Broken heart/Bad night

HelpConfused

Celebrated my junior results last night and went to a house party.
Was all good for a while....
*background info*
I have been chasing this girl for months and 2 days before I picked up the courage to tell her my feelings I find out she got with someone. I felt sh!t then but wasnt that bad because I could still txt her and knew she liked me.
I invited her to this party(not actually exoecting her to go). On Monday she txted me to call her. Then I find out she is going the party.
In true me fashion I got my hopes up and felt great from Monday to Wednesday. I though I was actually in with a chance to 'get' her(btw I was with her at this same house a few months ago) again.
*end*

Anyway she got to the party and was a bit distant for a bit(btw I have told her with a lot of detail how much I like her). We eventually got talking and I was in heaven. I thought I was home free. We were in a 3 way conversation and she discreetly begins rubbing my knee and holding my hand(I was sitting beside her). I joined them on a walk around the block(smoke break) which included more contact.
But alas in true me life fashion it all ended there and then. I barely talked to her after that and began to get really depressed(before you say it i kno the drink contributed to it). I really like this girl and just cant have her.
Later in the night I was up in a room wallowing in self pity and depression. She finds me and decides to ask what is wrong with me. After some hesitation I said "Its you".
"Do you like me" she says.
"Of course I do"
She then begins to go into a story about it being me or, lets call him bob, but because bob lives much closer so it was him she chose. But "I was still in her head"(bs i thi nk). She then says "I am a bi*ch amn't I?" pauses for a bit and says "well look I have to go my sister wants to go, you should come downstairs"
I said "no Im alri see you again sometime"

I then went on to spend my Junior night crying on a bed being visited by inquisitive relatives and friends.
Now I am depressed and heartbroken. Reason being the above and the fact that I just cant have her, even though she like me too. I really really like this girl, infact I might even love her.
Also there is no one, literally, who I am interested in to fill that gap left. Either in relationship or 'other'*(other being not interested).
It seems to be the norm in my life that good things rarely ever happen for me.
Not to be arrogant and big headed but to summise my position would be "many girls want but never have" or vice versa.

Now that you know how wonderful my junior night was I ask you should I continue to fight for her or not?
I was thinking of giving her a letter of my exact feelings for her.
What should I do?

Rantorama

HelpConfused wrote:

) I was thinking of giving her a letter of my exact feelings for her.
What should I do?

TBH I would just play it cool for a while,you mentioned in the post that you had already told her in detail how much you liked her.

Teenage girls can be v. fickle(I know I was)don't count on her being with this boy for more than a few weeks/months.
Stay friends with her,you haven't blow your chance with her by any means.If its meant to happen it will.

AARRRGH

Hmmmm. She was acting as if she is mad into you and then tells you she is into someone else - sounds like a prick teaser.

I know you don't feel this now, but there are MILLIONS of other women out there who are perfect for you. Really, it amazes me how often I get talking to seriously cool, quirky girls. So don't worry - you really will meet someone better. You just gotta be patient...

And as someone who has been heart broken more than once - just keep yourself busy and remember: time really does heal all wounds.

katiegordon

Sorry ya had such a **** JC night!
This girl sounds like shes just leading ya on(holding hands etc.) or maybe shes just genuinely confused about who she wants.Either way dont be so available to her, a girl always wants what she thinks she cant have.So playing hard to get for a while wouldnt be a bad thing.
Also you say only shes been occupying your thoughts for 2 months, just try and meet some other girls ya never know there might be someone else out there for ya.During the summer i was meeting this guy who said he really liked me but then stopped meetin me cuz "we lived too far away".I thought id never get over him and only thought about him and no1 else for weeks.But then i started just "gettin out there" and meeting other guys and while i havnt found the love of my life, i havnt thought of him in weeks!!
Hope this helps, good luck whatever you do........!!!

