Bordom in the bedroom...

Barbie_666

my boyfriend says he's bord.we'v tried most things, was wondering if anyone had any ideas on how to spice things up, positions, toys etc.
only thing im against is threesomes.

dudemano

have you tried watching "nature videos" together

Beruthiel

this should be in the S&S forum

Talliesin

Well, the OP might get ideas there.

"most things" covers a hell of a lot!

Sometimes when someone complains about being bored sexually there's something that they particularly want to do but are afraid to suggest. It could be worth asking about that if you really think you wouldn't be shocked by anything he might say.

Beruthiel

agree with Tall

especially if this is true:
Birthday:
March 23, 1987
if that is your true birth date barbie, then you are only 18 years of age, how anyone can be bored of sex at such a young age is beyond me

bellend

just be filthy with him.. watch a porno and get some tips about how to give a good Bj..

then try maybe anal to enhance it for him and get urseldf a dildo aswell... your young enough though... he shouldnt be bored

Jesper

Yikes 18 and bored---tried most things. No comment.
But if your bored in the bedroom, leave it. Move around the house, outside the house etc. Go decent places like in the country etc not toilet in Supermac's. This would all be fun starting of but gets to be hassle after a while and I promise you'll actually want to go back to the bedroom soon enough.

Talliesin

Beruthiel wrote:

if that is your true birth date barbie, then you are only 18 years of age

And can't possibly have tried "most things" and still have time for anything else.

Not that you should try "most things". I doubt there's many who would like most things in, say, Nancy Friday's books and that's still all relatively vanilla compared to some of what falls under "most things".

Mist

Beruthiel wrote:

if that is your true birth date barbie, then you are only 18 years of age, how anyone can be bored of sex at such a young age is beyond me

She says her boyfriend is bored, not her.

Make it spur of the moment like in public places. It worked for Homer and Marge ;-)

AARRRGH

I think boredom in the bedroom is a mental thing, rather than something a new position can solve.

Can something like this really ever be solved?

...

I mean, you can have sex in public/whatever, and sure, maybe your boyfriend will find it exciting, but the underlying problem is still there.

Mist

Maybe they've just had an awful lot of sex.

Like everything, after a while it gets boring.

Kell

Barbie_666 wrote:

my boyfriend says he's bord.we'v tried most things, was wondering if anyone had any ideas on how to spice things up, positions, toys etc.

Are you sure thats the only thing he is bored with?

Lack of physicality is normally a reflection of some other issue on a mental level otherwise you'd never get bored of sex. Its just too damn good.

K-

Raiser

Get someone with a sex drive and some imagination and preferably without the lobotomy.

- He should be banging you like a barn door not reading Pride and Prejudice and saying "ahm a bored Bar-bie".....

Jesper

Yeah its just not right being that young and getting bored! If you have tried "most things" and he is bored he's got some problem. If you noticed that since ye've been together he keeps pushing the boundried further and further dump him. It will defo go to far get akward and someone will be hurt.
And out of curiousity did you not feel seriously pissed of when the person you're having sex with called it boring? I can tell ya if some chick said it to me I'd be pissed right of.

dramaqueen

Experimenting in the bedroom is great as long as you are doing it for the right reasons. If you don't address the issue as to why he is really bored you could find yourself constantly searching for that something that will keep him interested. Where does it stop?
What if he gets bored with toys, and then with the next thing and the next thing? Where do you draw the line?
Spicing things up is great as long as it's just adding spice, once it becomes searching for something, you need to really look at yourself and see what you are prepared to do, and how far you are prepared to go to keep him happy.
In all this have you asked yourself if you are bored?

Airblazer

does he smoke? is so is he a heavy smoker??
could be that after a while he gets the craving for a cig and comes up with that excuse..
also by most things what do u mean?
oral? anal?
also try to be have a bit more spontaniety..try quickies in the kitchen before dinner..between progs on tv etc..spice it up..

AARRRGH

Yes, it could be due to external factors (stress, etc.)

xzanti

IF my Bf told me he was bored with me in the bedroom id box the head of em! :eek:

Talliesin

xzanti wrote:

IF my Bf told me he was bored with me in the bedroom id box the head of em! :eek:

Since they've "tried most things" presumably she's already done that.

Endurance Man

Tried everything :eek: and your 18, what age did you start your quest.

StupidLikeAFox

http://www.the-clitoris.com/n_html/n_massage.htm
http://www.sexuality.org/l/sex/manstim.html
http://tantramag.com/
http://www.stripper-faq.org/intro.htm
http://www.howtohavegoodsex.com/sex.htm

Get reading girl!

Endurance Man

Ahhh, that^^ makes life easy .

kittenkiller

Ask him to write down on pieces of paper what he would find interesting.
Go through & i'm sure you'll find something that you hadn't considered.
He's the one who's bored, so it's his problem.
But i'd say he's got something in mind that he hasn't had the courage to mention thus far.
If it's something you're not comfortable with (like the 3some) then tell him straight out that it's off the cards!
By getting him to write out a few different things you'll be letting him tell you what it is that he's really interested in without drawing huge attention to it or making him feel like you're gonna turn around & call him a deviant.

