Can't get a boyfriend

neadla

In the past it was quite easy for me to get a guy, but this year it's just tough. I broke up with my ex, Neil, half a year ago and since then we have just remained friends, going out etc together. I don't make an effort to dress up as much as I'm used to just wearing what I wear that day and just putting on some makeup and out the door I go. When I go out with my girlfriends, it's for a chat only and there's no looking around for men. ( I suppose you shouldn't do that anyway!!) Does anyone have any solutions???

Cheers if you do,

neadla

GuyNo4

Don't get a complete asshole for a boyfriend just because you can't find a nice one right away. Too many girls going around with assholes for boyfriends.

neadla

thanks, good advice.. I'd like a boyfriend but I'm not that desperate. I think if i went out with a total asshole, I'd just end it the next day.

Cheers again,

neadla

GuyNo4

It's happened to a couple of female friends of mine. Not going out with anyone for a while then they meet some asshole that doesn't give a **** about them who only wants sex.

neadla

Nice one, but I'm afraid I'm far from ugly, just shy...don't dress up...Best looking woman in my family.

wes

ShreddedHumans wrote:

I tell it like it is.

Well not really.. considering this is a message boards and chances are you don't have a clue.

Anyway the general advice for these things just seems to be get out there, join clubs and take up some kind of activities where you can meet people etc.

PowerHouseDan

I feel if you go looking for a Gf/bf you will get the wrong kind, Getting with someone Should just happen not make it happen. Someone will come along its a waiting game dont get hung up about it. Thats my View of it anyway..

TonyD79

you allways get more offers when your not single,heard someone say cause your not looking the opposite sex will find you more attractive. How did you meet your previous boyfriends? Reckon the best way to find a meaningful one is through friends/work or college. Pubs and nightclubs are a lottery really where you can meet the worst possible person or the best for you .

neadla

met my last boyfriend through a friend three years ago. Ever since then the three of us have been living in the same house. Since I broke up with him we've remained very close friends but I don't fancy him.

Draupnir

it happens when you dont expect it. you will be out with your friends or doing some random daily activity and bam, you will meet someone you really like and who really likes you.

until that day, party hard and dont worry about it.

blahblah06

neadla wrote:

met my last boyfriend through a friend three years ago. Ever since then the three of us have been living in the same house. Since I broke up with him we've remained very close friends but I don't fancy him.

whats ur phone number

the_syco

neadla wrote:

don't dress up

Your reason is above.

Just dress up a little, a bit of make-up, and ye'll get noticed. You don't have to overly do it, but just enough to get noticed.

Also, you have to reliase, that alot of guys may still think you're "taken", and thus not approach you. If, tho, you dress up a little, and flirt a bit when your out with the girls, you increase your chances.

The Clown Man

Ah relax. The boyfriend will find you.

A few months of being single will be nothing but good for you.

WhiteWashMan

neadla wrote:

In the past it was quite easy for me to get a guy, but this year it's just tough. I broke up with my ex, Neil, half a year ago and since then we have just remained friends, going out etc together. I don't make an effort to dress up as much as I'm used to just wearing what I wear that day and just putting on some makeup and out the door I go. When I go out with my girlfriends, it's for a chat only and there's no looking around for men. ( I suppose you shouldn't do that anyway!!) Does anyone have any solutions???

Cheers if you do,

neadla

dump the ex.
start going out with your friends again and go out to score.

just throw a stick, and you will hit a bloke who will go out with you

Draupnir

WhiteWashMan wrote:

just throw a stick, and you will hit a bloke who will go out with you

what a quote.

funny cos its so so so true.

Victor

neadla, read the charter about fonts

ShreddedHumans, GuyNo4 cop on or its ban time.

blahblah06 wrote:

whats ur phone number

Get a room.

neadla

Hey Victor, don't exactly know what you mean about "read the charter about font". Funny thing is, I can't find the link where you update your profile. How can you help me, apart from getting a decent bloke...You never gave me any advice anyway, like the rest.


A plus,

Neadla :cool:

Dizzyblabla

You said it yourself in your original post, you just don't make the effort anymore.. stop going out for drinks with your ex, it's not good and will stop you from finding someone new.
Go get dressed up and go to a different pub, and stop looking...
When you go out to find someone, and no doubt you will, but it'll be the wrong one, head out, have a laugh and when you least expect it, the right one will come along (I'm still waiting, but I live by this rule cause I've learned the hard way!)

Webmonkey

Well the font is not default. Just have it all like your Name.
Umm isn't a dating forum either as i've learned
I think people have given you some advice alright. What age you roughly?

Victor

neadla wrote:

Hey Victor, don't exactly know what you mean about "read the charter about font".

