so what the hell is love, has hollywood corrupted our perspective?

bacon?

i've always had a problem with love...... as in, was i in love with my last gf, am i in love with this one? i tend to over analyse 5hit.

i'm thinking maybe hollywood movies etc have corrupted our perspective and given us an unreal definition of love.

this video for instance, as anoying as they are, is this how you're supposed to carry on if you're in love? http://www.popzoot.de/streamframe.php3?id=204

i'm glad that my gf's in my life, she's a real catch. i enjoy her company, we have a good sex life, we have a laugh etc... but i'm not thinking of her all day, missing her etc, should i be? but if you were to ask me, "are you gonna marry this girl" ... i can honestly say, no idea, at the mo, i've no intention, like most dudes i fear commitment i guess.

i am a different man than i was, say, 5 years ago, so who knows....

gf told me she loved me, and although i didnt say it back, i have to say, i dindn't freak either.

guess i can be prety closed emotionally.

so what think ye of boards, is love supposed to be like it is in the movies?

am i missing somthing?

impr0v

I bet they're like totally broken up by now.

monkeyfudge

Of course it's like in the movies...

Every relationship I've ever been has had a part where it looks like she was going to marry someone else, but chooses me at the last minute.

bacon?

monkeyfudge wrote:

but chooses me at the last minute.

i bet you we're just about to board a flight too

monkeyfudge

Oh and an evil wizard has also turned her into a mannequin.

Karl Hungus

Love is totally skewed by hollywood.

An entry in an old dictionary I have in my library describes love as:

1. A small burrowing animal native to southern Yemen.
2. A sense of numbing inevitability.
3. A zero score in tennis.

Totally destroyed by hollywood. Who's heard of the Love from southern Yemen these days? Totally disenfanchised! Although the numbing inevitability can still be spot on in modern times.

case_sensitive

LOL @ bacon

I've been out with a fair few girls, but only been in love once, and sickeningly, it was just like in the movies...
Long distance, all night phone calls, even the manner of our getting together looked grossly scripted. We were pretty rapt, no need to go into details, but the chemistry and companionship were the stuff of airport pulp novels.
The break up, now that was some good stuff, you could have sold tickets to that 5hit.

Yeah, if you don't feel madly in love, you probably aren't :-/

bacon?

how come you broke up? i mean if you were madly in love and all.

was it the distance thing?

case_sensitive wrote:

LOL @ bacon

I've been out with a fair few girls, but only been in love once, and sickeningly, it was just like in the movies...
Long distance, all night phone calls, even the manner of our getting together looked grossly scripted. We were pretty rapt, no need to go into details, but the chemistry and companionship were the stuff of airport pulp novels.
The break up, now that was some good stuff, you could have sold tickets to that 5hit.

Yeah, if you don't feel madly in love, you probably aren't :-/

shellby

you just know when your in love

case_sensitive

Good question.. Distance didn't help certainly, but we'd have gotten over that, it was more her insane jealousy. I mean in a way that's not healthy, 30 - 50 texts a day, about 1 in 3 of which were wondering who I was talking to, were there girls at work I fancied etc. Same thing for at least an hour a night. Eventually she lost the plot and threw a mental fit on me in her parent's house, off the scale 5hit.
Anyway, that was a good while ago, and maybe the relationship's intensity pointed inevitably to a firey end, but it's been my benchmark for relationships since.

Back to OP, it was true love, in the storybook sense, but in my experience, things rarely end 'happily ever after'..

Sleepy

Yeah, I've been in love a few times. Each time tends to be different though, sometimes it's just like in the movies where you want to scream it from the rooftops whereas other times it's a far more simple, comfortable love. I dunno, it's an undefinable thing really...

bacon?

think i'm more in the comfortable catergory.

Sleepy wrote:

Yeah, I've been in love a few times. Each time tends to be different though, sometimes it's just like in the movies where you want to scream it from the rooftops whereas other times it's a far more simple, comfortable love. I dunno, it's an undefinable thing really...

bacon?

case_sensitive wrote:

Good question.. Distance didn't help certainly, but we'd have gotten over that, it was more her insane jealousy. I mean in a way that's not healthy, 30 - 50 texts a day, about 1 in 3 of which were wondering who I was talking to, were there girls at work I fancied etc. Same thing for at least an hour a night. Eventually she lost the plot and threw a mental fit on me in her parent's house, off the scale 5hit.
Anyway, that was a good while ago, and maybe the relationship's intensity pointed inevitably to a firey end, but it's been my benchmark for relationships since.

Back to OP, it was true love, in the storybook sense, but in my experience, things rarely end 'happily ever after'..

that'll do it. liven and learnin, eh