Lonely on Valentines Day!

janullrich

Hey guys, well I guess I will be writing for a lot of u out there who are going this Valentine's Day as single guys. It is pain in the ass with the day that is it. I wonder are the single girls out there dying to get this day over with!?

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

it's just another ****ing monday

sweet jesus people, get over it

LegacyUser

Not at all!

Sarky

If it wasn't for Valentine's Day, we'd be staring at cheap tacky Paddy's day crappy green-white-n-gold furry tophats and novelty inflatable hammers for a whole extra bloody month. A worrying thought, I'm sure you'll agree.

Nevertheless, a stupid day. I fully intend to sleep through most of it, arising only to listen to the radio play I was taking part in for Galway's Muscailt week, and head off to work. If, by some bizarre and extremely improbable chance, anyone should tell me they have feelings for me tomorrow, I believe I shall laugh at them for choosing that particular day to say so. Then probably jump them, but the point is I'll have laughed first.

solas

I agree with mordeth, it's just another day.
I've been single for a while so it has little meaning to me, but even when I was in relationships it was never an issue.
Was with someone for five years and he hated the idea of valentines day passionately, I got brave one year and bought him a rose, he was quite insulted heh..
I don't think Irish people buy into it all that much really.

but happy lovers day to all the romantics out there.

bennyx_o

It's just another day invented by the card companies to make more money. Be happy you don't have to buy an overpriced card and some other sort of present.

Amz

janullrich wrote:

Hey guys, well I guess I will be writing for a lot of u out there who are going this Valentine's Day as single guys. It is pain in the ass with the day that is it. I wonder are the single girls out there dying to get this day over with!?

Why the hell would we single girls give a monkeys?

Just another day, I don't know why people get so stressed over it.

Pancake Tuesday, now there's a day! I wonder how many people forgot about that and went without pancakes?!

That'd be shockin'!

I love pancake Tuesday ... Feckit! I love pancakes!

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

People keep agreeing with me today.. it's unnverving


I forgot pancake tuesday, but my mammy bought pancake mix before I got up

Amz

Cool! Mammy's are great like that.

solas

I would have agreed with sarky too only I didn't see his post at the time.

nesf

I dunno, I've been single so long that i didn't realise that valentine's day was coming up until someone pointed it out to me. I think there might be an anti-valentine's day singles piss up in one of the bars I frequent. I may go to that, or more likely I'll ignore Valentine's day altogether.

I can understand how some people get very lonely and upset on it, but personally I find Christmas far more depressing.

Oh and yes Pancake Tuesay is far far more important!!

Amz

Damn right it is!

Sarky

I propose we declare a SECOND pancake Tuesday. You know it's the only logical step from here.

NotMe

Amz wrote:

Why the hell would we single girls give a monkeys?

Just another day, I don't know why people get so stressed over it.

Pancake Tuesday, now there's a day! I wonder how many people forgot about that and went without pancakes?!

That'd be shockin'!

I love pancake Tuesday ... Feckit! I love pancakes!

I actually missed Pancake Tuesday :eek: ... and Ash Wednesday. Strange. And Valetines Day? Meh... just another day.

Amz

I like it!

(I might even make pancakes now!)

NotMe

Amz wrote:

(I might even make pancakes now!)

Now that's an idea!

Agent7249

meh, just another day, good excuse to renue relationship for those who'r in one and for those who are single to exert themselves to get into one. Of course I think its all a load of malarky but how and ever!

Amz

My dad thought someone was trying to break in, pancakes will have to wait!

Eep!

NotMe

Sleep now. Pancakes for breakfast.

I think this thread has gone a bit off topic.

Sarky

Pancakes are never off topic. You can make them for the love of your life, if you have one. And the rest of us can just eat them. Everyone's happy.

Sherifu

The Pancake thread
That picture

NotMe

Surely it's breakfast time now. I've given up on the thought of getting any sleep.

Sherifu

this pancake talk has made me hungry too.....

The_Conductor

Back on topic again.

For all of you poor souls who haven't got a secret admirer or significant other to mysteriously send you a card- heres the history of Valentines Day.

Valentines Day derives its origins from the ancient Roman feast of Luperialia. In the early days of Rome, fierce wolves roamed the woods nearby. The romans called upon one of their gods, Lupercus, to keep the wolves away. A festival held in honour of Lupercus was celebrated on February the 15th. The festival was celebrated as a spring festival. Their calender was different at that time, with February falling in early springtime.

One of the customs of the young people was name - drawing. On the eve of the festival of Lupercus the names of roman girls were written on slips of paper and placed into jars. Each young man drew a slip. The girl whose name was chosen was to be his sweetheart for the year.

Legend has it that the holiday became Valentines day after a priest named Valentine.

Valentine was a priest in Rome at the time Christianity was a new religion. The emperor at that time, Claudius II, ordered the roman soldiers not to marry or become engaged. Claudius believed that as married men his soldiers would want stay at home with their families rather than fight his wars.

Valentine defied the emperors decree and secretly married the young couples. He was eventually arrested, imprisoned, and put to death.

Valentine was beheaded on February 14th, the eve of the roman holiday Lupercalia. After his death, Valentine was made a saint and as Rome became more Christian, the priests moved the spring holiday from the 15th of February to the 14th, Valentine's day. Now the holiday honoured Saint Valentine instead of Lupercus.

The_Conductor

Middle age lore focused on what bird a woman saw on Valentine's Day. If a robin flew overhead "she would marry a sailor", if it was a sparrow, "she'd marry a poor man" but be very happy, and "if she saw a goldfinch, she'd marry a millionaire."

More middle age lore: if you cut an apple in half and counted the seeds on Valentine's day, you would get the number of children you were destined to have.

In the middle ages, men and women drew valentine's names from a bowl and then wore the name on their sleeves for a week, leading to the expression, "wearing your heart on your sleeve."

Heart, keys, and keyholes were favorite valentines decorations in Wales, because they meant, "you unlock my heart."

Flowers became a Valentine's Day gift in the 1600s when a daughter of Henry IV, king of France, gave a party where each woman received a bouquet from the man selected as her Valentine.

Static M.e.

Its just another day in lonelysvile. Population me .......

lol

I love the idea of valentines day, its just gone WAY to far ! now its a national obsession to out do one another and OMG if you forget Val. day you might as well have said " Yes you do look fat in that......."

billy the squid

Static M.e. wrote:

Its just another day in lonelysvile. Population me .......

lol

I love the idea of valentines day, its just gone WAY to far ! now its a national obsession to out do one another and OMG if you forget Val. day you might as well have said " Yes you do look fat in that......."

dont worry only another 15 hours to go.

WhiteWashMan

janullrich wrote:

Hey guys, well I guess I will be writing for a lot of u out there who are going this Valentine's Day as single guys. It is pain in the ass with the day that is it. I wonder are the single girls out there dying to get this day over with!?

well, im guessign youre lonely all the rest of the days of the year, or is this one different?
why is it a pain in the ass to be single on this day?

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

Amz wrote:

I like it!

(I might even make pancakes now!)

I love you

Sleepy

As I've said to everyone I've met this morning: Happy Hallmark Day!

tman

Amz wrote:

Pancake Tuesday, now there's a day! I wonder how many people forgot about that and went without pancakes?!

i miss living at home

Altheus

tman wrote:

i miss living at home

Well my girlfriend made me pancakes in bed today, not to mention her other little surprises I love living away from home.

It may be a Hallmark Holiday, but for us guys it's a nice excuse when you forget anniversaries. I made the trade off. It's Christmas, birthday and valentines OR anniversary.

MrGump

Amz! Happy Valentines Day! will u be my electronic valentine!????

On a more important note, Germany doesn't celebrate Pancake Tuesday! I awoke to talk of 'Fasching' a holiday where people dress up and wander through the town centre dancing! Give me the lazy inactivity of eating pancakes anyday! Perhaps even TODAY!

ixoy

Amz wrote:

Pancake Tuesday, now there's a day! I wonder how many people forgot about that and went without pancakes?!

Me! I only realized at lunch time on the day and all the shops had sold out. I didn't have time to cook them that evening either

Fortunately I made some Saturday lunchtime (or, more particularly, I supervised someone else making them) and I was sated by the end. The lesson? It's stupid to just focus on celebrating the gift of pancakes on one day of the year. Pancakes are there, waiting for us 365 days a year and the best pancakes may come on those days when you're least expecting it rather than society, or some old custom, saying when pancakes should be eaten.

WhiteWashMan

i dont like pancakes.

but thats no reason tot ake this thread off topic....

i still want to know why people get upset at not having a partner on valentines day.
dp people really have so low self esteem that they get upset over some makey uppy love day?

Elessar

God bless us cynical Irish.

Altheus

Well the truth is that when you've got somebody, Valentines is quite a pleasant formality. I mean I know plenty of atheists who wouldnt give up the "makey uppy" holiday of Christmas....

Mrs.Babalady

To answer your question WWM, i'm feeling a little low today as it's the first Valentines Day since I was dumped by the man I has discussed & agreed on marriage & family etc with.(something I had NEVER done before)

Valentines Day never bothered me before I met him but now I have memories of previous Valentines with him when he did nice & thoughtful things for me.

I'm not devastated, just remembering.

This time next year - who knows ??

mmmm pancakes-always a favourite. Nicest ones ever from The Pancake H.Q. beside Busarus,is it still there?

The_Conductor

WhiteWashMan wrote:

i still want to know why people get upset at not having a partner on valentines day.
dp people really have so low self esteem that they get upset over some makey uppy love day?

You don't need to have low self esteem to get upset over not having a partner, significant other or whatever on Valentine's Day. Seeing everyone else going around- smooching in public, being all lovey-dovey, its difficult to not get all caught up in things.

I know Valentine's Day is a commercial event more than anything else, I don't need reminding of that. But the underlying origins of the day do still tug on people's heart strings.

I think romance is sweet.

S.

WhiteWashMan

i think romance is sweet as well, but lets face it, people are always going to be smooching on the street. there really is no difference, except people notice the 'lovey' activities of others more becuase of the day that is in it

im not dismissing peoples feelings based on being dumped etc, im just wondering why people always feel the need to get suicidal on the 14th of feb if they dont have a partner.
im just wondering about the whole self pitying part of it.

Altheus

I think it's the single biggest day that you are aware that sometimes companionship could be the root to happiness.

The only similiar situation I can think of is not spending Christmas with your family and friends, not receiving any presents or cards, and then watching the Cosby Christmas Special. Horrible.

The_Conductor

WhiteWashMan wrote:

im just wondering about the whole self pitying part of it.

I really don't think there is a self-pitying aspect to it- more a recognition or a longing that just is not as evident a lot of the time. Altheus puts it well- you are more aware of not having a partner. That does not mean you are in a downward spiral of depression or self pitying in nature- rather a recognition that you are not altogether happy with the current lie of the land. Its not that the emotions or feelings are not there all the other 364 days of the year, just that they are not so "in your face" in nature.

Doodee

If its really that big an issue then why not head out on the piss tonight, find a bird that is looking at you and go and get with her.
IF your gonna go chasing women just cause your feeling lonely then at some point in the relationship one person shall end up feeling like crap.
Valentines, no matter how sweet its begining, has turned into a complete commercial poppy crap type day. I would much perfer "NO Work day" where i dont have to goto work and answer calls.

There are lots of people single on Valentines, and the only difference between it and yesterday is its label.

And Dear lord, how can mixing coleslaw and chicken give you gas?

Altheus

Okay, and Christmas, Paddy's Day, New Years, your Birthday, Anniversaries and EVERY OTHER F'ING day is JUST a day. I think we all realize that St. Valentine's DAY is just a DAY with a name, exploited just like every other day, with the exception of possibly a few other Saints' days by business. Can we not see through all that crass anti-corporate sentimentality and have an excuse to have a laugh, send a card, make a few jokes, contemplate our love lives, go out and do something nice for your girlfriend...

