Childfree by choice forum

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Plenty to be discussed on this subject matter. The joy of waking up late on a Sunday could be discussed for thousands of pages :pac:

MrMusician18 wrote: »

In Ireland there are orders of magnitude more parents and people who will desire to be parents at some point than individuals (admittedly growing) who choose to be childless.

If someone chooses not to have children then they're childfree not childless

+1 for me, although it seems I'm a little late.

I think a safe place to discuss not having kids by choice would be great, while megathreads or whatever on the forums might seem like an idea, they often can move away from being helpful or even civil. Even here there seems to be some unhelpful posting.

MrMusician18 wrote: »

If that's the purpose, well this idea is on a hiding to nothing. Notwithstanding the fact that this forum, if it comes into being will end up being a bitter old ghost town, defined by a negative, relationships in online forums through pseudonyms are never going to replace quality in-person friendships.

Well, your repeated posting on this thread seems to be very much defined by a negative.

I see I’m too late for the deadline but FWIW it’s a +1 from me. I’d love a forum like this.

There would be lots to discuss- eg in the last year I’ve had a tubal ligation. As a single, childfree woman I’ve spent years trying to get this done. A discussion on that could involve sharing info about surgeons willing to do it, costs, experiences, any post-op complications and the sheer and utter joy that comes with knowing it’s done! That’s only one example of a discussion. The argument that “I choose not to have children” would be the sum of the discussion is absurd and frankly pathetic.

I find it sad (but not surprising) that some people are vehemently against this. It speaks volumes to me about where society views those of us who are childfree by choice. Not worthy of acknowledging as a group in our own right, instead we should just tag onto other sections.

I really don’t get the argument that it would be a small forum- so what? There are multiple fora here that I’ve never once strayed into, as I know by the titles that they hold nothing of interest to me. But I wouldn’t oppose anyone’s right to have a forum for their interest area. What’s wrong with giving this one a shot? Give it a year, or even 6 months. If it’s a ghost town then, fair enough, but if it’s reasonably active, and as active as some of the many smaller fora here, then well and good.

MrMusician18 wrote: »

3 threads from 2020, 2018 and 2013. Yeah there's a clamour alright.

The internet won't run out of space if an extra forum is added.

mike_ie wrote: »

No it won't. But one of the longstanding complaints received in feedback is that Boards is too fragmented, that there are too many forums and it's hard to find relevant information.
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Blame that on the menu redesign from a few years back, not an abundance of forums. It made it a pain in the hoop to browse through the place.

The old menu had a load more categories up top and you could browse through lists of forums extremely quickly. There were a lot more forums too.

Redesign came along and replaced all of that with just four categories up top (one of which being 'talk to', so it's three in reality) and stopped people browsing through random forums. Killed loads of them and a lot of the site in general.

Tokyo wrote: »

This forum suggestion has actually sparked off a bigger conversation with respect to how we should approach suggested forums in a way that’s less binary than a simple yes or no.

Good to hear. I've always felt the criteria should be more relaxed, and more ideas tested out. If they work great, if they don't, fine, we tried. I even feel this forum should be deprecated really, and a more decentralised approach to forum creation be put in place.....it's kind of mad that the future forums of the site are decided here in a back water forum that barely anyone visits (unless they go out of their way to do so). Let each category be responsible for its own growth. Anway, nuff rambling!