Engagement off - what to do with ring? (sorry mod)

LegacyUser

Sorry about this but my original post

Well the girl I proposed to about 3 months ago has dumped me and we're officially finished. She is giving the ring back to me but I'm not sure what to do with it, it cost €1200, I still have all the receipts and documentation from the shop. Would they take it back no? Any help appreciated thanks.

What I really meant was, is it usual for the girl to keep the ring? Or to give it back to the guy? And if it is to give it back to the guy, is it usual for him to keep it in case of a possible future engagement, or sell it, or return it?
Thanks

Hagar

What right does the girl have to the ring? It should be returned to the guy.

It's not actually a gift, its a symbol of a wedding contract. No wedding contract = no ring.

I'd sell it. It wouldn't be right to give it to the woman you eventually marry.
She might never know but you would.

dramaqueen

She was right to give it back to you as it's yours. It is the symbol of a contract, which has been broken.
Definitely sell it and use the money for something nice like a holiday.
Don't keep it for the next girl. You bought it for your ex and a new girl would never forgive you if you re-used it.

dudara

Different question this time, eh?

In fairness, this is a tough one to answer. Generally, I'd be of the opinion that the girl should return the ring. It's only right. And i would sell it on, or do something with it, but I wouldn't recycle it for your next fianceé.

Beruthiel

FeckedOver2345 wrote:

What I really meant was, is it usual for the girl to keep the ring?

there are no rules for this, I don't think many would want to keep it

Or to give it back to the guy?

I think a lot of girls would give it back, after all, you bought it with your money, it's only right to give it back

is it usual for him to keep it in case of a possible future engagement

no, no, no!
no woman wants to wear a ring you bought for your ex!!

or sell it, or return it?

sell it

Maccattack

Show us a picture of it. I might be interested...

Femelade

when i left my ex, i left the ring with him.
a while later he sent it to me, not sure why.
i still have it in my jewellery box, gathering dust.
i sure as hell wont be wearing it again, might give it to my daughter when she's older.

Absolam

I always understood the etiquette was girl breaks it off she returns the ring, guy breaks it off she gets to keep it? Seems in line with the whole contract concept...

CathyMoran

Would agree with Absolam on this one-however I know of a girl where their ex cheated on them and he still wanted the ring back.

Sparky

well i always assumed that the lady returns the ring, in some cases its thrown back to the man, but like said, the ring is a symbol of marrage, so no marrage means no ring.

I wouldnt keep it either for a new relationship, no matter how expensive a ring is, i wouldnt reuse it for a new relationship.

sell it.

And all the best in the future.

LegacyUser

Ok thank you all very much for the replies. I will get the ring back and sell it - seems best thing to do.. Wouldn't want it lying around anyway to be honest - too many memories.. anyway

And all the best in the future.

Thanks, means a lot to me.

Guy:Incognito

Same thig hapened to me a coeof years back. I dint particularly want it back so didnt ask for it. tbh it wasnt really high on my priority list and was glad not to have the reminder so I reckon try sell it. Practical and all keeping it s, girls dont tend to appreciate this type of re-cycling.