The Pregnant Womans Moan Thread.

Blingy · 03-09-2017 06:12AM

catrionanic wrote: »

No amount of rest can prepare you for what's ahead of you! In fact the more sleep you're getting, the more of a shock to the system it will be.....

This is so true!

starface · 03-09-2017 01:27PM

I'm 9 days over due!! Being induced tomorrow night but I really wanted to go through early labour in my own home. Nothing can be done - I don't want to put labour off any more and as long as she's healthy I'll be happy but just fancied a moan!!! Feel like a failour that I didn't go into labour naturally.

HazelBee · 03-09-2017 01:33PM

starface wrote: »

I'm 9 days over due!! Being induced tomorrow night but I really wanted to go through early labour in my own home. Nothing can be done - I don't want to put labour off any more and as long as she's healthy I'll be happy but just fancied a moan!!! Feel like a failour that I didn't go into labour naturally.

Don't feel like a failure! The real parenting begins after baby arrives by whatever means. Just be ready with all your love and that's all that matters.

catrionanic · 03-09-2017 06:23PM

starface wrote: »

I'm 9 days over due!! Being induced tomorrow night but I really wanted to go through early labour in my own home. Nothing can be done - I don't want to put labour off any more and as long as she's healthy I'll be happy but just fancied a moan!!! Feel like a failour that I didn't go into labour naturally.

I cried when they told me I was being induced. Felt disappointed that it wasn't going to go "naturally", and scared about the increased likelihood of needing instrumental delivery or section.

I promptly forgot all those feelings once the contractions started, and just felt excited! It really didn't matter in the end (and I didn't have an instrumental delivery).

Best of luck! Very exciting few hours ahead of you now!

dove2011 · 04-09-2017 10:28AM

Might be totally not the right place- 2.5 weeks to go and I have started to panic about the whole thing... I seriously just want to be left alone... Last week I spent my weekend catching up with friends then having to go to bed coz I am exhausted, this weekend I spent the weekend hanging out with my partners parents and minding my mothers dog... I have not packed my hospital bag yet and I am trying to train someone into my role at work while highly stressed...so I cry and cry.

My biggest issue though is my partner has a dalmatian who he calls his first born; he is completely obsessed with the dog - people have warned him about the dog and the baby but he seems to be totally oblivious to it. The dog is a one person dog so he will be jealous when baba comes around. He only stays with us 2 or 3 times a week but takes over the whole downstairs. I asked could we have the house dog free for at least 6 weeks when baby comes home and we will slowly introduce the dog to baby... given the dog clothes baby has worn but he thinks he can have the baby and dog sitting together in the couch... Its a very sensitive matter; if I speak negative about his dog he gets moody.

Neyite · 04-09-2017 11:04AM

dove2011 wrote: »

Its a very sensitive matter; if I speak negative about his dog he gets moody.

Speaking bluntly, fcuk him and his moods.

He needs to get on board with socialising the dog with a baby safely and doing everything to ensure that a jealous dog is safe around a newborn. Frankly from the sounds of the dog, he doesn't seem safe at all at the moment, and if the owner is doing nothing to address that or not taking it seriously, its not fair on the pet and unsafe for the baby.

Have you had some advice from Animals & Pets forum? There are some terrific posters over there that could give you lots of advice on what to look out for or how to correctly introduce them to each other.

catrionanic · 04-09-2017 01:20PM

I would be telling him that it's me or the dog. That dog does not sound ready to be around a baby. Dalmatians are particularly jealous dogs, or so I've heard. Could you get him to put a muzzle on it?

bytheglass · 04-09-2017 04:45PM

Sorry to hear you are feeling stressed. Break it down though and do a little bit daily. Train your replacement in during work hours and get rest outside of work. Write your hospital bag list and segment it into the different stores you need to visit, then you'll get it completed in 3 to 4 days.
Have a chat with your fella about the dog and let him know how you really feel. Dogs do not comprehend jealousy, this is a human emotion. Your dog will notice a lack of attention however and needs to receive the same attention as it receives currently. Good luck

you maybe surprised how well baby and dog can coexist. The other poster mentioned visiting the dog / animal forum which is a great idea.

Ms. Chanandler Bong · 06-09-2017 12:33PM

dove2011 wrote: »

My biggest issue though is my partner has a dalmatian who he calls his first born; he is completely obsessed with the dog - people have warned him about the dog and the baby but he seems to be totally oblivious to it. The dog is a one person dog so he will be jealous when baba comes around. He only stays with us 2 or 3 times a week but takes over the whole downstairs. I asked could we have the house dog free for at least 6 weeks when baby comes home and we will slowly introduce the dog to baby... given the dog clothes baby has worn but he thinks he can have the baby and dog sitting together in the couch... Its a very sensitive matter; if I speak negative about his dog he gets moody.