Squirrel

You'll be fine, I was in pretty much the same situation after my results last year, though no alcohol. When I was told that she was interested in someone else - different reasons, I was too "quirky" for anything to happen properly - I realised that she wasn't worth it. I have just been myself since, not paying attention to most remarks about me, and alot of girls like me now - why I do not know.

My point is pretty much to forget about her, she isn't worth it and be yourself and you'll be beating them off with a stick, because tbh you probably seemed a bit desperate last night and that might have been off-putting for her, I don't know

As the saying goes "there's plenty more fish in the sea", seems to apply here

Le Rack

was in a kinda similar situation myself, but I liked him so much that I said, if I can be friend with the guy good enough, he won't be with her for ever. We did become best friends and he wasn't with her for ever and when they broke up we got together. Admittidley (sp) he dumped me and got back with his ex, but thats not the point, try be friends with her, if that doesn't work just really distance yourself and you'll get over her.

katiegordon

Just looking at these replies should show ya ur not alone.Nearly everyone who posted has been in a similar situation, and we all got over it!so just have fun!!!

AARRRGH

katiegordon wrote:

Just looking at these replies should show ya ur not alone.Nearly everyone who posted has been in a similar situation, and we all got over it!so just have fun!!!

Yup! We all get over it.

And you know what? In a years time you'll be looking back and thinking, "Why the hell was I so mad into her?"

At the moment you've elevated her to angel status. It's not the way she really is...

crazymike

Stay friends with her and be patient. Good things come to those who wait....

At the same time however don't put your life ''on hold'' for her. I'm sure that you'll find happiness with either her or someone else sooner or later.

Take it easy!

RoadSweeper

you shouldnt be drinking at a young age, you cant handle it. You wouldn't have cried if you were sober (probably).

HelpConfused

Gread advice..really helpful. Thanks to all of you

RoadSweeper wrote:

you shouldnt be drinking at a young age, you cant handle it. You wouldn't have cried if you were sober (probably).

I wouldnt go that far no. I have quite a high tolerance. But off course the alcohol contributed. Doesn't it always?

Thanks again. I txted her and settled all. Said I was sorry about last night. Let her kno that I like her(just leaving it open), but she chose the other guy so good luck to you and him and Ill just have to move on.

RoadSweeper

Very mature responce to dealing with last night, however the worst think to have when young is a high tolerance. I know from experience. I dont drink now due to a very bad experience. I will never drink again, and im 18.

katiegordon

Fair playto ya.Best thing now is just to move on!!!

Irishpimpdude

Yeah get over her... your stronger then that! and you know it, there is no need for u to get tied down at such a young age. Go enjoy yourself and meet a few girls!!! if she chose the other guy because he lives closer try telling her u will make the effort to travel to her whenever she needs you? and if your not prepaired to do that then maybe its not love after all...

Just my view on things,

Darrell

TerrorFirmer

Of course we've all been there. I've yearned for a certain girl for literally years, things just ALMOST came to a head, then faded away, and I was like....depressed I suppose. Much like your situation, actually, very little difference.

But then as hard as it seems, someone else comes along, and believe me theres a time when you can say, I can't believe I was so obsessed by that person.

deisedevil

MobileInfantry wrote:

Of course we've all been there. I've yearned for a certain girl for literally years, things just ALMOST came to a head, then faded away, and I was like....depressed I suppose. Much like your situation, actually, very little difference.

But then as hard as it seems, someone else comes along, and believe me theres a time when you can say, I can't believe I was so obsessed by that person.

Ya i gotta agree with ya there, had the same experiences soooo many times. It's a bitch being young and meeting girls an all that sometimes and all the crap that goes with it. not much good to you now but when ya get to my age you'll look back and think it was all a bit of a laugh and you'll have a laugh with your friends bout it. Fair F**** to ya on the way you dealt with it,very mature. as far as drinking at your age goes(seen someone else giving out to ya) tis no big deal,most of the country have gone through the same,just be careful. ya seem mature enough ta handle it imo.