Non Drink related dates

AthAnRi · 10-10-2005 9:02pm #1

Hey all wasn't sure where put this as it's not really a personal issue as it's a kinda looking for a suggestion thread more than anything but,

If a guy and a girl were to go on a date, and they didn't really want to gon the lash afterwards waht would be a good date? This is aimed at first dates so I think it's important for there too be some kind of activity but nothing as thought consuming as a Film but also not something that requires so much forced conversation as a dinner date. Somewhere in between if ya catch my meaning.

I was thinking something along the lines of a picnic but sense it is the middle of October weather will not allow for that?

deisedevil · 10-10-2005 9:19pm

Bowling or if she's up for something more adventourous then paintballing,lol

KTRIC · 10-10-2005 10:04pm

Get drunk before the date, always good for a laugh.

Endurance Man · 10-10-2005 10:08pm

Go Kart Racing

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Dizzyblabla · 10-10-2005 10:11pm

Do you have access to a car? I was brought to the beach a few weeks ago, and although cold, it was the nicest first date ever!

monument · 10-10-2005 10:12pm

AthAnRi wrote:

some kind of activity but nothing as thought consuming as a Film but also not something that requires so much forced conversation as a dinner date. Somewhere in between if ya catch my meaning.

Forgeting the first date bit... what fits the profile is sex.

Edit: What about a non-thought-consuming "Film"?

Nightwish · 10-10-2005 10:16pm

I like walking or as someone else mentioned, going to the beach.

nesf · 10-10-2005 10:22pm

Dinner isn't forced conversation... Well, if you plan it right it isn't

Try taking her for a walk in a park or to an art gallery or (insert applicable relaxed activity here) and then think about dinner, once you've had a chance to get the conversation started.

That or you could see a quiter comedy/music gig or maybe spend some time chatting in a cafe. It really does in my mind depend on the girl though.

Being a first date makes it trickier since you won't (probably) have a good idea of her likes/dislikes.

*shrugs*

Endurance Man · 10-10-2005 10:26pm

I think first dates should actually be about chatting and getting to no what what your each about. No point in going out with her a second time if you have nothing in common.
Surely having a walk is also just gonna force a conversation

. Picture the date, you rock up at the beach, walk silently for 20 minutes, get back and go home!

Dizzyblabla · 10-10-2005 10:43pm

Endurance Man wrote:

I think first dates should actually be about chatting and getting to no what what your each about. No point in going out with her a second time if you have nothing in common.
Surely having a walk is also just gonna force a conversation . Picture the date, you rock up at the beach, walk silently for 20 minutes, get back and go home!

Walk silently? what are you talking about?
ok, the first 5mins in the car might be a little awkward, but really, at a first date, sure there's millions to talk about!! Even if they are corny questions, how many brothers and sisters do you have? what music do you like... etc etc..

Endurance Man · 10-10-2005 10:47pm

Dizzyblabla wrote:

Walk silently? what are you talking about?
ok, the first 5mins in the car might be a little awkward, but really, at a first date, sure there's millions to talk about!! Even if they are corny questions, how many brothers and sisters do you have? what music do you like... etc etc..

Yes, but he did ask for a date that is not gonna involve much talking

, dont think walking is the best bet. I dont think something that doesnt involve talking is the best choice for a first date though

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AthAnRi · 10-10-2005 10:53pm

Endurance Man wrote:

I think first dates should actually be about chatting and getting to no what what your each about. No point in going out with her a second time if you have nothing in common.
Surely having a walk is also just gonna force a conversation . Picture the date, you rock up at the beach, walk silently for 20 minutes, get back and go home!

Oh I agree with ya man, that's why I don't want a film, or anything TV related for that matter. Think they are the suckiest first dates ever. But also on the other hand having to talk for the sake of talking makes people uncomfortable and they generally talk about sheet. Plus I don't think I'm gonna get to spend the night with this girl because of Geography and work etc so something along the lines of a day activity is good.

