Periods not happening

LegacyUser

I am going unregistered this time because some ppl do know me on here.I am not here looking for medical advice as we have been to the doctors. However I am looking for a bit of support and to know if anyone else has been through this. I am a male going out with a female (everything pretty normal so far. ) we are in a long term and solid relationship and things have been going great regardless of our ups and downs. NOw her periods have stopped they haven't happened for 3 months and no shes not pregnant... ya see thats the problem. She came off the pill last year, not to try for a baby but to take a break as she had been on it for about 7 years on and off. When she came off it her periods were fine no problem and regular....ish. Then at new years they stopped and not a drop since. we've been to the docs and shes had blood tests and thyroid tests and all came back clear.NOw shes gotta go for a scan and I am really worried and so is she. has anyone been through this if so i'd really like to hear from you. Please if you wanna keep it private just say ina post I can pm u and I will from my proper account.

Thanks for reading this.

m

Beruthiel

did she loose a lot of weight around the time they stopped?

IANOC

It's not normal for women to have no periods, and there will be something at the root of the problem. I have come across many women whose periods have inexplicably stopped. When they visited their doctors, they were told that it was 'more convenient' to go without periods, and that there was no reason to look into it unless they wanted to conceive. Drugs could be then be offered at that time to stimulate ovulation.

There is no doubt that periods can be inconvenient, but the plain truth is that it is unnatural not to have them. Her body is designed to have menstrual cycles when she is not pregnant, and if she is not having periods there is something out of balance or unnatural happening in her body. This needs to be investigated and treated. For one thing, if she is not having periods, her risk of osteoporosis is greatly increased.

If her periods stopped for no apparent reason or she had come off the pill and her periods have not come back then she should ask to be referred to a gynaecologist. Many of the reasons why periods stop are not serious, but more serious health problems should always be ruled out before she decides upon a form of treatment.

If medical tests indicate that there is nothing seriously wrong, she may have been told 'to wait and see' or to go on the Pill as a form of treatment. This is one of those situations where the natural approach really comes into its own. By looking at her diet, correcting any vitamin and mineral deficiencies, and using herbs, it is possible to correct the underlying imbalance that is causing the loss of periods.

hope this helps
regards
ian

*Page*

This happened to me a few times. the first one was a long time ago i dropped under 7 and a half stone.
suposidly(so says my doctor) your body will not ovilate unless you are of a healthy weight to carry a child. it can stop if you are over or under weight.
and the others have been more resent, i get very stressed out and suffer from anxity, these have stop my periods due to a chemical imballance.

Get the scan done theres no harm, internal scans are slightly uncomfortable but not painful.
if you need to talk just pm me! best of luck i hope it is something silly( ie nothing serious)

LegacyUser

She hasn;t lost weight and hasn;t gained any i could be due to stress. But then maybe not. sorry I'm just thinking the worst!

kittenkiller

Hiya,
For a girl anything to do with irregular period is a worry, especially when the doctor is drawing a blank.
As much support as you need yourself please please please don't let her know that you're worried as much as you are.
Give as much reassurance as you possibly can & try to not focus on it too much until you get a concrete diagnosis.

For you, find a good friend who you trust & has enough sense not to mention anything to anyone.
Talk to him/her as much as you feel you need to.
Sometimes just knowing that someone's there to listen takes half the weight off your mind.
For your girlfriend, YOU are that person.
She'll need you to keep a level head for her.
Find someone to keep a level head for you.

I hope this isn't coming across as cold or that i'm ignoring how you're feeling & your worry, i'm not.

neuro-praxis

I have endless constant problems with my cycle so I can really empathise. My partner sees my worries and gets into a knot about it all too.

I know that it sounds clichéd but: don't worry. Worry won't change anything - in fact, the more worried she is, the less likely it is that her period will show up. Mine disappears for months during exam stress etc.

Your partner obviously means the world to you and it is very normal to get a bit frantic about these issues. If the blood and thyroid tests are clear, then there is probably not too much to worry about. I know thoughts of cancer are probably running through your minds, but usually there's a lot of pain when it's actually anything serious. Go for the scan and be as positive as you can about it - more than likely this is something that can be treated quite easily. Most women go through stages of abnormal period behaviour.

Both of you, just be patient and try to enjoy the period-free times...at least it's not constant bleeding (which, believe me, you don't want either).

