Dillema with 2 girls I like...

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Okay the story goes like this, a few months a go I met this girl and instantly we clicked. We were happily going with eachother for a few weeks until she suddenly dumped me saying that she was afraid of falling in love and then getting hurt later on... I put this down to me never telling her how I felt as I really really liked her.

I spent a good few weeks txting her and ringing her trying to get back with her, however in the end we ended up agreeing to just be friends.

Over the next few weeks I thought I was getting over her and was becoming very friendly with another girl I knew and during this week we established that we both liked each other and something happening is imminent.

However, today I met up with the first girl today for the first time since we broke up and immediately it became apparant to us that breaking up was a bad idea and she wants to get back with me and I also realised that I was in absolutely in no way over her!

Now I don't know what to do, I really want to be with girl#1, however I'd feel terrible for all of a sudden saying to girl#2 that I don't think anything should happen...

Any advice?

nesf

How old are you? Edit, I see you're 16. So just ignore what I said for an older person. At 16 you don't need a good reason to break up imo When you're in your mid twenties suddenly breaking up because you want to just isn't good enough anymore!

If you are young, then meh mate it's not like it's a commitment to marriage to someone when you go out with them. If your old, then yes it is a bit off that you suddenly get back with a girl, but to be honest it sounds like girl 2 was a rebound and nothing more so I wouldn't worry about it.


If you have not been with girl 2 for an appreciable lenght of time (sub 2-3 months) then you can just turn to her and say, look it's not really working for me, lets be friends.

It's not really an emotional dilemma unless you've been with girl 2 for a year or something and theres something serious going on. If the relationship with girl 2 was just a bit of fun for both of yee (sounds like it), then I wouldn't worry about it.

Oh and it never rains it pours.

embee

Just one question really...

How do you know that girl #1 won't turn around in a couple of months and say the same thing again? If she's been hurt badly in the past there is every possibility she'll put the brakes on in 6-8 weeks. Think about it before leaping in. Girl #2, well, you haven't said that much about her, just that ye get on and something is "imminent". In my opinion, you're just sort of asking how to let girl #2 down gently. Nothing absolutely major has happened between ye yet, so it shouldn't be like pulling teeth. Explain to her that you aren't over your ex and it wouldn't be fair to jump into something with you on the rebound when you weren't sure that the situation between yourself and your ex is a closed case.

Essentially, tell the truth. Most girls dig that.

Sangre

Girl. Pick. Most. Like. You.

Hmm....I think there is advice in there somewhere...but I just can't make it out...aghh.

This sounds like a job for Robert Langdon!

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embee wrote:

Just one question really...

How do you know that girl #1 won't turn around in a couple of months and say the same thing again? If she's been hurt badly in the past there is every possibility she'll put the brakes on in 6-8 weeks. Think about it before leaping in. Girl #2, well, you haven't said that much about her, just that ye get on and something is "imminent". In my opinion, you're just sort of asking how to let girl #2 down gently. Nothing absolutely major has happened between ye yet, so it shouldn't be like pulling teeth. Explain to her that you aren't over your ex and it wouldn't be fair to jump into something with you on the rebound when you weren't sure that the situation between yourself and your ex is a closed case.

Essentially, tell the truth. Most girls dig that.

I think you hit the nail on the head there embee, thanks.

Sangre

Or, alternatively get them to fight to the death. The winner will be the best able to bear your children.

galwaydude18

now that's a bit harsh! No need for a comment like that Sangre!

Beruthiel

Sangre wrote:

Or, alternatively get them to fight to the death. The winner will be the best able to bear your children.

another comment like that one sangre and I'll have to ban you
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OfflerCrocGod

Well girl1 has messed you up before but girl2 hasn't.....Of course you can always go for girl1 and put girl2 on the backburner until girl1 dumps you again or you dump her and then try and pick up girl2. Sorted

Victor

If you've made a "committment" (whatever that means) to girl 2, stick with girl 2 and tell girl 1 "I'm not sure" (keeping your options open).

If you have no committment to girl 2, tell her the truth, that you might be getting back with your old girlfriend and that you'd "like the relationship to work" (but keep your options open).

AdMMM

I understand where you're both coming from. In fact fùcking up is my big worry and Im constantly thinking the worst case scenerio where I lose both girls as well as a good friend in the form of girl#2

Dinxminx

Poor girl#2................................................. I think girl#1 is guilty of, as Bridget Jones would say, a bit of "emotional f*ckwittage". Doesn't sound very trustworthy....

crang

IMO a lot of girls like to have what they don't have. It is like a challenge to them. I would think that if you do get back with girl no 1 she will get bored again and the vicious circle will start over. You need to get over girl 1 and move on. Maybe girl 2 will become " the one " for you .

crang

In saying that. Not all girls are the same.

4Xcut

its not like you and girl #1 would be getting married she's not the "one"(more than likely). Not worth the hassel if she is emotionally unstable and you like girl#2 anyway.

Xcom2

Girl 2 all the way!

Girl 1 obiously knows about Girl 2 and has decided to play with your head.

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ballooba

You're 16, pick whichever one lets you touch her boobs.

Nuff said.

Keyzer

Suggest a 3some?

If that doesn't work pick the one with the biggest knockers...

Beruthiel

ballooba
Keyzer
did you two not see me warn another poster for comments like yours?
if you have nothing helpful to say, please refrain from posting at all
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WhiteWashMan

ballooba wrote:

You're 16, pick whichever one lets you touch her boobs.

Nuff said.

for a bloke, thats pretty good advice at 16...

or we could promote good catholic upbringing and go with the one that you feel has the best chance of being your wife in future.

either way, y9ou wont be going out with them after 2 weeks of not talking to each other, so what does it matter?

just go out with both, remain unhappy and unfulfilled, and learn a lesson in life.

Dreamcatcher

|.Murderer.| wrote:

Okay the story goes like this, a few months a go I met this girl and instantly we clicked. We were happily going with eachother for a few weeks until she suddenly dumped me saying that she was afraid of falling in love and then getting hurt later on...

Tell girl#1 that "you are afraid of falling in love and then getting hurt later on" - see how she reacts - take it from there.