People think I'm a Slapper

LegacyUser

Ok, I was recently talkin to a friend of mine and he said I am considered basically a slut by guys.

I have never slept with anyone, only given one guy (my ex) oral sex, but used to go out and score randomers a lot.
I've scored over 100 guys, thats in the space of 8 years.
I don't do the whole pulling thing anymore but am so upset over this reputation. I really would like to be with someone but know that past actions of mine have put them off me.
what can i do? will i ever shake this off?

1m 19, nearly 20 by the way
thanks 4 your help

danyosan

You've never slept with anyone and your 20 yrs of age? Believe me you are the complete opposite of a slut. Sounds to me as if this "friend" of yours isnt telling you this as friendly advice. Sounds to me as if it's him that has this opinion (God knows why?).

AARRRGH

Maybe you "act" like a slapper? i.e. do anything to get a mans attention?

Are you an attention seeker?

Your friend may have chosen the wrong word to describe you. Or is just an asshole.

Supercell

Corkgal22 wrote:

I've scored over 100 guys

How about you stop "scoring" and actually use your brain?, as this will probably get me banned in PI ..might as well be honest..anyone that claims to have "scored over 100 guys" deserves the title of slapper -imho.

Stop "scoring" and talk to the guys you are mooching..maybe you might actually find something to talk about...

Faye

Corkgal22 wrote:

Ok, I was recently talkin to a friend of mine and he said I am considered basically a slut by guys.

/QUOTE]

Corkgal, what other people think of us is really beyond our control, what matters is what we think of ourselves. I don’t know the circumstances under which 'your friend' told you that guys think you're a slut but if my friend said that to me I would have to reconsider what kind of friend he was to me. Firstly, by what you say, he doesn’t obviously know you that well and secondly even if he did, he doesn’t know all guys.

Every action we took, every decision we made in the past has shaped us to becoming what we are today. Some of those actions, those decisions will have been honorable and worthy but some of them will have been foolish mistakes. No one lives with out making mistakes, I know for a fact that I have made so many that if I dwelt on them I'd be ashamed to be seen in public sometimes. The trick is to learn from our mistakes. Take the hit, realise that we have feicked up and try not to do it again.

I don’t mean to sound patronizing when I say that you are very young, that in all probability, you will make many more mistakes. Accept yourself. Accept that you are human, thankfully, and forget what other people say/think about you. Only you know for sure if you want to continue a way of life or if you want to change. Only you can decide how you want to be. This is a wonderful realisation, a self-empowering realisation. While I’m not suggesting that you forget your past, I am most certainly saying, let it go, dwell on the now, focus on the future. Each of us has the ability to shame ourselves but also the ability to be an inspiration. I truly believe everyone does the best they can in any given circumstance, it’s up to each of us to take the best from that situation and be guided by that.

Jonny Arson

Longfield wrote:

How about you stop "scoring" and actually use your brain?, as this will probably get me banned in PI ..might as well be honest..anyone that claims to have "scored over 100 guys" deserves the title of slapper -imho.

Stop "scoring" and talk to the guys you are mooching..maybe you might actually find something to talk about...

Did you read her post correctly? She said ''scored'' not ''shagged.'' :rolleyes:

What's wrong with a girl having fun? I'd say alot of girls your age have scored around 100 guys. There's nothing wrong with you. The fact is that since you've scored alot of blokes and resisted the tempation of sex makes you out to be an angel more than anything else.

Your friend sounds like he is jealous of you more than anything else.

jcoote

your obviously not shy and have no problem confronting guys and fair play to u...but people are shy and can't do that will automatically dislike u because they can't do as u do...its there issues thats callin u a slapper not yours

LegacyUser

Well I know myself I've really matured in the past few months but it's ur past that haunts you, and when someone doesn't like you for your past it makes you just so upset. You know how small ireland is, everyone knows everyone so these things spread. So by one person saying im a slut is probably implied as ive slept around. Anyone who knows me knows that my virginity is really important, I'd only sleep with someone who I loved/had really strong feelings foa and was in a relationship, but try spreading that around...

OfflerCrocGod

You made a 100 guys happy - there is nothing wrong with that Don't let what your friend is telling you get you down just enjoy yourself.

Lafortezza

He probably gets the impression that you're a slut because the vast majority of time you go out, he sees you scoring some randomer.
Monkey see, Monkey jump to conclusion.