If he thinks the dog is going to love the baby because it's part of him, he's nuts! Yes some dogs turn into the most affectionate loving creatures and will let no harm ever come to the baby and will let the baby maul them without a sound but just as many go to the opposite extreme.
You have the right idea. Bring baby clothes to the dog while you're in hospital. Introduce them slowly. Give them time.
He may get moody because you're not ecstatically in love with his dog but imagine how 'moody' you'd be if your worst nightmare came true!

Toots · 06-09-2017 02:11PM

I think it be worth getting a trainer out to the house to give you some tips about introducing baba to the hound, and also to try and talk some sense into your partner. We've got a big staffordshire/labrador who's brilliant with kids, but even then, she's never been around a newborn, so we'll be introducing baba slowly and gently. Also, it goes without saying, but never ever ever leave a dog and a child alone together. As I said, my dog is brilliant with kids, and she adores my 5 year old son, but even still I'd never leave them alone together, because something could happen in a split second, and it might not be either of their faults, but you could never undo it.

I'd say maybe 6 weeks dog-free might be a bit much, but your partner needs to reign it in and stop the dog taking over the whole house. Maybe stick a baby gate in the kitchen/hall door, and that way the dog could be confined in there during times when you're trying to feed the baby, or of the baby is asleep? We've got a baby gate going across the hall, so whenever we're eating dinner or if I've got to go to the loo or something, the dog goes in to her bed and I close over the gate so the dog isn't on her own with my son. I think the important thing is (mainly to try and prevent jealousy issues) make sure you do set aside a little time to give the dog some attention, but the dog also needs to know that baby comes first. I really think a professional trainer could be helpful here.

bytheglass · 21-09-2017 08:51AM

Oh ladies I have SO lost my patience... currently 9 days overdue.
Trying yoga, spinning babies, walking, ball bouncing, reflexology, acupressure, clary sage baths, love making, dates, rasp leaf tea...

My GP said not to bother with spicy foods. I'm going to try acupuncture if I can get an appointment.

Have you any other ideas for me? Experiences?

I know 'baby will come when baby is ready' but uuuuugggggh!!

rainbow kirby · 21-09-2017 09:27AM

Go to a sporting event - I went into labour with my son at 7 days overdue the day after going to a rugby match!

andreac · 21-09-2017 09:55AM

So this morning i had a leg cramp, my arm is hurting from this Carpal tunnel and my back is ore, feeling sorry for myself today booo.

shesty · 21-09-2017 10:45AM

bytheglass wrote: »

Oh ladies I have SO lost my patience... currently 9 days overdue.
Trying yoga, spinning babies, walking, ball bouncing, reflexology, acupressure, clary sage baths, love making, dates, rasp leaf tea...

My GP said not to bother with spicy foods. I'm going to try acupuncture if I can get an appointment.

Have you any other ideas for me? Experiences?

I know 'baby will come when baby is ready' but uuuuugggggh!!

Have some big meals!!!Sometimes the eh....digestive process..can kickstart things.
They can be spicey if you feel brave enough...

Digs · 21-09-2017 11:36AM

bytheglass wrote: »

Oh ladies I have SO lost my patience... currently 9 days overdue.
Trying yoga, spinning babies, walking, ball bouncing, reflexology, acupressure, clary sage baths, love making, dates, rasp leaf tea...

My GP said not to bother with spicy foods. I'm going to try acupuncture if I can get an appointment.

Have you any other ideas for me? Experiences?

I know 'baby will come when baby is ready' but uuuuugggggh!!

Both my girls were born at 42 weeks. I feel your pain. The most frustrating sentence in the English language but baby does come when they decide they're ready, I've learned that the long and torturous way! You have my complete sympathy, going overdue is a special kind of pregnancy torture!!

The only tactic I can come up with is preemptive however which is no use to you at this stage

. If and when we have a third I will be adding a week to my due date!!

blackbird86 · 21-09-2017 12:05PM

Bytheglass, I walked up and down a steep enough hill near my house about ten times in total frustration when I was heading towards 6 days overdue. Now obviously it could be coincidence but labour started a few hours later! I did it because I found when I was walking lots towards the end that I always felt more pressure when I'd walk on a hilly part of a park/road rather than somewhere flat.

sillysocks · 21-09-2017 12:18PM

I also feel for you, I went 11 days over on my third (after being on time with the other two) and when the midwives were scheduling an induction it felt like the end of the world because they wanted to bring me in on a Wednesday instead of the Tuesday I had in my mind. It was only a day but felt like it was going to be a lifetime, had big tears in the hospital corridor and everything!

catrionanic · 21-09-2017 02:23PM

I turned into a lunatic when I went overdue. I tried every trick in the book, including walking up and down the 70 steps to our local Luas stop over and over and over again (passers-by must've thought I was a nutcase). But nothing worked until they broke my waters for me when I was induced!

lashes34 · 23-09-2017 08:44AM

I've had an ok pregnancy so far and try not to moan too much but I'm gone crazy the last 24hrs with a really painful protruding hemorrhoid. Can barely walk with the pain, dont know what to do with myself. Anyone got an tips? Went to the pharmacy and they gave me cream but its no use.

Mimi21 · 23-09-2017 09:18AM

Try putting an ice pack on it (wrapped up in something not directly applied). If you have no ice packs try putting some water on a maternity pad and putting in the freezer for a little bit.
Panadol will take some of the sting out of it.

Other than that you need something stronger that what pharmacist can give you. Can you get to an out of hours service and explain what you need? Could they even email in the prescription to your nearest pharmacy? Or try contacting your public health nurse if you can. They are there to help.

Honestly I feel so sorry for you. I had the exact same on my last pregnancy and it was just so painful.

lashes34 · 23-09-2017 09:55AM

Will try the icepack and have taken some paracetamol. Im abroad for the weekend but will get to a doctor as soon as I can Monday. How long did yours last?

Thanks for the advice.

Toots · 23-09-2017 10:06AM

See can the chemist give you suppositories. I've got Anusol and I found that putting the suppository in sort of pushed the hemhorroid back in a bit and reduced the pain a little.

lashes34 · 23-09-2017 10:08AM

They wouldn't sell them to me without doctors input. Might send the hubby to go and ask again.

PhoenixParker · 23-09-2017 10:48AM

It's on late to help bytheglass but one thing I found that really helped me cope with the overdue phase:

I was midwife led and due on a Thursday, but when you go overdue they make you go into the doctor. I went in on the Monday at four days over and she said to come back in the following Monday and if I hadn't gone they'd think about scheduling me for an induction. I told her I really didn't want to arrive back in the following week to find that I'd be waiting 5 more days for an induction slot. She agreed to schedule the induction for ten days time right then.

As it happened I didn't need it, but having a firm end date really helped my mental state.

HazelBee · 23-09-2017 12:08PM

lashes34 wrote: »

Will try the icepack and have taken some paracetamol. Im abroad for the weekend but will get to a doctor as soon as I can Monday. How long did yours last?

Thanks for the advice.

Second on the ice pack! I also gave my iron supplements a break for a few days. I found the cream useless as well. Try using wet wipes instead of tissue. The worst was over for me in about 4 days.

Toots · 23-09-2017 12:12PM

lashes34 wrote: »

They wouldn't sell them to me without doctors input. Might send the hubby to go and ask again.

Feck. I had them in the house anyway because I got one on my first pregnancy which flares up the odd time, so I like to have them to hand.

Wet wipes for cleaning instead of tissue will help. Also make sure to drink plenty of water, and a poop softener will also help. Lactulose is safe to take while pregnant.

mojesius · 24-09-2017 04:22PM

Tired of being tired, headaches and generally feeling crap and low for weeks. No energy or motivation to do much and I'm only 24 weeks. Thought this was meant to be the blooming phase but I.just want to go to bed all the time.

Having extremely stressful nightmares, woke up heavy breathing and sweating from a bad one last night. Going to gp for vaccine on tues so will talk to them but not holding out much hope

shesty · 24-09-2017 05:19PM

I get quite vivid nightmares on and off when pregnant.There's not much you can do, except make a point to avoid screens in the bedroom before sleeping.That helps.I also try to avoid eating or drinking much after about 7pm.

Pregnancy is hard work.I don't who 'blooms' throughout to be honest.Certainly not me!

Beanybabog · 24-09-2017 08:31PM

I didn't bloom the last time and I doubt I will this time!! I have a bad cold, I'm exhausted, spotty, cold sores, nauseous, and I'm only 5-6 weeks!! I'm hoping most of it is my illness not pregnancy and I bounce back to life soon

shesty · 25-09-2017 08:36AM

It's your second Beanybabog, am I right?I found my second tough.Mainly due to the presence of my first.....there was no blooming or bouncing back throughout!!Although looking at photos afterwards, I had more bloating on my first late in the pregnancy....my face looked way thinner late in my second pregnancy.

Just over 8 weeks here, still crossing my fingers.But really, it's just nausea, nausea, nausea.Anything with fat, anything rich or tasty....I can't eat it.I'm down to making sure I have low fat milk with everything (full fat is not going down well), haven't had chocolate in ages and I can tolerate Bourbon cream biscuits and that's about it!Given my choice I would live on toast and cornflakes but unfortunately with two small people demanding food that is not an option.Cooking dinner in the evenings while trying not to gag is the most traumatic time of day.Oddly enough grapes and Coca Cola work wonders for easing it.It was much less strong on my last two pregnancies, so I'm wondering is this age or possibly a different gender baby!!! (I have two the same already!)

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