Have I messed up before it all started??

Japonica

Well, the story goes like this. I met a guy through some friends last year when we were all out one night. He was quite drunk but good fun and he made moves on me. I thought he was good fun but did not want to pursue it as I knew he would be too drunk to rememember it the next day, so I didn't give him my number.

Now, I bumped into him last weekend again and we both were quite sober and had the most interesting chats for about 2 hours and found out that we had lots in common. At the end of the night, he asked for my number and for some weird reason I wasn't forth coming with it but did give it to him after a minute. We both live in different cities but he said that he would be up in Dublin this weekend and we could meet up on Friday night. Unfortunately at the time I had a family occasion that I couldn't get out of so wasn't very postive about meeting up. I did explain this to him.

I had not discussed my feelings with him that I liked him as I thought it was obvious since we chatted for about two hours and we had so much in common and also I didn't want to be too forward. Afterwards, he was chatting to my friend and said that he was so disappointed with himself that he was drunk the furst time we met and would love to meet up with me but didn't know whether I was interested or not. My friend didn't know how I felt so didn't give an opinion either way.

Now, my problem is that I am now free this weekend and would love to meet up with him. He hasn't rang me yet, so I am guessing that I have put him off. I don't have his number but my friend is very good friends with his sister so I could get it this way. Do you think it would be too forward of me to text him and say that I really enjoyed meeting him again last weekend....
I just feel today that you have only one life and guys like him don't come along too often. Everyone says he's a really decent guy.

PS - I'm 28 and he is 31.

What do you think?????

aidan_walsh

Hell no, it wouldn't be too forward. If you want to meet him, ask him if he's free and would like to. If he doesn't want to, well thats that. But you don't know unless you try, do you?

c - 13

Go for it - you have nothing to lose.

Beruthiel

ring him up, tell him your weekend has just become free

he who dares, wins!

cocopops

I reckon it's worth a shot if fate has got you bumping into each other again. Tis better to regret the things you did than the things you didn't and besides, i've a good feeling about this one. He obviously is interested, he just thinks you aren't, so set him straight. You'll make his day so.....Text him!!!!

jellie

just ring him. you'll probably regret it if you dont, i know i would

LegacyUser

sounds like your hard to get ploy has backfired.

you're right, decent people dont come along that often, well done!

Santa Claus

Not meaning to sound harsh, but you're 28 not 16. If you want to meet him don't be afraid to get his number and tell him !

Eoin

paperclip wrote:

sounds like your hard to get ploy has backfired.

Agreed, you didn't give him your number the first time, arsed around the 2nd time he asked for it and then told him you weren't free when he wanted to meet up. It is definitely your turn to make an effort.

<edit>Damn it, was hoping for a more cheerful 1000th post...</edit>

quad_red

I'd think you weren't interested. He went out on a limb being persistent about getting your number. HE told your friend that he liked you. HE tried to arrange something this weekend.

If you want something to happen they YOU'VE got to do something dear! Belatedly musing on it won't solve anything. Get the guys number. You've nothing to lose. And don't be put off if he is initially cautious. He has every right to be! You've been Miss Yo Yo.

But never fear. Us men are a forgiving bunch.

annR

go for it

*marie*

Do it, and let us know what happens...

Dave

I didn't realise this stuff still happens into your 30s, go for it, what's the worst that could happen?

Selik

Beruthiel wrote:

he who dares, wins!

In this case it's she who dares wins!!!

Santa Claus

Unspoken rule of PI : Beruthiel is always right !

Femelade

Santa Claus wrote:

Unspoken rule of PI : Beruthiel is always right !

damn right!

ring the man
nothing to lose
do it now and get back to us!!!!

go on.....

Setun

Any updates? I'm kinda curious...

yermandan

i agree with EVERYONE here.If i was him i would be slightly peeved that all of my efforts came to nothing.However,if you then rang or text me saying that you wanted to go out,it would feel like winning the flipping lottery!!!!

DO IT NOW

Dan :cool:

Japonica

Hey guys!!

Thanks for all the replies. Well, the update is that I got his number from his sister and texted him to say that I really enjoyed meeting him and that I would now be in Dublin for the weekend if he fancied meeting up. He replied very quickly to say that he was out of the country for a few days and would be in Dublin for the weekend but was going to be busy. Anyway, didn't I bump into him by accident on Sunday in a pub. What a small world. We immediately got on really well again and arranged to meet up later that evening. We had a great night and I am now meeting him for a date on Friday. He's such a nice guy, and he keeps a smile on my face whenever we meet.

So, guys thanks again for all the sound advice. You all were correct. You only have one life, so live it to the full!!

Cheers

Beruthiel

I love it when a plan comes together

Mr. CooL ICE

Whehey! Well done. But someone in hollywood ought to make about 50 J-Lo movies out of that one story