Plus he probably wants a shot himself.

Mark J

Faye wrote:

I don’t know the circumstances under which 'your friend' told you that guys think you're a slut but if my friend said that to me I would have to reconsider what kind of friend he was to me.

Zane from MTV2 wrote:

Did you read her post correctly? She said ''scored'' not ''shagged.'' :rolleyes:

lafortezza wrote:

Plus he probably wants a shot himself.

he is probably infatuated with you secretly and seems to be quite jealous that your scoring (not shagging) with everyone but him.

do you fancy him? would you go out with him? cos he wants you all to himself.
if he`s boyfriend material, ask him out and take it from there but he`s not your friend

Please read & re-read & re-read Fayes quote above

best of luck girl, your only young once. F*ck em all!

eth0_

100 guys over the space of 8 years isn't some sort of out of control number really.

Maybe you *act* like a slapper, being a bit tarty and flirty with every guy you meet?

Or maybe he just fancies you and is jealous!

seamus

Corkgal22 wrote:

I really would like to be with someone but know that past actions of mine have put them off me.

Ultimately, if a reputation even exists, it only goes as far as a handful of people. Most people you meet haven't even formed an opinion of you.

There's a vast difference between a girl who scores regularly, and a slapper. A slapper is more an attitude. I can think of women who would be considered slappers/teases, and yet rarely score anybody. I can also think of women I know who score with your frequency (~once a month) and are just seen as having a good time.

I would agree with other people that he's probably mad about you, and gets angry when he sees you scoring anyone but himself. I have a friend who's similarly infatuated, and calls the girl he's mad about a slapper every time she scores someone. :rolleyes:

Kolodny

Tbh, this does stink of jealousy.

Boy secretly fancies girl mate.
Boy engages playground tactics to diguise the fact that he fancies girl mate (i.e. insulting her, pulling her ponytail and running away etc)
Boy does everything in his power to make girl mate feel bad about pulling other blokes in the hope that she'll eventually want to pull him and it'll look like it was all her idea to begin with.

'Scoring' 100 blokes at your age is hardly a crime.

Kell

Even without the potential that your mate fancies you, quit worrying about this supposed rep you have.

20, never slept with anyone and enjoys an oul snog. Get on with your life and dont worry about your "friend's" retarded opinion. As someone else said, why let his problem become yours.

K-

iregk

Your by no means a slapper girl. Scoring 100 blokes is good going and your obviously a good looking las as there have been quite a lot of guys interested in a snog so be happy about that. Had you said slept with 100 guys then yes thats a different matter all together but you didn't. No harm what so ever in a quick snog in a club.

I think we should also get rid of this double think that we have going on.
Girl shags a few blokes = slapper
Man shags a few girls = legend

But I say fair play to you girl. As long as your enjoying your life and not hurting anyone else in the process then your living the dream.

Pighead

Good time girl? Maybe. Floozy? Perhaps, You certainly sound like an incorrigible flirt. But tart? Slapper? No. Absolutely not.You don't sound like the one some bloke would want for a sordid knee-trembler and a kebab chaser in the drizzle against the back-alley brickwall of a seedy underbelly pub; You like a touch of class; gin, tonic, a slice of apple tart and a ferrero rocher. It sounds to Pighead like this is most definitely a jealousy issue.Ditch that zero friend of yours and get yourself a hero

nobodythere

Do what you want, live how you want, **** everyone else. If you're not harming anyone, it's your business. It's not even like you're a slapper anyway.

100 guys / 8years = 12.5 a year... For someone who goes 'pulling', is that really a slapper number? 12 guys? and if you went out just one night a week for the whole year that's a guy every 4 or 5 times you go out. Considering you don't have sex with them, I wouldn't call you a slapper at all. Ask your friend why you have this reputation.

Man I love maths...

sutty

Kolodny wrote:

Tbh, this does stink of jealousy.

Boy secretly fancies girl mate.
Boy engages playground tactics to diguise the fact that he fancies girl mate (i.e. insulting her, pulling her ponytail and running away etc)
Boy does everything in his power to make girl mate feel bad about pulling other blokes in the hope that she'll eventually want to pull him and it'll look like it was all her idea to begin with.

'Scoring' 100 blokes at your age is hardly a crime.

What she said!

Just sounds like he fanceys you. But is to young/Jelus to deal with it.

PS.. ello Kolodny girlie, long time no see!

Maccattack

100 guys in 8 years??? and youre only 19?!!

Wow. You are probably a good looker and easily attract guys. Your mate is probably jealous coz you never mooched him.

You shouldnt worry about waht people think of you. be strong. Its what you think about yourself that counts.

You're a beautiful young vibrant free thinking woman. Live life to the full. Especially while youth is on your side.

Go girl. You rock!

Maccattack

Yeah, I bet he has said stuff like "all those guys are scum bags, only want you for one thing. Im not like that".

Draupnir

100 is not a high number anyway in fairness, thats not even 20 a year. Given there are 52 weeks in the year, I reckon you've been slacking off missy, you'd better buck up your ideas or people will start thinking you're frigid.

Joking aside, your man wants to be with you himself.

AARRRGH

Maccattack wrote:

Live life to the full. Especially while youth is on your side.

Ja, me agree fully. You really only have a few years where you can do things like this. And you have the rest of your life to be settled and boring.

Just be aware that from 20+ the guys won't really want to be kissing you anymore. They'll just want to **** you...

cmaclo

I know a few girls like yourself that have a rep for being a slapper but theyre not... their problem is they just have no taste!

So many girls in college.. and i dont mean to be stereotypical here, but mostly country girls in college.. would go out and get absolutely hammered and score ANYONE... but when it came to it they were actually prudes and would faint if they seen a willy...

100 is alot.. considering you couldnt have scored alot of guys when u were 14, 15 and u prolly had a boyfriend for some of that time....

Get some taste/standards hun and you wont have a bad rep ;-)

LegacyUser

I'm pretty sure he doesn't fancy me!

Maccattack

Corkgal22 wrote:

I'm pretty sure he doesn't fancy me!

I'm certain he does. Hell I fancy you and I've never even met ya!

chern0byl

cmaclo wrote:

100 is alot..

Not at all. Plenty of my friends will score guys on a weekly basis. Scoring somebody is not considered to be "slappery"...maybe more than 1 a night can be [if your constantly at it].

Fraggle

I reckon most girls your age who are considered attractive and confident can easily tally up 100 snogs in that timeframe.Eight yrs, that makes it in and around 12 snogs a year, one a month. Pretty average I'd say. Forget about numbers. You're far from a slapper you'll be relieved to find out.
Slapperdom is:
If you find yourself regularly shagging guys, not getting their name or making ANY conversation, finding yourself down dark alleyways with absolute strangers, getting with your mates only recent ex-boyfriend or guys that are far too old or far too young... or absolutely mingtastic JUST for the sake of a buzz.

Hmmm.What defines a slapper nowadays?Was just re-reading my above rant. Does anyone agree, disagree?Anything to add?Anybody know a TRUE SLAPPER?

danyosan

Fraggle wrote:

I reckon most girls your age who are considered attractive and confident can easily tally up 100 snogs in that timeframe.Eight yrs, that makes it in and around 12 snogs a year, one a month. Pretty average I'd say. Forget about numbers. You're far from a slapper you'll be relieved to find out.
Slapperdom is:
If you find yourself regularly shagging guys, not getting their name or making ANY conversation, finding yourself down dark alleyways with absolute strangers, getting with your mates only recent ex-boyfriend or guys that are far too old or far too young... or absolutely mingtastic JUST for the sake of a buzz.

Hmmm.What defines a slapper nowadays?Was just re-reading my above rant. Does anyone agree, disagree?Anything to add?Anybody know a TRUE SLAPPER?

I knew a TRUE SLAPPER. She used to live in the same house as me. One night she took 3 different guys down an alleyway behind the pub for a quick f*ck. Didnt use protection for any of them. On another few occasions, guys would turn up at the door pissed, they'd go into her bedroom for twenty mins, a few grunts and groans (she never made a sound) and they'd get dressed and leave. That is a TRUE SLAPPER!!

jonny68

Corkgal22 wrote:

Ok, I was recently talkin to a friend of mine and he said I am considered basically a slut by guys.

