in love with best friends sister

LegacyUser

right, heres how it goes.

I have known this woman for the past 6 years through my best friend, she i his sister, for the last two years i can say i have had deep feelings for her, they have effected my college, and to a lesser extent my life. i cannot sleep or think without her creeping into my head. i think everyone i know says that i am a lover sick puppy when she is around. yet when we are together she treats me like a friend and nothing more. i cant say that i am unattractive, or have a bad personality, its just she doesnt look at me that way.
i guess the real question is, can i make her look at me in the way i look at her? i really dont want to air these feelings because i dont want to loose her as a friend yet its hard to live with the feelings... is it time to get over it and move or to clear the air?

Femelade

no , u cant make her look at u the way u look at her

yes, it is time to get over it

Webmonkey

Well you should probably talked to her. You wouldn't know what a talk could lead to
Hope you have the courage to talk to her about it.

Victor

Ask her out. Get her obnoxiously drunk. See that she can be a bitch, that has a side you don't like. Feel bitter that all women are bitches. Post again on PI.

Ooops. letting my dark side out.

Do or do not, there is no "try".

jcoote

shes just another girl u like your mate isn't a mate if he would stop u from goin out withis sister...just be prepared for any turns by him or her and no matter what don't say it to anyone before u tell her

Jivin Turkey

Just ask her out. If shes not interested (even in giving it a try) she has the ultimate fall back that "I would but you are my bros best mate, wouldnt want to come between you, it would be weird yada yada yada". You both save face.

Chucky the tree

you should ask your best mate if its alright aswell, just to make sure.

supersheep

Get her to win the Quidditch Cup, and then kiss her at the big party in front of your whole house, and her brother will have to accept it...

Ya never know, the line between friends and lovers ain't all that wide sometimes...

Catsmokinpot

toughie if hes a good mate he wont mind, to be honest i wouldnt say no if my best mate wanted to go off with my sister. people cant help the way they feel just make sure she feels the same way before you say anything to him because youll look like a tit if you go asking permission and she says no, id just laugh at ya, if uve know her for years the let down will be easier i tried it on with one of my best mates, she said no and we said no more about it were still great friends

Sleepy

I've gone out with a friend's sister and it was one of the best relationships I've ever been in... Just clear it with him first and ask her out sometime. Just remember one thing: you will have to treat this girl exceptionally well. You step out of line on her and you're risking your friendship with your mate as well.

Gross Halfwit

I fell in love with my best friend. I told her. We are no longer friends. Keep it to yourself chief. Believe me. I would give everything I have to go back to that day and tell myself to shut the hell up. If nothing has happened in the last 6 years the nnothing will happen Im sorry to say. Move on.

supersheep

Gross Halfwit wrote:

I fell in love with my best friend. I told her. We are no longer friends. Keep it to yourself chief. Believe me. I would give everything I have to go back to that day and tell myself to shut the hell up. If nothing has happened in the last 6 years the nnothing will happen Im sorry to say. Move on.

I did the same thing, and we stayed friends... Admittedly, a few months later, we stopped talking to each other, but that was for different reasons... So, if ya really like her, and are willing to take a risk, go for it.

Gross Halfwit

Some say thats its better to love and to have lost than to have never loved at all. I dont know if this is true. So far she is just a friend. A friend of 6 years is hard to replace. If you feel like you have to tell her how you feel or else you will explode then tell her but brace yourself for a knock back.

Sometimes you have to realise that no matter how much you want something that somethings are just too far out of reach. And wanting, loving just isnt enough. Move on. Be her friend and let her be yours.

I fell hard and I fell fast and I think of the day I told her that I loved her and that I would make her happy and that all I thought of was her. She went mad. All she wanted from me was friendship. We were really close. She felt betrayed by my feelings and that was that. I was destroyed. That was 5 years ago and I still think about her today. I still write about her. I stilldream of her. I wish we were still friends so that I could hear her laugh one more time.

Think. Think hard. Only you can know deep down inside how you feel and if its worth the risk. Good Luck.

"The road from friendship to love is paved with a million broken hearts"

BeardyGit

She doesn't look at you "that" way but you still appear like ''a love-sick puppy" when she's around? If she's not stupid she'll have picked up on that herself - Even then, her friends will have mentioned it to her - Of that you can be sure. If you've done nothing about it at the start (it's been 2 years ffs) then you've certainly blown whatever chance you might have had.

The reality is that whatever "feelings" you have for her most certainly don't equate to you being "In love". This isn't "Sleepless in Seattle" mate - Their's no happy ending involving the two of you and fate here. You're bordering on creepy obsession and you have to get over it in a hurry. Everyone can recognise that - Even you I'm sure.

I'm not being nasty here but can I guess that you've yet to have a serious relationship with a significant other? What I'm getting at is that it sounds like you don't have any sort of reference point against which to measure your true feelings. If you've yet to experience true 'love' then you could be excused to an extent. Doesn't change the fact that you're obsessing of course.....

Gil

Kell

UNKNOWN1 wrote:

can i make her look at me in the way i look at her?

Go for it. Are you going to spend your life on the fence or are you going to do something that will make you think back and think "At least I tried".

Bite the bullet and deal with the consequences later.

K-