30s: Lonely and no friends here

61 views, hope some of these people inboxed you. Could link a ton of stuff you have probably thought already but going to send you my number incase you want a coffee and a gossip. A few weeks can seem like a lifetime because lonely hits a little different, but it's totally just **** and temporary cicrumstance. Will inbox you, not a murderer, strong negative opinions about seagulls however.

Join a hillwalking club. Lots of people across all age groups. And because of the nature of the activity it's easy to talk to anyone in the group. It's easy to talk about the activity, scenery, difficult of the hike. It's easy to talk to anyone. A people are in groups, it's less one on one, so people don't feel as pressurised into talking.

OP I'd say don't be put off by perceived age range, lots of people in their 40s work with/are friends with/live with people in their 30s. Make one friend of any age and you never know where it'll lead you to, if you get invited out for drinks or to a bbq etc by one person you'll end up meeting other new people naturally.

Look up Galway salsa on fb.

Fairly good group of 30 somethings who get together to dance, if that's your thing.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think GirlCrew has actually dis-banded! Was a bit shocked when I saw Reports that it had... I think they were making money through advanced Subscriptions of the Service they were providing, but apparently it wasn't near enough money to keep things going. Was shocked to read it, considering they had been taking money from people. But also, Girlcrew hasn't even been around for all that long either really like.

Anyone else in there 30s and realise that most if not all their friends have moved away or just simply moved on with their own lives?

I feel like those that are left only want to socialise around the idea that every get together has to be a drinking session and I just dont have the interest in that anymore.

I really miss getting together with friends, going for walks, listening to music, dancing, goofing around and having interesting conversations that dont end up with someone having the 'horrors' the next day and retreating further from you. Maybe thats just my experience with the drinking scene.

There has to be some other group out there like Girl Crew where people can meet up, be themselves and have a bit of craic with each other.

Social isolation is tough and I know that more people out there are feeling this too especially with Covid restrictions, working from home, being unemployed etc.

if anyone does hear of anything please let me know.

Im tired of my weekly trip to Lidl being the most social part of my week ...jeez!... nearly forgot about my trips to Dunnes... I get a real buzz going through the self service checkouts haha

A lot of the sporty clubs are 'sport light' as in people join them for the craic as much as the sport. Same for the swimmers (and runners too I am sure) etc, some people go for the athletic part but others (like with the swimmers) are dippers etc and enjoy a quick dip and a coffee. There's a FB page for Blackrock Diving Tower Community, if you say you are new to town and chat on there? The Crane is lovely for music but I noticed also people playing chess etc outside (although with the weather... ;) ). I would echo wha't being said about being open to friends of all ages. I have friends 15+ years either side of me and it makes life more interesting! There's also rowing, sailing, mudlarking (looking for treasure in mud!), kayaking etc. The Secret Garden often has chatty and friendly events too.

Posted a comment on another thread recently which was very similar in topic.

What I said then I think is valid here, try to do things that you enjoy doing rather than just doing them to meet people. Then, when doing them, be willing to engage with others and to take the opportunities to share numbers or arrange to meet should they present themselves. Don't be afraid of going to something initially on your own whether it is to a gig or show or whatever. Once you get in and get a seat, everyone else is really only engaging with the people either side of them anyway and quite often people are looking to chat to someone new.

As others have said, sports clubs are often social clubs with a sporting motif (I saw tag rugby described as Kiss Chase for 30 year olds I think it was in a Ross O'Carroll Kelly book and I still laugh at that description). Cycling clubs in particular are very welcoming for people of different levels and it obviously has fitness benefits also. But there isn't a sports club in the country that would turn down a new member or participant. Same in terms of arts type groups such as drama groups or dance classes or whatever.

Agree with the impact a dog can have in getting you out and about and meeting people but would suggest to make sure you are committed to owning them as they do need to be cared for appropriate to their breed.

Further education can also be an opportunity to meet new people, plus pick up a new skill or qualification, if this interests you, you're considering this at a good time as autumn semesters for such courses are probably about to start.

In fact, talking of timely threads, the Galway International Arts Festival is literally on right now. As I said, going to events such as these on your own might seem daunting, but can be a very enjoyable experience plus an opportunity to meet people with similar interests.

Fair play for starting the thread. Think it helps a lot of people to see others struggle in particular ways and some of the posts here may help them, if not you directly or immediately. Good luck.