I like the art gallery idea.

AthAnRi · 10-10-2005 10:57pm

Endurance Man wrote:

Yes, but he did ask for a date that is not gonna involve much talking , dont think walking is the best bet. I dont think something that doesnt involve talking is the best choice for a first date though .

I didn't ask for that at all. Jesus I believe that making a connection on the first date is vital and the way to do that is for two people to be able to talk comfortably with each other. I personally find Dinner dates to formal and well forced. Think there great for a 3rd 4th date but not the first.

elexes · 10-10-2005 11:03pm

have to agree with the go for a walk thing . its a goodie

or go to a show or event that is 1hr drive away . that way you do have 2 hrs to fill in a car .

Endurance Man · 10-10-2005 11:04pm

AthAnRi wrote:

I didn't ask for that at all. Jesus I believe that making a connection on the first date is vital and the way to do that is for two people to be able to talk comfortably with each other. I personally find Dinner dates to formal and well forced. Think there great for a 3rd 4th date but not the first.

Ye, the art gallery could work

, would give you things to talk about other than each other.
Another idea, maybe try found out if there are any stand up comedy shows around your area at the moment. Could try and find one where they server dinner as well

. That way you sit and chat for a bit and then watch the show + food

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Siogfinsceal · 14-10-2005 8:04am

Have to disagree im a girl and I love the cinema! One guy also took me to a karaoke bar it was a great laugh. oh heres an idea now that its cold they have that 7up on ice thing out in the RDS why not go there its great fun and it not too dear i think if your on pigsback you get 2 for price of 1 tickets too!

Dades · 14-10-2005 8:33am

Dude - go to the ZOO. Best dates ever!

Walking, plus LOADS to talk about with all those cool animals!

Byrneedel · 14-10-2005 9:06am

i think going to the pictures followed by some chips and a walk on the beach or anywhere nice like that i know the pictures is not recomended for a first date but it breaks the ice and gives you something to talk about!!!!

otron · 14-10-2005 4:16pm

Cake Date.

I read about it in (I think) the Sunday Times a while back. It has all the benefits of the required face to face chat of a first date, while not necessarily being stuck with somone for a whole meal. Also, we all know the burds love the cake

projectmayhem · 14-10-2005 4:57pm

what about taking her for a bit of pool/snooker? always a good date to... you know, look

TomCo · 14-10-2005 6:40pm

The natural history museum on Merrion street is great, all those creepy things in cases and jars, plus monkeys and a whale!

Its not a huge place so afterwards you can get something to eat, and also have something to talk about.

Im sure there are comparable places outside Dublin. I think the art museum is a little poncy, the quirky places reflect my personality better.

nobodythere · 14-10-2005 8:19pm

The two coolest things to do in October are step on the crunchy leaves and feed the duckies. If it's a warm day, find a building (car park maybe?) that you can go up to the top of and look out over the city.

You'll look super thoughtful... right before you stick it to her

Edit: I see you're in Galway. Go to Kenny's art gallery, because it's shutting down soon. Plus I saw some really cool new stuff in the window.

Buy a loaf of bread on a sunny day, go down to the canal close to St. Pats primary and feed all the duckies. Impress her by shouting abuse at the seagulls!

Go to the Roisin Dubh because you're guaranteed a class gig. Browse here: http://www.roisindubh.net/listings.php?PHPSESSID=c4bccfb4a4f645c38962cb5243f96c73 (may I recommend Republic of Loose)

panda100 · 14-10-2005 8:20pm

not sure if you live in dublin or not but theres a great place on o'connell street called dr.quirkys fun emporium-its a great place to go on a date cos theres so many silly amusment things to do there like arcade games,bucking bronco thingy and lots of cool fun things to do.I think going to an amusment place or funfair is a great idea specially if you win her over by winning a teddy for her.

TomCo · 14-10-2005 8:31pm

Dr.quirkys is sooooo loud though.

I'd pick Botanic Gardens over loud and flashy anyday.

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