OMG - I actually talked to a girl

LegacyUser

This is going to sound unbelievably lame and probably isn't a personal issue in so far as I am not looking for advice (so mods do as you wish).

I actually talked to a girl this evening - on my own :eek:

I'm in my mid twenties and I have only ever once talked to a girl in a club/pub for more than five minutes (and I go out a lot). Yeah that means no scoring either.

This isn't a confidence thing (I look pretty decent, work in sales etc) but rather a general inability to hold an inane conversation with anyone.
If I 'aint got anything important or interesting to say then I keep me mouth shut.

Anyway, while this led nowhere (other factors) it was a massive step forward and I feel pretty good

Doper Than U

Well, good for you. Half the planet hasn't got anything important to say either, but that doesn't stop them from having a conversation. Don't forget, no-one expects you to come out with something super-intelligent every time you open your mouth. And the fact that you don't talk too much makes you naturally a good listener, so if someone strikes up a conversation with you, go with it, ask questions about them and their interests (if it's relevent). Even if you don't usually talk unless you've got something necessary to say, you'll find that most other people love talking about themselves.

LegacyUser

practice makes perfect!

doper, who's that in your sig?

Doper Than U

That is the late, great Aaliyah. My favourite singer. Hiphop/r'n'b... she sang Try Again, One in a million, More than a Woman. She died in a plane crash in 2001 at 22.

LegacyUser

ah, yer wan

WhiteWashMan

ahe was in that stupid vampire movie wasnt she?
brutal.

well done OP. keep up the chatting. as bob hoskins once said, its good to talk....

nobodythere

"Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something."
-- Plato

Congrats, I was in the same boat as you about two weeks ago. Unfortunately the girl I asked had a boyfriend. But the fact that I got the guts to talk to her worked wonders for me. I've been more confident, to the point that I've actually beeing flirting with a female friend - who admitted to fancying me afterwards! Cool!

Sharza-

grasshopa wrote:

"Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something."
-- Plato

Then...


"Wise men don't pull"
-- Me

Victor

It happened me once, she keep interrupting my book.

jesus_thats_gre

This is a new low...

azezil

Twice wrote:

This is going to sound unbelievably lame and probably isn't a personal issue in so far as I am not looking for advice (so mods do as you wish).

I actually talked to a girl this evening - on my own :eek:

I'm in my mid twenties and I have only ever once talked to a girl in a club/pub for more than five minutes (and I go out a lot). Yeah that means no scoring either.

This isn't a confidence thing (I look pretty decent, work in sales etc) but rather a general inability to hold an inane conversation with anyone.
If I 'aint got anything important or interesting to say then I keep me mouth shut.

Anyway, while this led nowhere (other factors) it was a massive step forward and I feel pretty good

Victor!?

po0k

laughed_out_loud

Static M.e.

inane conversation with anyone.

Can't stand this crap either, I usually just get bored listening to myself and walk off mid sentance

WhiteWashMan

Static M.e. wrote:

Can't stand this crap either, I usually just get bored listening to myself and walk off mid sentance

you sound really cool. is it any wonder that women think that most blokes are idiots?

Boston

Whats wrong in boring conversations. Though I do hate the weather.

ven0m

Good work fella....... now you got one foot forward, try move the other one forward too & next thing you know, you're walking


::: ven0mous :::

fozzle

Well done Twice!

If you want to meet more girls (and end up with actual topics of conversation) then might I suggest joining a club or society in your area? It's a great way of meeting people with similar interests, and it makes it much easier to get conversations started.

Good luck!

Static M.e.

you sound really cool

it was a joke WWW fair enough a poor one but a joke none the less.

Oryx

If you were to eavesdrop on other conversations, you would realise most of them are totally inane! The best ones involve being interested in the other person, giving your total attention, and listening instead of talking about yourself. It doesnt matter what the hell youre talking about, could be anything (tho babies and politics are best avoided ) Havent perfected the art myself yet, but well done you, I know how hard it can be! Those you see who are really good at it have bags of confidence and couldnt give a fiddlers what they are coming out with.

Anyway, if we all had something interesting to talk about boards wouldnt be so full of crazy meanderings

Victor

azezil wrote:

Victor!?

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=199151

LegacyUser

KatieK wrote:

If you were to eavesdrop on other conversations, you would realise most of them are totally inane! The best ones involve being interested in the other person, giving your total attention, and listening instead of talking about yourself. It doesnt matter what the hell youre talking about, could be anything (tho babies and politics are best avoided ) Havent perfected the art myself yet, but well done you, I know how hard it can be! Those you see who are really good at it have bags of confidence and couldnt give a fiddlers what they are coming out with.

Anyway, if we all had something interesting to talk about boards wouldnt be so full of crazy meanderings

Yeah I know this. I used to listen to the more sucessful around me and actually take notes (seriously).

I do the listening thing quite well, that's why I could talk to this girl, she liked to talk, which took the pressure off me.

'nyways - I'm going to give this whole talking to them thing a go Not so much to it.