Perhaps having tried out just about everything else with him, your guy thinks he can get away with anything & is trying to push the boundaries?
But as i said earlier, this is HIS problem &, as long as you're happy with it yourself, it's not your problem.
Let him come up with a few solutions!

Or just put on you're own lil show for him while he's tied up in a chair & when you're finished, untie him & roll over & fall asleep or get dressed & leave!
Show him that you don't need him to have a good time!
You can tell him that you thought his abstenance would spark his interest in sex with you again!

But in truth he sounds like a insensitive pr!ck who's out for all he can get from you.

dudara

I think that his statement is covering up problems that he might be having with regards to your relationship. You dont' get bored of sex that easily, so the fact that he can say this would make me think that he might be losing interest in your relationship. Either you need to nip this in the bud and get your relationship back on track, or you need to end it.

newgrange

Get him to 'do' things without once using his penis.
If he agrees, and 'does', then you know he is serious about your relationship, and is genuinely trying to use his imagination to deal with his 'boredom'....if he doesn't, get rid of him.

Bored with sex..is that like 'leftover wine'?

maybelline

you're 18... how old is your bf? Tried everything... well I guess you can't have tried everything... you're still that young ;-)

Talk to him, ask him, what he's dreaming about. Do you speak about your phantasies? Just try "something" - if you don't like it: ok. But maybe you'll find something new.

I love to tease a man... handcuff him... stimulate him... and he's not allowed to come... I stop just before the point of no return... makes him really wild... let him beg...

Damn, now I regret being a single :rolleyes: There's so much you can try and do... you (he) shouldn't get bored of sex Talk about it

Civilian_Target

maybelline wrote:

I love to tease a man... handcuff him... stimulate him... and he's not allowed to come... I stop just before the point of no return... makes him really wild... let him beg...

Damn, now I regret being a single :rolleyes: There's so much you can try and do... you (he) shouldn't get bored of sex Talk about it

I second that.
(Now hang on while I try to stop drooling)

tonyinuae

dudara wrote:

I think that his statement is covering up problems that he might be having with regards to your relationship. You dont' get bored of sex that easily, so the fact that he can say this would make me think that he might be losing interest in your relationship. Either you need to nip this in the bud and get your relationship back on track, or you need to end it.

I second that - in any good relationship I ever had, the sex just got better and better. One thing that can make it pall however, is doing it too often - and how much is too often depends on you, really. That's why a bit of separation is often a good thing - you are so hungry for each other when you DO meet.

Barbie_666

3-4 times a day...when we do see each other.mabey once, twice per week.sein him loads latley thouh.bought handcuffs, he aint into that though...

Civilian_Target

Barbie_666 wrote:

bought handcuffs, he aint into that though...

Bored - but not willing to try new things?
Bit of a contradiction that one...

tonyinuae

Barbie_666 wrote:

3-4 times a day...when we do see each other.mabey once, twice per week.sein him loads latley thouh.bought handcuffs, he aint into that though...

So YOU bought the handcuffs - and he wasn't into it... Hmmm! Could it be that you're the one doing all the running here? If you don't care about that (and a situation like that is bad if you're really into the guy more than he is into you) I suggest you cut your visits down to once a week max, and don't do it more than twice on a visit. Make him a bit hungry, you know? Don't let him take you for granted.

bellend

maybe hes gay.. if hes a one minute man than 3-4 times aday is fine but it gets sore after that for me anyway...

if hes not satisfyed with that much sex well maybe hes just not interested in ur seuxaly.. i mean do u know anything about his ex birds?

Jesper

Barbie, besides all thats been going on and said here can ya tell me romance aside is everything else in the relationship going ok? Doesn't sound to be. At 18 you prob won't end up with this guy anyway. With all good intentions most relationships at that age don't succeed. Best of luck to you though because you seem to care about what happens and thats all that can be asked for.

Sifo

Hey Barbie_666

There has got to be something else going on in the relationship!! What? You'll have to find that out yourself!!

I hate stereotyping but any man who says he's bored with sex has another agenda!!!

Tiffany

bellend wrote:

maybe hes gay...

Moronic comment. That's always the answer whenever a guy has a sexual issue.

The Corinthian

kittenkiller wrote:

He's the one who's bored, so it's his problem.

Another woman with a healthy attitude twoards sex in relationships :rolleyes:

Nevyn

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Ye are warned the lot of ye.

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kittenkiller

The Corinthian wrote:

Another woman with a healthy attitude twoards sex in relationships :rolleyes:

Indeed!
She's enjoying her sex life yet she's the one who felt she should post here.
If i go out on a night out with friends & don't enjoy myself, it's not up to them to remedy the situation!

It's up to the OP's boyfriend to figure out what's wrong.
She's tried. Let him do a bit of work on it now!

bellend

Tiffany wrote:

Moronic comment. That's always the answer whenever a guy has a sexual issue.

well you never know he could be.. whats his problem if hes doing it 3-4times aday... maybe he feels he has to have sex this much to prove a point to himself.. well ur still young so trust me sex will get better when u get alittle older.

The Corinthian

kittenkiller wrote:

It's up to the OP's boyfriend to figure out what's wrong.
She's tried. Let him do a bit of work on it now!

With the deepest respects, that’s horseshit.

So, by your logic, if he was just not doing it for her in bed, then it’s her problem to solve? If you’re crap in the sack it’s the other person’s fault

Seriously however, while the principle onus should be on him to express what he wants or is looking for to her, but sex (as with all other aspects of a relationship) is a two-way thing. So she can abdicate all responsibility if she likes, but then she really should not be too surprised then if that abdication also results in her losing any control of the situation that she may have had as he begins to look elsewhere.

kittenkiller

But he doesn't seem to be doing anything about rectifying the problem at all.
He seems to be acting like he's her boss or manager rather than her boyfriend.
If they were both on here asking for advice & tips i'd say congrats & well done on facing the issue together in a mature & responsible way.
But they're not.

He just comes out with 'I'm bored, do something about it woman' & she's meant to jump to it!?
If you've got something that's an issue for you sexually, it's best to tell your partner & try to find a solution together, but it's completely lazy & unfair to tell them & then expect them to do all the work to rectify it.

Neuro

Kell wrote:

...you'd never get bored of sex. Its just too damn good.

K-

Hahaha... Wait until your married for ten years and then see if the above statement is true.

To the OP, if your boyfriend is bored, get him a Playstation 2. Now that something with which he'll never get bored.

Jesper

Barbie.
If I may sumarise it as I see it.
HE has got a problem with sex, he's bored. Something is wrong.
He is having sex with an open minded 18yr old and still complains. Something is very wrong!
He is soooo luck to have someone who will "try most things" and yet he still says he's bored!! Unbelieveable!!! There is an outside issue involved here or he has some sexual desire for something that most people would call depraved/sick.
If he did actully say the words "I'm bored" he is unconsiderate, selfish and a wan**r. I'm a couple of years older and would still HATE anyone to say that to me.
That you are considerate enough to be worried about this issue and post this thread kinda shows me you might be trying to impress him or genuilly worried about it. Admirable but some people the more you give the more they try and take (Do u seem to be the one always giving?)
With no offence to you but you seem to be the one doing the running here. Getting the handcuff's was a great idea weather he liked it or not. don't worry about his response I'm sure everyone reading this, male or female would agree.
If most other things in your relationship are going well give it some time but keep a lookout for yourself. If you notice its all about the sex and there isn't a true bond you should think about breaking up. Hope this helps.

Chucky the tree

bascially the lad is tired of you, hes not only bored with sex but you in general.


hes just given you a warning. Expect him to dump you in a few weeks time. He doesnt want to do it out of the blue so hes dropped you a big hint by saying sex and is hoping that you wont be too shocked when he does call it off.


Best of luck.

Vangelis

kittenkiller wrote:

He just comes out with 'I'm bored, do something about it woman' & she's meant to jump to it!?
If you've got something that's an issue for you sexually, it's best to tell your partner & try to find a solution together, but it's completely lazy & unfair to tell them & then expect them to do all the work to rectify it.

Aye, right. The thing is though that some people are simply and unchangeably stupid. And there's nothin' to do 'bout it. Stupidity doesn't change.

Best of luck to the OP!

MojoMaker

Chucky the tree wrote:

bascially the lad is tired of you, hes not only bored with sex but you in general.


hes just given you a warning. Expect him to dump you in a few weeks time. He doesnt want to do it out of the blue so hes dropped you a big hint by saying sex and is hoping that you wont be too shocked when he does call it off.


Best of luck.

Sorry Barbie....but Bingo! Really sorry. It's his way of dealing with an impending breakup.

Farls

I agree with the above...its not really the sex he's bored with, its you.

By the sounds of things, and i'm not trying to insult you, your not really a challenge for him anymore...your giving it up too easy. Probably a sex ban for a few weeks would be better than some new tricks.

Sleepy

Like a few of the others have said here already, either:

a) he's bored of the relationship and is trying to extricate himself from it.

or

b) he's into something particularly unusual (or that he's afraid you'll think is particularly unusual) and is afraid to ask you about it in an upfront manner...

Sifo

Barbie_666 wrote:

my boyfriend says he's bord.we'v tried most things, was wondering if anyone had any ideas on how to spice things up, positions, toys etc.
only thing im against is threesomes.

Ok just throwing this out there, candlewax & ice-cubes, blindfolds, oranges(cut into fours preferably, and squeeze down front and back, slowly lick off, works well with blindfold), spanking!!

Kell

Neuro wrote:

Wait until your married for ten years and then see if the above statement is true.

Neuro wrote:

To the OP, if your boyfriend is bored, get him a Playstation 2. Now that something with which he'll never get bored.

Is this perhaps why your wife is bored with you?

K-