I'm a ****ing idiot

Squirrel

This is all about this girl. Things were going fine and had just turned much better about three weeks ago, but that was the day before I went away for 2 weeks. I came home and started talking to her but I keep ****ing up by saying something stupid and **** like that. I have a very individual way of saying things and alot of things I say make sense to me but no-one else, that is most of the problem.

Yesterday I finally asked her out in a choice of words understood by most people and she said yeah, but today at training when I was talking to her I kept ****ing up, and it doesn't help that I'm pretty shy. This is really pissing me off.

I reckon I just needed to get that off my chest, cheers for reading,

Squirrel

Chucky the tree

how excactly did you **** up? what did you say to her?

the_syco

Do you have any mates with g/f's? Sounds like you may just have the butterflies, thinking you're doing something wrong. You may not be, but talking to a mate may be a way of finding out. Best of luck.

Squirrel

Chucky the tree wrote:

how excactly did you **** up? what did you say to her?

I can't actually remember now, but all I remeber thinking is " aww you ****ing tit".

the_syco wrote:

Do you have any mates with g/f's? Sounds like you may just have the butterflies, thinking you're doing something wrong. You may not be, but talking to a mate may be a way of finding out. Best of luck.

I've had g/f's before but this just seems different

nobodythere

Last night in the middle of conversation with a girl that I'm REALLY starting to like I said something to the effect of "everyone can **** off and die"... Yeah.... best pickup line ever!

If you want to stop acting like a d*ck think positively - If you think you're going to act like an idiot - you're going to act like an idiot. Be confident, think before you talk and say everything like you're Barry White.

seamus

It's not even remotely as bad as you think. She's going out with you (on a date or something, right?) so you can't be doing that badly.

WhiteWashMan

Squirrel wrote:

This is all about this girl. Things were going fine and had just turned much better about three weeks ago, but that was the day before I went away for 2 weeks. I came home and started talking to her but I keep ****ing up by saying something stupid and **** like that. I have a very individual way of saying things and alot of things I say make sense to me but no-one else, that is most of the problem.

Yesterday I finally asked her out in a choice of words understood by most people and she said yeah, but today at training when I was talking to her I kept ****ing up, and it doesn't help that I'm pretty shy. This is really pissing me off.

I reckon I just needed to get that off my chest, cheers for reading,

Squirrel

engage brain before talking.

if you know you are going to say somthing stupid, then why say it?

Gross Halfwit

I once told a girl that she had a lovely nose and this is what I said

"If I could change mine Id pick yours...I didnt mean literally pick that would be disgusting...I mean Im sure you have lovely snots and all...err I mean Im sure your always eating them..."

Things just snowballed from there!

If she agreed to go out with you then you must be doing something right. Ive got a pretty strange way of talking too but I pass it off like im quirky. Maybe thats what she likes about you. Work it man but dont tell her you collect ears or anything.

Gordon

Don't worry about it. The more you think and regurgitate what happened, the more annoyed you will get at yourself. All you will do is cause stress on your psyche.

Don't think of what you should say, just say what you want to say. And say it the way you want to say it.

Enjoy the date, hope it goes well.

Chavster

Just be yourself, as stated above you're doing something right if she agreed to go out with you. Don't change the way you talk, for all you know it could be one of the things she likes about you and it just wouldn't be the proper you.

It just sounds like nerves to me, we've all been there! People have said engage the brain before speaking, this isn't necessarily a good idea! In my experience the more i think about something the more likely i am to mess it up.

SparkyLarks

She knows that your nervous and that's why you talking s***.
She's probably delighted and thinks it's endering how your messing up.

Women bless them, generally know what we're trying to say.

She's going out with you so that's a great step.

If things start going wrong , stop, take a deap breath say sorry Everything just keeps comming out wrong, I don;t know why I'm so nervous. I'll start again. and then start what you wer saying again but slowly this time

freewing

stop thinkin about what you said and decide what youre gonna say
also
dont stare at her boobs
do open a door for her
do tell her she looks nice
and dont mention how hot her mother is (especially to her dad :mad: )