Really need SOME friends

Nightshiftguy

Hi all. Well its been a while since I have posted and Im finally back in work. I need someone. Someone to email someone to talk to. I moved away from my home place a couple of years ago and lost all my pals Im back now and All I have is my woman. Thats great but sorry not enough.Im a 23 yo guy and I want to start a friendship with guys or gals gay bi or straight ... what ever cause I just want friends I know this sounds desperate and yes it probably is. BUt I need some more ppl in my life. PLease help me out. I;m sorry of this is in the wrong section . Delete if need be. PLease feel free to email me. Thanks for taking the time to read this/

Evil Phil

Perhaps try the LGB Board

Beruthiel

when you say friends
do you mean friends as in mates
or
friends as in 'friends'

Nightshiftguy

Friends as in friends. and just mates beggers can;t be choosers. And I am not bi or gay I was just making the point that anyone is welcome!

blah

Nightshiftguy wrote:

Hi all. Well its been a while since I have posted and Im finally back in work. I need someone. Someone to email someone to talk to. I moved away from my home place a couple of years ago and lost all my pals Im back now and All I have is my woman. Thats great but sorry not enough.Im a 23 yo bi guy and I want to start a friendship with guys or gals gay bi or straight ... what ever cause I just want friends I know this sounds desperate and yes it probably is. BUt I need some more ppl in my life. PLease help me out. I;m sorry of this is in the wrong section . Delete if need be. PLease feel free to email me. Thanks for taking the time to read this/

"Im a 23 yo bi guy "

Why did you say this?

Nightshiftguy

REally don;t have a clue typo on my part sorry

Beruthiel

have you tried a night class?
you could also check out the Boards Events Forum, our meet ups are always good fun.

carpocrates

Well Nightshift I don't know if your name refers perhaps to the reason that you lack friends, your work schedule (or is that just being naive on my part) but in any case I think everyone knows how people tend to be, all cliquey and in groups and uninterested in inviting new people in.
I'd agree with Beruthiel. A Night Class could be very good, although pick one which you think might reflect your interests and age group. Also perhaps get involved with a sport, local sports clubs and teams are a great way to meet new people. Debating socities, or join a drama group?
If you have a hobby try and contact other people with similar hobbies and see if they meet up anywhere. Good luck anyway.

Kimbot

Dude if you need someone to talk to about your probs PM me I'll be online again later and I'll talk to you then.

azezil

Beruthiel wrote:

have you tried a night class?
you could also check out the Boards Events Forum, our meet ups are always good fun.

Pretty much my entire circle of friends I've met tru the internet ^_^

vibrant

carpocrates wrote:

Also perhaps get involved with a sport, local sports clubs and teams are a great way to meet new people. Debating socities, or join a drama group?
If you have a hobby try and contact other people with similar hobbies and see if they meet up anywhere.

Excellent ideas. Why not try your local library, they might have conversation groups, chess groups, etc. Are you a fan of a particular author, or a particular band, or game? Have a look on http://www.meetup.com/ for people who share the same interests and live in Dublin (or wherever you live!)


Good luck to ya, you can PM me if you'd like to talk too, OK?

pwd

I'll be your friend for just 5 euro a day + expenses.

LegacyUser

i think your best bet is to join a club, or class, somthing you're interested in

a martial art

photography

classic cars

bowling

shooting

etc....

good luck.

chump

pwd wrote:

I'll be your friend for just 5 euro a day + expenses.

If you choose me, it'll only cost ya 4euro a day + expenses

Beruthiel

how about I ban you both
for free
B

billy the squid

have you considered seeking daytime work. straight nights or evenings can be a killer for social life.

plus what happened to your old friends. did they dissappear off the face of the earth. can you not pick up the phone and give them a call?

do you not have any work collegues where you are working now?

nesf

azezil wrote:

Pretty much my entire circle of friends I've met tru the internet ^_^

For me my friends come from a few sources,

a) people I grew up with, some of them also moved to cork from home and I stay in touch with them and spend as much time as I can with them.

b) people I know from gaming. It's a very social hobby and I've made many good friends through it.

c) online, I've made a few friends on here, and on livejournal and definitely a few through playing games online.

d) a few people I know purely from drinking in the same places as them. But I wouldn't consider any of them close friends.

e) finally I've a couple of close friends from the people that I met in college through my course and societies, but few of them are people I'm still in touch with.

Personally I'd recommend taking up some social hobby, ie like gaming, chess, golf etc, that allows you to meet and converse with people, you won't be friends with all of the people you meet, not even the majority of them, but you will find some good friends if you persevere and keep on meeting new people.

On a personal note I totally accept how difficult a situation this is. I'm in a bit of a rut at the moment with my social circle being quite stagnant so I'm trying to break out and meet some new people. It's not as easy a thing to do as it first seems, breaking long term habits can be damn hard!

Shabadu

nesf wrote:

I'm in a bit of a rut at the moment with my social circle being quite stagnant so I'm trying to break out and meet some new people. It's not as easy a thing to do as it first seems, breaking long term habits can be damn hard!

I'm kind of in the same boat. My boyfriend has a big close-knit circle of friends that I've always been a little jealous of. I get on really well with them and we have a great laugh, but at the end of the day they're his mates.

I also have a close group of friends but there are hardly any of us. My best friend is like the other part of me, and my son's godmother. She's the most loyal and hilarious friend you could ask for, but she does not like letting other people into our gang. A lot of people have been frozen out over the past couple of years as well.

It's so bad that I can't invite my other really close female friend to my birthday party as she hates her so much. Whenever I try to get a new mate into the gang she inevitably bans them.

I would ditch her but I can't imagine life without chatting to her every day. She is also the only best friend I've ever had that I can really trust; I have a long and colourful history of allowing myself to be used. Also, my son worships her, and she adores him.

I know I'm lucky to have her and the others in our gang but it doesn't stop me from feeling lonely.

Tobias Greeshman

Jr.Shabadu wrote:

I would ditch her but I can't imagine life without chatting to her every day. She is also the only best friend I've ever had that I can really trust; I have a long and colourful history of allowing myself to be used. Also, my son worships her, and she adores him.

Personally If any of my friends tried to ban other possible new friends from hanging around with us, they'd get called some fairly abusive things, friend or no friend. Since she's so close to your sons life, then its best to keep her. You've been used in the past (so have plenty others), sorry to hear that, dont let anyone do that again, even friends.

As for myself, I've had roughly the same circle of friends since i was about 10, and we all know each other pretty damn well.

I also had loads of friends when I was in college, but Ive sorta lost contact with some of them since I finished college.

As for the OP, try quitting Night work, if you start day-time work your guaranteed to be in contact with much more people and increase your amount of possible friends. Isn't there a new nightclub open for people who work night shifts, open till 11am or something. Could meet equal minded people there.

Tar.Aldarion

try going to LANs and things like that if you like games etc.
just apply that to whatever you are interested in.
galway lan for example meant i met loads of people off boards etc.
taking up a sport like golf is always good cos you just go round with 3 ppl you don't know in the competitions etc. plus prizes rock too!

arbeitsscheuer

OP, pm me if ya wanna talk - I'm a 20yr old bloke, got friends of my own, but as some1 else here pointed out the group can be kinda "cliquey and uninterested in inviting new ppl in". So I'm kinda on the lookout for a mate (or mates) who are separate from my current lot, cos sometimes you need somethin different.

If ya got msn we can chat through that anyways.

Good luck,
Seb

Enii

www.lunch.ie, go out have lunch with someone, maybe become friends....