My advice to make you both feel better is to spoil her a little bit. She may be feeling as though her womanhood is being threatened...and you might be feeling pretty helpless. Treat her, appreciate each other, and allow this experience to be something that makes you closer.

Things will be fine. Keep us posted on the results of the scan, and if either of you need a chat about it, feel free to pm me here.

Stench Blossoms

I went 3 or 4 months without a period before. Doctors didnt know what was wrong and then one day they just came back. I wouldnt worry too much

Souperfreak

Relax, honestly. From the sounds of things you two are doing all the right things! You are seeing a doctor and you are looking for support just by being on this forum.

Here is a website that might help....

http://www.mayoclinic.com/invoke.cfm?objectid=55FAC47F-288C-4F89-83B1701B4B34CAE3


The above link is to Amenhorrea (the absences of menstruation)

Good Luck Keep Us all posted!

vixen2005

hi im in a bit of a hurry so i didn read all the replys, but thopught i might ease your mind if i could. this happened me last year and they didn happen for 4 months went to doc and he sent me for scan, the scan went fine but still couldn figure what was up. i was sent to holles street in dublin to see a gyni and they did a routeen proceidure ( not goin in to detail) but take swabs for tests and they came back clear, and they just returned on there own, but im fine nothing was up was just the body doin its own thing. dont panic or you will worry her to. chin up its prob nothing.

Victor

I've no experience with the problem, but I agree with the general gist of the above.

I have had experience of other problems - I thought I had hepatitis (but was wondering how the fook I got hepatitis). The worry about "what is wrong with me" was actually much worse than the final diagnosis, that I was overweight and depositing fat in my liver.

I think what you are experiencing is worry of the unknown and are possibly letting your imagination run wild. The doctor is more relaxed about it because he can be impartial and has seen things like this before. Realisticly, your worst expectation is probably a lot worse the the likely result.

LegacyUser

Thanks everyone for your kind words.
MOst of which are true. yes I am worried about cancer. But I am not showing my worry to her. I have to support her I know this. but i need a wee bit of support too. which is hard to find. THe friends I have I couldn;t talk to them about this.

But once again thanks for your advise and help and please keep it coming its greatly appricated.

Thank you.


I will be pm'ing a couple of u tomorrow. Thanks

BEAT

I posted a thread a couple months ago about my cycle not happening. I didnt have mine for 3 months , but its happened before infact its normal for me because of how irregular mine are. I saw my Gyno about it and was checked out, everything is normal. Because I have a history of irregular and missed periods it happens to be normal for "me' to miss them every now and then. Its just how my body works.
Now, if she has seen her Gyno and been checked out then its possible she is just an irregular too, taking the pill will regulate your cycle so having been on it for 7 years and coming off of it I am not surprised that she is having irregular cycles right now. Her body is going through an adjustment time if you ask me.
Let us know what you find out

fozzle

Hi need support. Don't panic yet, hopefully it's nothing serious.

I have polycistic ovarian syndrome which stops periods, but if I take the pill I have fake ones. Possibly it's something like that - this may not be a new problem, ye just may not have had the opertunnity to realise it before now. Definately she should go to a Gynacologist, and if he/she says that it's "more convenient to not have periods" then find another gynacologist, as IANOC said, it's not natural, and problems like that shouldn't be ignored (good post IANOC )

Best of luck, hopefully it's nothing serious.

LegacyUser

Thanks once again for all your support and advise. were just waiting for an appointment to come through from the gyne. AS soon as that is over I will keep you updated. Its just really tough for me to keep strong for my fiancee. But i know its something I have to do.

Thanks a million

m x

Victor

Need support wrote:

Its just really tough for me to keep strong for my fiancee.

It's ok, you don't need to be the strong one 100% of the time, you need to be able to let your emotions out. We are all human.

LegacyUser

oh I really need to but have noone to let it out to! My emotions this is! We got an appt througn but not until JUNE!!! and thats going private. ITs stupid. what if there is something seriously wrong with her!

LegacyUser

My girlfriend came off the pill and didnt get her period for 3 months. She thought she was pregnant. She was going through a bit of a stressful time during these couple of months. She found a new job she was happy with and then her period started again and is back to its normal self again. hope everything is ok with you.

Victor

Need support wrote:

We got an appt througn but not until JUNE!!! and thats going private. ITs stupid.

In a way thats good, it's not a case of a doctor saying, "we need to get you an appointment urgently".