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=2896524&postcount=18

neadla wrote:

Funny thing is, I can't find the link where you update your profile.

neadla wrote:

How can you help me

I can tell you that demanding assistance points you out as needy. Needy people don't get dates.

neadla

blablabla really want my phone number. You can have it but you'll have to do something first. Post yours to me and I'll text you with mine. Hope you're still online.

neadla

neadla

I'm far from needy Victor, far from needy. You don't even know me yet...I did it without your help, welll the help of me ex. I'm just a goodlooking girl looking for some fun. Comprends-tu?

Victor

Trés, trés bon.

neadla

:mad: don't like doing this, but what the hell...I'm much older than you, in my mid-twenties. I know this isn't a dating forum but whatever you call it, it still gets people chatting. Chatting is good for me.

cordelia

I'm not too sure about the wisdom of cohabitating with an ex you just broke up with, even if you are still friends. There might be a comfort level there that is preventing you from moving on and meeting other men.

Also, perhaps the reason why you aren't meeting other blokes is because you don't really want to right now. And that's perfectly acceptable. You were with someone else for quite a long time. There's no rule that says you must immediately find a replacement.

If you were sitting around, crying and miserable, consuming gallons of icecream and watching reality TV I would be worried. However, you are going out with friends. It sounds like you are enjoying yourself when you do. You aren't walking around in torn sweats and greasy hair, just casually instead of gladrags. Maybe that is all you want to do right now?

When you're ready, put the dress back on, strap on the heels, do the hair and lipstick and get out there.

Bring a stick.

neadla

I was thinking I would send a large picture of me via attachment via email to one of you if you answer a question. The question is the following : Who many emmy nominations has Lost got this year. Now, whoever answers first, get's the prize, good one now. So I will give you a countdown of 2 mins to answer and reply to this. If not, we'll keep on chatting.

:cool:

Draupnir

i think I got banned from Personal Issues over this topic, send me your picture as a consolation prize.

neadla

what's your email address...fast....then i'll send it..

Webmonkey

neadla wrote:

I was thinking I would send a large picture of me via attachment via email to one of you if you answer a question. The question is the following : Who many emmy nominations has Lost got this year. Now, whoever answers first, get's the prize, good one now. So I will give you a countdown of 2 mins to answer and reply to this. If not, we'll keep on chatting.

:cool:

I don't know neadla, you're kinda threading on dangerous ground. Just wanna warn you before you get you know what.

Edit: ok i see i'm in the cookoos nest now. Was this ever in personal issues?

neadla

come on no moderators watches after 6, you're free to do as you wish. It'd be just for fun.
Sinéad

Sarky

/me waddles into thread going "Biddybiddybiddybeep"

Draupnir

Having seen your photo, I can confirm that your "finding a boyfriend" problem is definitely not looks related issue anyway.

ANarcho-Munk

teeheeeheeeheee

ANarcho-Munk

Sarky wrote:

/me waddles into thread going "Biddybiddybiddybeep"

*shoo's sarky out of thread with a broom*

NotMe

This should have been moved to Dr. Demento me thinks.

ANarcho-Munk

This is a very strange thread :S

neadla

Anybody still out there in the forum tonight?

Ajnag

If only I were in gway now....Damn.
I might even have been able to escape from the singles thread....... Drat foiled again.
Oh just out of intrest whats your favourite nightclub in gway?

Gordon

This is not a dating forum.

If you would like to discuss your personal issue which seems to be needing solutions to finding a boyfriend then feel free to discuss it. However, I get the feeling that this topic is way too broad to offer any real help to you as you haven't given any information of a personal nature to come to proper conclusions. Hence this thread doesn't seem to have much life left.

And mods are always online..

nadir

ahahaha

/me slaps ajnag

Ajnag

Quite you!
Dos your distro keep you warm at night?

neadla

yea it does, but not warm enough... :cool:

Celticwarrior

Fair play on staying friends and living with your ex, you are obviously are strong person. I wouldn't worry too much bout not having someone for the moment, no point just being with anyone just to pass time, and you don't seem like that kind of person! Just expand your range of interests and i'm sure you'll meet more guys!

Ajnag

lol was replying to nadir,
But im wondering what you thought I meant by distro....

the_syco

Lemme see, your still living with the ex, friends with the ex... and you think men will now somehow see you as single...:rolleyes:

Chad ghostal

/drops pants

Will i do?


..why is this here?

NotMe

Of course you'll do....

bring the cuckoo..

Chad ghostal

This is always happening.. people want me..but only for my cuckoo

NotMe

CuLT

NotMe wrote:

OH MY GOD

IT JUST AT THE WHOLE THING

neadla

Where did ya get that picture of the little girl -- nice. Anyway, good riddens to the ex -- I'll dress up next week, maybe short skirt + a little makeup + tights + hair loose ( I've got long hair you see) and I'll enjoy myself. I think I need the new image thing. Jeans and top ain't workin' for me anymore. :cool: