What would you do??? Awkward girl situation.

Chris_533976

Ok so what would you do in this situation.

You havent had a girlfriend for years, due to time pressure and a socially unacceptable course at college (physics) that doesnt attract the girls. This naturally pisses you off.

After a lot of waiting, this French girl turns up in the class who is utterly stunning. Noone else really pays attention to her but when you start talking to her you really fancy her and cant get her out of your mind now. She stops to talk to you and you occasionally notice her checking you out. Signs are good.

BUT

You are only a few months from the end of college altogether. This means the Final Exams, which are gonna be really ****ing hard and you dont know if you'll be passing them, despite working hard for the weeks before. You also know full well that this girl is going back to France at the start of the summer and that you wont see her again unless you pull some kind of stunt now and get with her.

What would you do??? Would you say **** it, I'll go after her its worth a shot, or would you say **** it, I cant be going after her now Ive too much study to do, forget about this lovely girl altogether and concentrate on exams.

MadsL

Ask her what her plans are for the summer, see if a bunch of you can go travelling/interrail/go somewhere weird. Invite her along. Stay friends til then.

Boro

You know what they say - "life is short"
Face it, most of the cool stuff you will do in your life will be in college. After you get out and enter the rat race (ie start working), you will be too busy/tired to do the things you can do in college (such as take time off to woo the ladies, wake up at 4 in the afternoon, spend the week in the pub, etc).

I say go for it. You never know, she could turn out to be your future soul mate and you would never know. (She could also turn out to be someone that you just cant stand once you start talking to her). Either way, you wont know unless you give it a try. And if you do 'click' - well the summer is a great time for exploring these sort of things.

Just make sure you have a study timetable and STICK to it. You can afford a few hours here and there to be with a pretty girl The best place to meet and greet girls is college, its never as easy outside!

Chinafoot

ask her if she'd like to study together......then after a few hours hard graft ask her if she wants to head to the pub for an unwind pint?

two birds with one stone there.

dudara

Good suggestion there about the study timetable. Take a chance, and ask her out, remember that she's also going to have to study for exams, so she'll understand .

You'll only regret it if you don't ask her out.

The_B_Man

yeah ask her to a study session and an unwind pint. i say go for it and if worst comes to worst then u can always repeat ur exams in august.

Third_Echelon

carp the diem.... and typedef that french lady...

seriously, whats the worst that could happen?

Firetrap

Go for it. If nothing else, you won't look back in years to come and wonder "what if...."

senordingdong

I'd have to agree with peachypants, his idea seems to be the best.

If I was you though, I'd worry about the exams, the last thing you need at exam time is a distraction....especially one as big as infatuation.
And the more time you spend with her etc...the more you'll think about her.

I'd suggest staying away and studying but the second those exams are over you should drop everyhting else and do what you can before she has to head home.

Spunj

Been there with the French girl going home after the summer thing. All I can say is make the most of whats going on now, it's a 'ships in the night' affair :P

Oh and as for the exams, she could make a good study partner

lost_lad

Chris_533976 wrote:

this French girl turns up in the class who is utterly stunning.

You may never find a stunning physicist ( ) so you'd be crazy to not go for it!!
Study with her and let it happen au naturel.
Goodluck!!

jrey1981

I would say go for it. My former housemate was a phsyics student - and I know about the lack of female interest on the course...I on the otherhand did journalism (drools in HomerSimpsonesque mannter on laptop keyboard at memories of uni)

Yeah, suggest studying and/or coffee after a lecture and take it from there (drools in HomerSimpsonesque manner at memory of hot swedish chick suggesting 'studying together')

Ah those were the days.

Skank

go for it dude life is to short if i had told the girl who i care about loads , when i saw her lst or b4 i went , away and she done the same i would of told her how i felt its not hard to do , it just requires 2 things ,

belef in your self and confidance , 2 things that are there just find it ...

ask her for a coffe some time show some interest , make her laugh , talk see how she is give it a few weeks of doing this regularly , and ask her out for a meal or something learn a bit of french cause shel like that , and just see how it goes ....good luck ....

senordingdong

No, don't go for it.

You don't want to risk messing up the exams for whihc you have spent four years preparing for what might be a few good signs.

tinkerbell

The_B_Man wrote:

yeah ask her to a study session and an unwind pint. i say go for it and if worst comes to worst then u can always repeat ur exams in august.

Chris_533976, you are going to be doing your FINAL exams this May. Since they are gonna be your finals, you do not want to mess them up by failing one so that you have to repeat in August. This "if worst comes to worst, then you can always repeat your exams in August" is not good advice because if you do have to repeat, you could end up with a Pass degree (I know in some colleges that if you fail the first attempt, they give you a blanket Pass result).

