More girl problems - Where's the manual?

LegacyUser

I was with a girl for about 6 months, and recently she moved away. We kept in contact, but, I can't get her out of my mind. I (didn't notice it when we were together) feel a lot of love for her and I feel like my right arm's been chopped off tbh.
Anyway, I haven't heard from her in a couple of weeks. I know she's been on the web and she's read my emails but no reply.
I suppose my question is: What do I do? Do I ring her up, say,"Why have you not replied to my mails?" or do I play it cool and wait for her to reply? I've already sent an email, saying that I haven't heard from her in a while. I don't want to seem like a psycho though.

I'm really missing her and I don't know what to do...

Sleepy

Sounds like she's already moved on. Maybe it's time for you to do the same?

Matthewthebig

same. Don't waste your life lusting after someone you cant have. move on

find someone new

Ania

It's easy to tell to forget somebody, but it's hard to practice it.
I left my boyfriend when I left for Ireland few weeks ago.
We still phone, write and post photos to each other, but I'm asking myself for how long this will last as I plan to stay in Ireland for a longer time.

I, as a girl, suggest you to phone her and talk with her about it all properly.
If she says she found someone new, you have to accept this situation, although it might really hurt you.
Good luck!

Sleepy

It's not easy to forget someone but sometimes life isn't easy.

guest31

Hi, it's never easy letting someone go .. so I know you're feeling crap right now ... accept that you may feel like this for a while, it's natural, you no longer have this person in your life, after probably spending alot of time with her. Trouble is, if she has moved on quicker, she won't want to know that you're hurting, in fact, this will just annoy her more, make her feel bad, and she'll resent you. As hard as it is, play it cool ... gradually get yourself back out there .. .she may not have been the one for you ... there's someone else just waiting round the corner. Ride it out and good luck.

*Page*

How do you know that she's read you e-mails??

Kevin_rc_ie

this is a toughie. damn cold hearted women. hmm, ring her and ask her.

John2002

*Page* wrote:

How do you know that she's read you e-mails??

You can put read receipts on emails.

*Page*

Ok well if that’s how you know she read it, maybe she's at a loss for words! Give her some space, give her some time, and if she doesn’t contact you in a week call her. Don’t give up all hope this might be how she's dealing with separation.

Peteee

From experience, give it 3 weeks. Unless shes a geek shes not gonna check them more then that really!

scuba steve

Try and move on, thats the best thing to try anyway. She might still be at the back of your mind tho. It also happened to me couple months ago and i still cant stop thinkin bout her sometimes

Son_of_Belial

John2002 wrote:

You can put read receipts on emails.

Set up a free account for yourself on www.readnotify.com they really do provide a fantastic service, even giving the geographic location (81% accuracy) of where the email was read. I even went so far as to subscribe to their site, it's only like €3 a month. There's even an option to send you a text message when your email is read. Give it a whirl, plus she'll never know that you have a read receipt on it. Subscribe, then send your email to cold-hearted-wagon@whatevermail.com.readnotify.com.

Son_of_Belial

The main problem is (just to clarify) that she's beggared off somewhere. What sort of a distance are we talking here? Is it possible to hop on a bus/train/cheap flight and get your butt over there (with due warning of course)? Seems like she's seriously sticking her head in the sand on this one. I have to say though, what she's doing to you is the height of bad manners and against all tenets of plain, common decency. Are you 150% sure you want to have a long-distance relationship and that she'll like the idea? Is it financially/logistically possible to go see her every other weekend or something? It's been two weeks and you've heard nothing. Here's what I would do.
1) Send her another email (giving a space of about 4 days after the last one) saying that you're coming over in the nearest availeable weekend.
2) She'll do one of three things.
• Answer you back and sort it out. She may dump you, you need to be prepared for this. I get the impression you haven't told her you love her. Go do it! As in yesterday!
• Agree to you coming over and sorting it all out face-to-face. In this scenario she's less likely to dump you. Again, tell her you love her you eejit!
• Ignore you. Use www.readnotify.com to make sure she gets the email.

Just appearing on her doorstep with a bunch of flowers an "I love you" and a smile is a bad idea. It might be the thing to do in romantic films, but is generally a bad idea in real life. If she ignores you (which I doubt she'll do because she doesn't know that you just might get over there) then she's an evil, heartless, cowardly wagon and you're well rid. I hope this is of help. Also, look on the bright side... When the cat's away I hate to bring up the possibility but she may also have met someone new...