... also Doodee, I think you've confused St. Valentine's Day with Thursday night in Copperface Jacks. Also you've got your no work day, in the form of a Bank Holiday, which instead of spending money on stuff for your loved one, you spend it on booze for yourself.

Doodee

Altheus wrote:

Okay, and Christmas, Paddy's Day, New Years, your Birthday, Anniversaries and EVERY OTHER F'ING day is JUST a day. I think we all realize that St. Valentine's DAY is just a DAY with a name, exploited just like every other day, with the exception of possibly a few other Saints' days by business. Can we not see through all that crass anti-corporate sentimentality and have an excuse to have a laugh, send a card, make a few jokes, contemplate our love lives, go out and do something nice for your girlfriend...

... also Doodee, I think you've confused St. Valentine's Day with Thursday night in Copperface Jacks. Also you've got your no work day, in the form of a Bank Holiday, which instead of spending money on stuff for your loved one, you spend it on booze for yourself.

Firstly, I have far better things to spend my bank holiday money on than drink.
You dont even know me so i suggest you refrain from making personal comments.

Secondly, you shouldn't require a single day in the year to feel the need to treat/spend money on your loved ones, if you do well then its fortunate to have such a day then, otherwise you'd see people as being the same cranky gits they are every other day of the week.

Quite frankly, there are rather more sound basis for the other holiday periods.

Altheus

That bank holiday quip was not a comment aimed solely at you Doodee, I dont know you, so for all I know you could spend the money on something completely different. Fact is, 80% of people spend their Bank Holiday getting plastered.

Quite frankly, there are rather more sound basis for the other holiday periods.

Right so Santa Claus and gift giving at Christmas to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ. Eating a giant bunny's chocolate eggs no less to celebrate the end of lent. Getting pissed listening to a bit of diddly eye, and wearing shamrocks, to celebrate St. Patricks day.

Buying or doing something sentimental, telling someone you love them, acting upon impulse towards another, you love or could love. To be honest St. Valentine's Day is the purest of the holidays, gifts are non-essential. What people want is to feel loved or to love. That's all it is, beyond the gifts. To say there's a more sound basis for other holidays is ridiculous.

If anything Valentine's Day is a modern holiday based around a simple emotion, not a reworked pagan ritual, or a symbolic gesture, or a complete farce.

Thirdly, of course we don't need a reason to act out for other people, but you've really missed the point of it all haven't you? You don't have to participate, you can be bitter and say you don't care, you can completely ignore it, and say you don't care. You can completely not participate and cast it aside, and maintain a mundane schedule and regular routine, and run it down as a corporate invention. Or alternatively, you could write a little note to a girl you fancy in the office, leave it on her desk and wait for the reaction.

You enjoy another painful Monday morning, I'll remain excited at the prospect of what my girlfriend has in store for me later on. Just like any other day, but just a little bit different.

Static M.e.

Fact is, 80% of people spend their Bank Holiday getting plastered.

Some of the best nights of the year !! that along with Good Friday and Christmas eve !!

The people who dont like Valentine's day have to learn to improvise ! think out side the box and all that. Like today I got a brand new Wavemaster case for Valentines day !! and I just made myself this really nice card to give to me !

...I am so lucky to have me....

MickFarr

When’s Valentines Day?

janullrich

God what was meant to be a pretty innocent comment turned out to be a lot of assholes talking crap. I will remember to spend my time better next time. U all must be bored. Get a life.

Static M.e.

U all must be bored. Get a life

Thats me 100% ! Seriously borrrrrreeed. Slow day in work what can I say.

Sorry if offended

WhiteWashMan

well, i guess you reap what you sow.

so, it looks like you are a bit grumpy today, what with you being on your own on valentines day.

but dont worry, like i said, you can be lonely on all the other days of the year as well. this day is no more special than any other.

personally though i feel that you should treat your partner like they are special every day of the year. and there is no limitation on when flowers and presents can be bought. i like to think my partner gets nice presies and lots of love all the time.