annoying, interfering ex need advice!!!!

Sifo

I am, by nature, not a voilent person, but if you're her boyfriend i recommend you pull your finger out...

StandnDeliver

i still think changing her number is a good idea,then she doesnt have to see the messages, to the boyfriend i think youve been very patient and of course your gonna have a few rows over your only human.what your gf needs to do is this.
Call to his house,hopefully he lives with his parents,by calling there it catches him off guard.She bluntly tells himshe has reported him to the cops and if he doesnt stop she is gona take out a restraining order,I dont love you anymore get the message u thick*******.
tht should do the trick,then u can be in a car or taxi waiting for her to calm her down.

LegacyUser

take it elsewhere :rolleyes:
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d22isanarse

i also had the same problem with an ex boyfriend eventually it got so bad that i called the police and since then he hasnt called again,maybe if you file a complaint against him it will stop ...good luck

Aupster

MicraBoy wrote:

It sounds like you have given him fair warning so:

The next time he texts, reply with:

"Please do not contact me again or I will complain to your service provider and the Gardai"

He will either think you are a complete freak and drop it or he will be scared off and drop it.

And do not answer calls from him at all. Block the number if needs be. Keep a list of all the times he contacts you after you have sent the above text, incase you need to follow through with the threat.

Get on with your life and don't let him mess with it.

This is Good advice. just Ignore has calls

Red Alert

A very good point indeed. If he's that keen on calling her as much as he does then he's just going to find it again or start calling around to where she lives.

Maybe get the new b/f to answer next time and give him a fright? The ex- doesn't realise that life moves on, and if you keep being anyway sympathetic to him he'll stay like that.

Kêrmêttê

It's not possible to have any single number blocked on a mobile phone or on a landline. You can block all calls to or from a mobile phone... this service is usually used when a phone is stolen or lost.

However, you can get your number changed free of charge.
Inform the Gardai of what's going on. Then go to your service provider and inform them that you are receiving unwanted nuisance calls. They should provide you with a new sim card and phone number free of charge.

If you need to change your landline there is a phone number to call to report that you are receiving unwanted telephone calls. The number is located in the first few pages of the phone book somewhere.
This Nuisance Calls Department will change your number within 24 hours and will do it free of charge.

Should you change any of your numbers, make damn sure that none of your friends or neighbours give the number to the offending person, and also that they don't leave their mobile phones lying around so this person can get the number from them.

If this weirdo starts to call round to your house go straight to the Gardaí.
Unwanted telephone calls are illegal and you can go to prison for making them.
Stalking is also illegal with the same consequences.

Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself... being uncomfortable or annoyed about a few seemingly harmless phone calls can seem a bit over the top... but if someone persists in annoying you and won't leave you alone it can start to ruin your life and eat away at your confidence.

chuci

just a quick note to say thanks to you all for all the advice on the situation and to the poster who was"that guy", it gave a good insight to the inner workings of the person in questions mind. and to all the others who gave me a kick up the perverbial a** i understand that i was being a bit of a baby about the whole situation but at the same time was also afraid of the repercussions of my actions. when we broke up the last and final time he told everybody i was preg and induced my own miscarraige. pretty sick and disgusting i know so maybe you could understand why i was a bit wary. anyway the final decision is to see when he comes back from holidays this week if i get a txt if so he is getting a warning then reporting him. i think ive grown up a little bit since i posted first and stopped the pity and feeling sorry for him now i just cant wait for him to just go. worst thing that im worried about though is meeting him out and about the place and to try and be mean then its just not in my nature guess good old fashioned ignoring instead of telling him to f**k off will just have to do. so thanks again you have influenced my decision and as a result relationship is a lot happier

Son_of_Belial

Maybe your boyfriend and this chap should meet up and sort it out. I did this with the ex of a girl I was seeing. I was perfectly civil and reasoned with him. He did get violent after a bit so I had to thump him, but either way he never bothered us again