do love sluts and I have a phone - would have took to that shít like a duck to water!

    :mad:


  • #90
    OldMrBrennan83
    Closed Accounts Posts: 26,658 ✭✭✭✭OldMrBrennan83


    Bigbagofcans wrote: »
    :mad:

    What? Are they banned now too?


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  • #91
    Jackman25
    Registered Users Posts: 456 ✭✭Jackman25


    chrissb8 wrote: »
    Met my current GF off tinder. Had weight on her, didn't care because she was just an amazing person and I was attracted to her as result of that.

    She ended up losing 3.5 stone over the last year which while she looks better than ever I wouldn't have cared if she stayed as she was.

    Basically what I'm getting at is that weight is just that. Weight, you can just lose it when you really want to. What you are missing out on is the amazing person they are and what you could potentially be together. That doesn't mean you have to give every big girl a chance but just don't be closed off to it when you're getting along with someone just because of some superficial reason.

    A bugbear of mine, but I hate when people describe other people, particularly their partners as amazing.
    The dictionary definition of amazing is "causing astonishment, great wonder, or surprise". That applies to very very few people.


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