You need to put your exams first because you ain't even going out with this girl. Do what someone else suggested, ask her if she wants a study buddy. If you hit it off and get together, fine, but stick to your study timetable. If you don't hit it off, just pass it off as experience and concentrate on getting your exams.

And considering the results of these exams are what you'll be putting down on your CV for future career prospects, you don't wanna mess them up. It is your future after all.

senordingdong

Now that I've thought about it more....I thiink the study date idea is also a bad idea.

This girl is already a big distraction, so imagine how much work you're not going to get done if you're studyign together.

0utshined

Guys, it's only March. The guy has plenty of time to study AND work on the French girl. He'll regret it if he doesn't at least give it a try.

Mr. Presentable

Your ultimate purpose in life ain't good exam results, it's procreation. If she's hot and willing, you will be improving the human gene pool, so get at it!

Phil_321

Yeah, go fook the French bird and then fook the exams.

dazberry

Chris_533976 wrote:

You are only a few months from the end of college altogether. This means the Final Exams, which are gonna be really ****ing hard and you dont know if you'll be passing them, despite working hard for the weeks before. You also know full well that this girl is going back to France at the start of the summer and that you wont see her again...

Well why don't you make this known to her. Instead of some mad cosmic plan, just tell her you like her, but with the exams coming up etc., her going back to France subsequently etc., sort of like what you told us. See what she says.

D.

Skank

senordingdong wrote:

Now that I've thought about it more....I thiink the study date idea is also a bad idea.

This girl is already a big distraction, so imagine how much work you're not going to get done if you're studyign together.

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How can you say that ? exams ive been to collage for five yrs ive done 3 seperate course i left school in 3rd yr , i work from home as well and i never passed a single one im doing very well for my self ..and im doing my first and last year on nother course ,exams arnt important .well i dont think they are .

Exams are only a minoer issue , dude you can do it have fun

Zillah

Go for it!! Always! Sieze sieze!!!

The_B_Man

it seems that the blokes are all sayin "roide her", and the girls are sayin "study, study, study".
wonder why that is? :rolleyes:

700th post

Humblebee

phlematic wrote:

Go for it!! Always! Sieze sieze!!!

No need to make him paranoid about his "sieze" too

To the OP, "seize" the opportunity, but don't let it be an excuse for letting your grades slip. You'll have to learn how to balance things at some stage in your life, anyway. There will always always always be exams, study, work, etc, to raise your blood pressure but it's not too often (least not in my experience) that you meet a person that gets the blood racing. Make a bit of effort all around (and ignore my little slogan below) and you'll manage! Have fun...

senordingdong

Skank wrote:

##
exams arnt important .well i dont think they are .

Exams are only a minoer issue , dude you can do it have fun

I think they are very important, especially if he has spent four years working towards them.
Women come and go.

senordingdong

The_B_Man wrote:

it seems that the blokes are all sayin "roide her", and the girls are sayin "study, study, study".

I am NOT a girl.
Look at the name...it says SENOR, not SENORITA!

Skank

senordingdong wrote:

I think they are very important, especially if he has spent four years working towards them.
Women come and go.

no no no no not always maybe he will pass with or with out the girl look i think he should go for it ,

He might be wonderin about what if and well , i have been like that and still am ocasionally so why not ? and i have done things about those what if girls im not affriad to say something and well it hasnt worked out yet and well its not that hard of a thing to do hes got eams and he likes a girl shore ya can concintrate on more then one thing .....

but thats what i think .

But then again some people say im in sane but shore i think there insane , but any way i have a little world to live in and your not invited so ur out of look .....

WhiteWashMan

Chris_533976 wrote:

You havent had a girlfriend for years, due to time pressure and a socially unacceptable course at college (physics) that doesnt attract the girls. This naturally pisses you off..

wow! how does your course attract girls?

i did physics in college, and i was never left wanting.

Chris_533976 wrote:

She stops to talk to you and you occasionally notice her checking you out. Signs are good.

you think shes checking out.
that doesnt mean she is.

there are no signs.

jeez, invite her out for a drink already and get back to studying.

Victor

From experience:

1. She has a boyfriend in France.
2. She's also seeing some guy here.
3. You will be "friends".

If not, go for it. Inviting her for lunch is easy in a college canteen.

But do be aware of what you will be doing for the summer. You may be doing her or you may be doing repeats.

senordingdong wrote:

I am NOT a girl. Look at the name...it says SENOR, not SENORITA!

We can change that. :eek:

Doodee

WhiteWashMan wrote:

you think shes checking out.
that doesnt mean she is.

there are no signs.

That is unless your studying IT.