loves ya!

LegacyUser

okay a friend recommended this place to me but here goes!

A guy I met months ago on the internet, and when I say met I mean started talking to, just told me he loves me. Whether he means it in a playful way or not, so I'm a bit struck by it.

I talk to him a lot, we text chat the whole lot, and are metting up sometime soon I think, I know its stupid of me, to do all this but for some reason I trust him, which is really stupid since when you think about it I really know very little about him, we share the same interests and get on really well, but who's not to say he's lying.

I'm starting to quite like him, but we live at least four hours drive apart, so even if we did end up liking eachother a relationship would prove difficult.

Anyone any experience with this whole internet meeting thing, and why say he loves me when he barely knows me?

LegacyUser

he is saying it because he wants to ride you to be honest.

anything he says before he meets you is utter c*ck.

Oeneus

A few important points. How old are you? Because he could be a pedophile or something like that. Have you seen a photo? If so, have you got proof that it's genuine?

If you really have to meet him, take someone with you. And have a little spy on him at the meeting place before greeting. Dangerous business this!

azezil

I had a similar experience recently, guy from the UK I've been talking to for some time told me he has 'strong feelings' for me. We've never met, he only said it cause i was going on about my current bf and how great our relationship is... he brought it up cause we'd intended to meet up soon. My initial reaction was shock, i'd no idea he felt that way, but it doesn't bother me, and if i were single when we met, and we really hit it off, i would give it a go, despite the distance.

Nothing ventured nothing gained.

Ry

4 hours drive is nothing so don't let that worry ya. I've a four hour flight and 2 hours of multiple trains to get to mine and I don't let that stop me

Ry

LegacyUser

I'm just 18 and he claims to be 17, 18 next year or something, I don't know much about him at all, which is why I am taking everything he says, lightly, and not allowing myself to fully believe him, when we do meet there's gonna be a whole group of my friends, cuz we just happen to have planned to go there months ago and then thought if I were to meet him that it would be a good time cuz I would be at least with a group of my friends.

He seems really genuine, and I know thats the sort of vibe that paedophiles try give off but, he just seems really nice and trustworthy.

And at least if I do meet him with friends I can say, whatever, whether it goes well or not, if that makes anysense to anyone!

Le Rack

Yeah but long distance can make things very awkward, as I've said in here loads of times. But when meeting him at least make sure its in a really public place and try have friends there too.

Ry

Yep Friend is necessity because it'll suck bottom if you don't have backup.

Ry

Skip

I've met several people through the internet, got attached to someone strongly too, never thought of them as potential pedophiles or other criminals In fact, it never occurred to me I shouldn't trust them. I'd say he might even mean this love thing, it's not unique in any way to develop a strong attachment and keep his flame burning, if you spend your time chatting with him.

Besprechen

just curious.. what kind of site are you meeting these people are?

ps Watch your drinks when you meet this person, he knows youre away from home and vulnerable

Mr.Nice Guy

I'm a guest! wrote:

A guy I met months ago on the internet, and when I say met I mean started talking to, just told me he loves me. Whether he means it in a playful way or not, so I'm a bit struck by it.

He loves you? Bull. Surely a big part in loving someone is accepting who they are, the good points and the bad points? This guy doesn't know you though and you don't know him either. You only know what you both want each other to know. Such is the nature of the internet.

I'm a guest! wrote:

I talk to him a lot, we text chat the whole lot, and are metting up sometime soon I think, I know its stupid of me, to do all this but for some reason I trust him, which is really stupid since when you think about it I really know very little about him, we share the same interests and get on really well, but who's not to say he's lying

Exactly. You only know what he wants you to know. You don't even know if you really DO have the same interests and that he's not stringing you along because he wants something else. If you want to meet up, make sure you do so in a very public place and it might not be a bad idea to bring someone along with you like a friend.

I'm a Guest! wrote:

Anyone any experience with this whole internet meeting thing, and why say he loves me when he barely knows me?

Personally I would be very wary of someone who claims to be in love with somebody that he's never seen nor spoken to in person. The guy could have serious emotional issues. My advice would be to proceed with extreme caution. There are nutcases out there and your safety is the most important thing.

If I were you I would think twice about spending some time alone with somebody you've never met yet who has clearly developed a strong emotional attachment towards you.

Don't leave yourself in a vulnerable position.

bp

i did the whole internet thang about 6years ago when i was 16/17. myself and my friend thought it would be fun etc (we were stupid!) anyways agreed to meet them but one of my male friends said he was coming too, to make sure we were ok.....turns out they couldnt turn up.....long story started getting texts about what a b*tch i was etc, then got a phone call at about 3.30 am saying "I am going to come over to the north side and pull you out of bed by the hair and r*pe you, and then your mother" anyways texted his friend whose number i also had and said if i ever heard from them again i was going to the police with the txts and the voice mail....i never heard from them again!

moral of the story, he may be the nicest guy in the world, but then again you have never met the guy, you dont even know what he looks like! listen to all the advice been give - DO NOT meet him alone this time....if you hit it off then maybe arrange to meet again but be careful! what happened to me most likely wont happen to you but be careful all the same.....people often seem nice!

FranknFurter

Been with my partner nearly 6 years now.......... me living in dublin, him in USA, ........... he moved over here after a year and we have lived together ever since.

But, be very very careful, if not immediately, but in the long term things are not always as they seem when it comes to online relationships.