I have never slept with anyone, only given one guy (my ex) oral sex, but used to go out and score randomers a lot.
I've scored over 100 guys, thats in the space of 8 years.
I don't do the whole pulling thing anymore but am so upset over this reputation. I really would like to be with someone but know that past actions of mine have put them off me.
what can i do? will i ever shake this off?

1m 19, nearly 20 by the way
thanks 4 your help

Jasusus that's a chronic amount of blokes to be with for someone so young,my ex bird is 30 or so and had a load of previous relationships that sometimes used to get to me but you are off the richter scale here and if you've any respect for yourself as a woman you will seriously cut down on this,im not one bit suprised your seen as a slapper no offence like :eek:

Orion

danyosan wrote:

I knew a TRUE SLAPPER. She used to live in the same house as me. One night she took 3 different guys down an alleyway behind the pub for a quick f*ck. Didnt use protection for any of them. On another few occasions, guys would turn up at the door pissed, they'd go into her bedroom for twenty mins, a few grunts and groans (she never made a sound) and they'd get dressed and leave. That is a TRUE SLAPPER!!

And her phone number is? .......

Seriously ... 100 snogs is nothing. I agree with the previous posters - he wants you himself. And he may be a friend - why else would he tell you that other people think? Maybe he is looking out for you and letting you know. On the other hand - he could just be an asshole and still fancies you.

The important thing is that you are confident in yourself. The fact that you are a virgin at 19 is proof of that. So I wouldn't worry too much about the opinions - if they even exist. Your real friends know that you're not a slapper and they're who matter.

Capt'n Midnight

jonny68 wrote:

Jasusus that's a chronic amount of blokes to be with for someone so young

The OP actually said

I have never slept with anyone,

Reverse the situation, if a bloke went on a date with a different girl every month without winding up in the sack what would people think of him ?

Fraggle

danyosan wrote:

I knew a TRUE SLAPPER. She used to live in the same house as me. One night she took 3 different guys down an alleyway behind the pub for a quick f*ck. Didnt use protection for any of them. On another few occasions, guys would turn up at the door pissed, they'd go into her bedroom for twenty mins, a few grunts and groans (she never made a sound) and they'd get dressed and leave. That is a TRUE SLAPPER!!

What on earth did she get out of that?Was she gone in the head?What kind of person was she other than that?Omigod.Musta been a nympho.I'm intrigued.What kind of IQ level we talkin here.

Blub2k4

danyosan wrote:

I knew a TRUE SLAPPER. She used to live in the same house as me. One night she took 3 different guys down an alleyway behind the pub for a quick f*ck. Didnt use protection for any of them. On another few occasions, guys would turn up at the door pissed, they'd go into her bedroom for twenty mins, a few grunts and groans (she never made a sound) and they'd get dressed and leave. That is a TRUE SLAPPER!!

uggh sloppy seconds and thirds, what a minger, hope she has been tested.

Beruthiel

lets keep it on topic folks
B

lazylad

Corkgal22 wrote:

Ok, I was recently talkin to a friend of mine and he said I am considered basically a slut by guys.

I have never slept with anyone, only given one guy (my ex) oral sex, but used to go out and score randomers a lot.
I've scored over 100 guys, thats in the space of 8 years.
I don't do the whole pulling thing anymore but am so upset over this reputation. I really would like to be with someone but know that past actions of mine have put them off me.
what can i do? will i ever shake this off?

1m 19, nearly 20 by the way
thanks 4 your help

In my opinion you have been used a lot by guys and are just like lidl coke instead of coca cola. in other words cheaper brand!.

I like lidl coke for a quick thirst fix, but coca cola for quality!

you get what you deserve! :cool:
God help the lad that marries ya

Orion

RopeDrink: You dignified that muppet's comment with a response why?

lazylad

acutally rope drink. i find "slappery" men degrading too! I have some self respect and standards! Stop jumping to the sexism part. Obviously Im going to be bias against women I am a man but I judge guys the same! Let he without sin cast first stone! I have never cheated or slappered!

lazylad

Macros42 wrote:

RopeDrink: You dignified that muppet's comment with a response why?

LOL. You met me? Really?? You know me that well so you think Im a muppet by talking to me in person?? Some people do think that some dont. Pity you dont use your time to actually talk to people and judge them offline. :rolleyes:

lazylad

God I dont care tbh. I was trying to make peace there for a second but now since you called me an idiot it shows up what I have though about people all my life! You try and loose.
I dont care about you to be honest. I tried to take back my comment from offending you, and you slapped it in my face. I dont care. You can take it negative or positive depending on how you feel but dont bother me.

