Friends 21st

Vince135792003

A friend of mine is having his 21st birthday party soon and I really don't want to go. Lets get one thing straight Mr. Super Social I am n't but I do have my moments. The problem is that the last party of his I went to which was his 19th I absolutely hated. I felt so out of the loop and out of place with the other people there, it was just really horrible. So I fobbed him off last year with some lame execuse that he knew was bull and soothed my conscience by giving him a pretty good present. The thing is we are good,long term friends but not especially close friends and I don't know whether to suck it up and go jsut for his sake or fob him off. I don't want to lose his frienship by continuosly lieing to him but at the same time feeling like the odd one out at a party although its just for a few hours is not somthing that I like doing. Anyway anybodies thoughts would be cool. Thanks.

AthAnRi

Just go and bring along some mate that you get on well with.

breadmonkey

I'd just go for a while and then sneek off when he's too plastered to notice. Definitely make an appearance though.

d-arke

AthAnRi wrote:

Just go and bring along some mate that you get on well with.

couldnt agree more, if you get invited to a 21st or any other party for that matter, and you dont really know anyone else at it, you bring a friend. usually an invitation will be for "x and guest"

dudara

Make a short appearance, just so as not to be rude, and perhaps bring another friend for support. You can leave at a later stage.

dundalk cailin

yes showin ur face is better than not turnin up, u can jus say u have ur cousin's 21st as well or whatever

Lauragoesmad

It's your mates 21st, if you're a good friend you will just go and pretend to have a good time. It's the only 21st he'l have so just go and get drunk and you never know, it might be the best night of your life

WhiteWashMan

if you dont want to go, then dont.
dont feel bad about doing things you dont want to do.

chern0byl

WhiteWashMan wrote:

dont feel bad about doing things you dont want to do.

Selfish!
Man are you that socially inept that you cant spend an hour or 2 at your friends 21'st? Its an important night for him so you should be there. Show up, pay your respects, buy him a beer and if the people there scare you then leave.

WhiteWashMan

chern0byl wrote:

Selfish!
Man are you that socially inept that you cant spend an hour or 2 at your friends 21'st? Its an important night for him so you should be there. Show up, pay your respects, buy him a beer and if the people there scare you then leave.

if he doesnt want to go, then hes hardly the best mate in the world is he?

the_syco

Meh. Go with a mate, stay for abit, sell hello to him, give him a card, and a drink, and then when he gets surrounded by his other mates, f3ck off with your mate to another pub.

If he asks why next day, just say he's your mate so you went along, but you couldn't stand the rest of them, so you left after a bit.

audge

I agree with pretty much everyone who posted here, I think you should show your face, just have the one pint and leave. He will have to play host and wont be able to sit by your side all night, so although he wont notice you leaving,he will notice if you dont bother to show up at all.
Anyhow, if you are good long term friends then he probably knows your not the social type. if you need to give him an explanation, why not text and say, you knwo Im not the most social of butterflies, but its your 21st so I will definately make an appearance.... that way, he knows you have made an effort and appreciate it evem more. I dont think you need to lie to him, or fob him off, just tell him the truth!

Zillah

You could explain the situation to him. Then arrange to do something else a couple days later. Like go to the cinema with a smaller bunch of common friends. Y'know, something you'd all enjoy.

I know I'd hate it if people came to a party they'd hate just for my sake.

d-arke

its his 21st, just go. I'm sure he went to yours or you'd expect him to turn up to it when it does happen, if you invited x amount of people to a party, you'd like to think they'd all come otherwise you'd be wondering why they never showed up.