' I don't do Valentines'

deise08 · 13-02-2020 10:35am #1

So I've just been told this by the lad I'm seeing, turns out the last lad I was seeing a few years ago also 'didn't do Valentine's' either.
I've never had a Valentine's, so just wondering how common is this?

I work in retail and know that all our stuff is sold by the time the day comes around, so someone does it :-D

So do ye fine people of AH do Valentines or do I just get bogeys?

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 13-02-2020 10:38am

deise08 wrote: »

So I've just been told this by the lad I'm seeing, turns out the last lad I was seeing a few years ago also 'didn't do Valentine's' either.
I've never had a Valentine's, so just wondering how common is this?

I work in retail and know that all our stuff is sold by the time the day comes around, so someone does it :-D

So do ye fine people of AH do Valentines or do I just get bogeys?

Men typically dont care for it, sorry

because it's seen as men making the effort and women getting the spoils.

You could causually remind him of steak-and-blowjob-day with a wink and a hint and see if that's gets him to put in the effort.

PmMeUrDogs · 13-02-2020 10:39am

Female, I don't care for it and have never celebrated it. None of my friends celebrate it either, male or female.

lozenges · 13-02-2020 10:40am

I don't! (Female, in a relationship).Maybe a card but I insist on no presents. Christmas and birthdays are enough to be going on with...

whisky_galore · 13-02-2020 10:41am

Load of me bollox Hallmark card day.

Bullocks · 13-02-2020 10:42am

Some years yes and some years no. I think this year I'll get her a voucher for nails or hair or something.
Don't expect anything because I usually hate presents

Kimbot · 13-02-2020 10:43am

its a hallmark day so I dont participate :P

Ten of Swords · 13-02-2020 10:44am

What exactly are you expecting from him?

begbysback · 13-02-2020 10:45am

I’m so adept at not doing Valentine’s Day that I didn’t even notice it this year.

Cina · 13-02-2020 10:45am

When you're in a long term relationship where sex gets less and less frequent, Valentines is a bit of a god-send.

Tacitus Kilgore · 13-02-2020 10:46am

Big hookey load of bolox of a day but I still get the head taken off me if I don't get something

Loveinapril · 13-02-2020 10:47am

When I was younger with flings and at the start of my relationship now we did it but once we got comfortable and honest with each other, we both admitted we thought it was bullsh!t. When I saw this thread I thought it was Valentine's Day today! It is unlikely my husband will remember the date either.

sbsquarepants · 13-02-2020 10:47am

deise08 wrote: »

So I've just been told this by the lad I'm seeing, turns out the last lad I was seeing a few years ago also 'didn't do Valentine's' either.
?

Probably just hasn't mastered the art of bi-location yet. Can't "do" the wife and the girlfriend together...unfortunately;)

Hodors Appletart · 13-02-2020 10:47am

its a load of bollix

being upset at a lad for not buying a token card is a sure sign of crazy for me

Still waters · 13-02-2020 10:49am

Watching the telly and all the talk shows are promoting all female products, shampoos perfumes etc. A day that's totally female orientated and women buy into it and expect something and feel disappointed when he turns up with his lad in his hand and a shìtty card

EmmetSpiceland · 13-02-2020 10:50am

I don’t care too much about it but I’d never turn up “empty handed” for it.

I mean, I’m not too into “celebrating” my birthday but I still get presents for others.

Bob Harris · 13-02-2020 10:50am

deise08 wrote: »

So I've just been told this by the lad I'm seeing, turns out the last lad I was seeing a few years ago also 'didn't do Valentine's' either.
I've never had a Valentine's, so just wondering how common is this?

I work in retail and know that all our stuff is sold by the time the day comes around, so someone does it :-D

So do ye fine people of AH do Valentines or do I just get bogeys?

You should have gotten yourself something while you had the chance.

Salary Negotiator · 13-02-2020 10:50am

I've been told that I am doing this year and that I have to buy flowers.

In exchange my girlfriend is cooking us t-bone steaks for dinner so that's a win-win.

Irishphotodesk · 13-02-2020 10:50am

Wait till you get told about "Galentine's Day" yes.... Valentine's with a "G"

My twin girls came home from a club they are in recently talking about Galentine's, we thought they were mispronunciating valentine's .... Turns out we were wrong !!

PHG · 13-02-2020 10:55am

Never have, never will. A load of nonsense. Closest I have come is a card. If you cannot make your partner feel loved the rest of the year, then what is the point on this one day.

Best mate is a chef and has told me a lot of places pre cook the food and up the prices for it. Used to go out for dinners most weeks with exes so no point paying more for worse food.

deise08 · 13-02-2020 10:57am

Ten of Swords wrote: »

What exactly are you expecting from him?

Nothing now :-D:-D
He didn't do Christmas either cos we were newly dating. I did.

Sabre0001 · 13-02-2020 10:57am

Myself and the OH don't really acknowledge it. Not into being rushed in and out of a busy restaurant, possibly inflated prices (especially flowers), and the gifts that "express love" (which are usually pretty stereotypical and require little thought or effort aside from getting to the shops in time).

Bob Harris · 13-02-2020 10:59am

deise08 wrote: »

Nothing now :-D:-D
He didn't do Christmas either cos we were newly dating. I did.

A few signs there of things to come.

Mysterypunter · 13-02-2020 11:02am

deise08 wrote: »

So I've just been told this by the lad I'm seeing, turns out the last lad I was seeing a few years ago also 'didn't do Valentine's' either.
I've never had a Valentine's, so just wondering how common is this?

I work in retail and know that all our stuff is sold by the time the day comes around, so someone does it :-D

So do ye fine people of AH do Valentines or do I just get bogeys?

The username and last line are a giveaway, lots of bogeys in Blaa. Its a bit of a cringey day

Ten of Swords · 13-02-2020 11:04am

deise08 wrote: »

Nothing now :-D:-D
He didn't do Christmas either cos we were newly dating. I did.

I bet I can guess what you're getting for your birthday

jim o doom · 13-02-2020 11:06am

Me and my wife used to go out for a meal on Valentines, but we got many disappointing expensive meals, so we stopped going out for it.

However, we do spend it together at home enjoying each others company, watching stuff on TV, I cook a lovely meal, and I'll generally buy something small like chocolates for her, but she doesn't for me, nor do I want her to.. we share the ones I buy.

So yeah we celebrate it, but on a small, private, not expensive scale at home.

BeerWolf · 13-02-2020 11:06am

Why should there be a set day to show affection? It should be shown every day!

Ficheall · 13-02-2020 11:07am

Irishphotodesk wrote: »

Wait till you get told about "Galentine's Day" yes.... Valentine's with a "G"

An even bigger load of bollocks than Valentine's.. Though it has been around years.

Princess Calla · 13-02-2020 11:09am

I've always given a card which I'll have to buy today.

He might buy fancy chocolates which he and the kids will eat 80-90 % of

I remember years ago going out for dinner... The most uncomfortable dinner ever... The restaurant, a nice one, obviously had arranged all the tables in twos, with the minimum gap between them. I'm a size 6-8 and still struggled to squeeze through. The whole effect was of a medieval long table.... I was as much in the conversation with the couples beside me as I was with the boyfriend.... Never again.

I'd rather pick up a marks and spencer deal meal and eat in my pj's

claregal1 · 13-02-2020 11:15am

We are not doing anything this year as cash is a bit tight . However I am cooking a nice steak dinner Saturday night for him and he will get in the booze .
I'm not a big fan of Valentine's day myself , think it can be over rated to be honest and a money gimmick with flowers etc . Himself would often bring me home flowers from Moore Street on a Friday evening max cost 10 euros and I appreciate those flowers more than overpriced interflora roses for Valentines .

claregal1 · 13-02-2020 11:16am

Ficheall wrote: »

An even bigger load of bollocks than Valentine's.. Though it has been around years.

Whats Galentines day ?

Edit- just googled it ... oh lord!

' I don't do Valentines'

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