Im going to bed now to think dream about people who actuaally matter to me in my life! You aint one so I dont give a sh*t wat u have to say. u wasted your time posting and so did I. nite

chern0byl

lazylad wrote:

In my opinion you have been used a lot by guys and are just like lidl coke instead of coca cola. in other words cheaper brand!.

I like lidl coke for a quick thirst fix, but coca cola for quality!

you get what you deserve! :cool:
God help the lad that marries ya

I wont for a second try to presume what kind of individual you are but your opinion on this girl is wrong[imo].

Numbers for the most part are irrelevant and certainly in this situation[as she has only kissed these guys]. Its the methods as always that will determine whether she is a slut or not. She can only answer that one herself.

1 guy kissed a month? Jesus i have kissed 3 girls a week at stages, and my friends have done the same with guys. This is not slutty behaviour, it is simply having a good time and finding someone hot.

lazylad: loose your social ineptness(or retarded belifes on sexuality), get out there and score away.

Red Alert

it's commendable that you haven't slept with anyone yet. well done! you're obviously a very fun and outgoing individual, it's your mate has the problem, not you.

pretty*monster

The only important thig is how you feel about the 100 blokes you scored. Did you do it because you have no self respect, low self esteme, too drunk to give a damn? Or did you do it cos it was a bit of fun, because you enjoyed it and didn't have a problem with it?

Having a 'bad rep' is not something you need to worry about. And guy who's going to be put off by you past (which btw is hardly a big deal in this day and age, you've never even slept with anyone) before getting to know you is not worth worrying over.

LegacyUser

When I was 16/17 I had really low self esteem, I went out and scored a lot and the next day felt like sh*t. I think that I'd go looking for a boyfriend on a night out, cos I felt really lonely. I met this other guy (my ex) but he cheated on me. I have gone out with guys sinnce, but they know that I used to score a lot when I was younger and that turns them off. People i really like

lazylad

I agree. with all a yiz. now lets do it like they do it on the discovery channel.:D

Shellie13

"Anyone who's kissed over 100 guys deserves to be called a slapper!"

FFS!!!! she hasnt even had sex!!! If she choses to kiss 100 guys in 8 years thats her own business!!! thats less than 13 guys a year and if shes never been serious with somebody thats definately not alot when shes young!!!!
Sounds to me like your a bit out of touch with the world with your 1950's opinions!!!

LegacyUser

Shellie13 wrote:

"Anyone who's kissed over 100 guys deserves to be called a slapper!"

FFS!!!! she hasnt even had sex!!! If she choses to kiss 100 guys in 8 years thats her own business!!! thats less than 13 guys a year and if shes never been serious with somebody thats definately not alot when shes young!!!!
Sounds to me like your a bit out of touch with the world with your 1950's opinions!!!

What you need to do here is diferentiate between two things.

Being a slapper.

Getting called a slapper.

Now the first one is bases on generaly sleeping around to the point where you have a matress in your hand bag.

The second can be based on many thing such as the actuality of being a slapper as pointed out above or acting like a slapper.

People are well within their rights to call her a slapper is she acts like one. Throwing it about the place etc. She does not always have to be "giving" it up.

LegacyUser

I havent done the random scoring thing in ages so I am trying to fix it.

Gazza22

OP you are just having fun. You're only going on 20, very young and your actions are far from what could be deemed being a slapper!

People don't think your a slapper, that 'friend' of yours does. Imo that was very nasty thing to say. Come on your still a virgin, what was your friend playing at insulting you like that?

Go forth have fun! Pull as many guys as you like and don't worry about what anybody else has to say.

KnowItAll

Corkgal22 wrote:

Ok, I was recently talkin to a friend of mine and he said I am considered basically a slut by guys.

but used to go out and score randomers a lot.
I've scored over 100 guys,

And your wondering why your called a slapper!

Gazza22

KnowItAll wrote:

And your wondering why your called a slapper!

Yes that's over a space of 8 years!!! She hasn't had sex with any of them and once gave oral sex. Now where is the logic in calling her a slapper? She certainly isn't, sh's only going on 20 ffs :rolleyes: