what to do???

LegacyUser

im in a relationship with someone who loves me but im not happy becuse theres another guy i like who i would like to go out with
i dunno what to do because i dont want to hurt my boyfriend
any help appreciated

BEAT

sugesstion:
break up with your boyfriend, he deserves someone who will love him the way he loves them, if you like someone else you obviously cant give all of yourself to the one you are commited to now, so let him go and move on to do what ever you need to do.
It's not fair to the b/f to keep him 'chained up' as it were, while your out finding feelings for others.
Now he will need time to recoup and get back out there and trust again, so dont interfere with him once its over, do him a favor really.
That's just my opinion ofcourse... I hope you make the right decision for the both of you, afterall you are not alone when it comes to making this decision, it will be affecting other people.

ahh, me thinks not being in a relationship at all is the best decision I ever made

Ruu_Old

you said u dont want to hurt ur boyfriend, i think he'll be more hurt if you dont tell him whats going on inside ur head. Sit down and communicate with each other..its the best thing to do. hope it works out

LegacyUser

just tell the guy, he diserves that much. as the song says-

"avoid making a flowery emotional speach, dont make a big production, if you want to date other people - say so"

and as the other song says-

"if you love somebody set them on fire"......oh wait.....no, the other one - "if you love somebody, set them free"

so if he loves you, he'll just let you go. sure he'll be hurt but no one ever told him life would be fair. if you like this other lad, your obviously not "ment to be" - leave it at that.

ferdi

Kali

wait a while.. see if the new bloke really is worth it.. if so go ahead. or if you prefer to act on impulses do it now and get it over with.

Gordon

It's very selfless of you to not want to hurt your current boyfriend but it can be unbeneficial to you in the long run to be honest.

I would have a chat with your current boyfriend about what is wrong with your current relationship, maybe these things can be improved upon.

Lets be honest - the grass is always greener on the other side. Give it a bit more thought as suggested.

bernie_1974_10

Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt as they say.
Last year I went off with a guy who I thought I liked more than the boyfriend I had. I'd been with my partner for about 8 years on and off but serious for the last 5. He was away working for 6 months and I only saw him for 3 days a month. I was lonely etc, etc, not making excuses for myself but I strayed. Anyway my partner found out and it was probably the best thing that could have ever happened. We got engaged a couple of months ago and are getting married next year. It took something like that to happen to make me realise what I could have lost and I was very lucky not to lose him cause he would have had every right to dump me. Right now we're the happiest we have ever been and we get on better than we ever have cause there are no secrets between us anymore.

Anyway what I'm trying to say is if you love your boyfriend make sure you don't risk it all cause of some other guy you think you might like. It may not be worth it.

As they say the grass is always greener..................but mostly its not!

Gordon

Congrats Bernie and glad to have you here.

bernie_1974_10

Thanks Gordon, Nice to be here!