What should Ido??

minnie_mouse

Hi all,

I'm looking for some advice. A few months ago, me and a friend decided to go work in spain this summer on a usit program. I was really excited as my life is quite ****ty at the momment, and it gave me something to focus on and look forward to. Anyway yesterday she decided she cound't be arsed. I was annoyded cause she's let me down on other things before. We hadnt booked yet anyway. None of my other friends are intersted in going, so I was thinking feck it Il go on my own, Im a quiet shy person and this would be a big step for me but I figure It might do me the world of good. Any advice have people done this before? Any thoughts or ideas greatly apreciated

Sarky

Personally? I'd give it a go. One of the best ways to learn confidence and meet people is to be forced to do it.

I went abroad on my own a little over a year ago, to several countries in Europe. I was pretty nervous about the whole thing, as the only foreign language I speak is French (and even then, very poor), and I was also taking in Germany and Switzerland, but I soon got used to it, and had a great time while I was there.

Go on, do it. You're missing out if you don't.

0utshined

I say go for it. I did something similar to Sarky and railed across Europe. Doing it by yourself can give you more self-reliance and confidence in your own decisions. You can also do the things that you want to do without having to rely on someone else agreeing to it. The Lonely Planet forums can be helpful.

I'd recommend bringing a credit card with you too. Worst case scenario, If you need to get back in a hurry you can book a flight straight away.

Again, do it. Even if you come back after two weeks, at least you gave it a go and will have a few stories to tell which is more than your friend.

vibrant

Go on your own! I know a girl who went inter railing around Europe for three months on her own, she had a ball.

Third_Echelon

Yeah definitlely go for it. What do you have to lose?
These type of things are great confidence and character builders... If you can deal with this type of situation, you can deal with anything.

Don't wait about for your 'friends' on matters like this, if you want to do it, do it... You'll only regret it in a few years time when you realise that you wasted another summer in Ireland.... which isn't necessarily a bad thing, but if you have the opportunity to go travelling for a summer and see other countries, its a lot better option...

Carpe Diem.

Ruu_Old

Go for it, or you'll regret it later You'll experience different cultures and meet lots of different people, so its well worth a go, best of luck whatever your decision

popinfresh

I'm gonna go against everyone and so DON'T. If something goes wrong you'll be on ur own and fecked..

[Jackass]

I went inter-railing with a couple of mates before (the 3 of us), and we met loads of people from everywhere on there own, we hung around with them, went on the p!ss with them, and just had a savage time...couldn't agree more, go for it!! I admire your balls too, cause i would loveto go again, and on my own for the expierience (independance and all that), but don't know if i could...it is intimidating though

Shrimp

Go for it.. and It's not like you'll be traveling around loads so family anf friends will be able to contact you easily..

Seriously you'll regret it when your older if you dont.. It's only at this time in your life it's possible to do things like this with ease.. And talk to your friends, she might change her mind.. You never now..

I am MAN

Go for it, this could be a life changing experience and it will get you out of this useless country.

Lord Panic

I'd say go for it, I missed a chance to spend last summer in the states and regret it so much, its not exactly a long distance away, at least give it a shot, its not hard to come home if ya need to!

minnie_mouse

Thanks guys good advice, I know it will do me the power of gud.

Friend textd today, sayn she was on for spain, I thought id stand up for myself so I txtd back saying in a nice way, how do i know you're not going to change ur mind again etc she replied anyway she's not responsible for whether her descions make me happy etc etc, I was just upset when you're going away you have to think of the other person you're planning it with

Anyway, im excited about going on my own!! ( to hell with my friend)I know this sounds corny
but I feel all happy that for the first time in a long time ive made a good descion. I know if it all turns pear shaped I can hop on a plane in come home in at least i tried

kasintahan

Get a "Let's Go" or "Lonely Planet" book (or both) before you go.
Preferable on the specific country that your intereted in (the generic "European" ones are usually poor).

They give all kinds of useful info on accomodation, restaurants (location, prices, tipping etc), nightlife etc.

I don't think I would have survived as well as I did, alone in SE Asia, without something to give me ideas.

gubby

I think that perhaps your friend is now jealous that you are not bothered whether she is coming or not.. she wanted to have the power over your going or not.. now, she if she realizes that you are not depending on her she will do one of two things.. not go cos she is a scardy cat, or go knowing that you are not such a pushover as she had believed. go for it!!!

WhiteWashMan

jesus, both of you put your handbags away. its not abloody competition. so waht is your friend changed their mind. does that make them an awful person?

to be honest, id find it less than impressive if i told my friend i wanted to go again and id made a mistake and my friend told me to bugger off.

sounds like games of one-up-manship to me.
sad and petty.

minnie_mouse

I can understand where you're coming from white wash man, fair enough people can change their mind and she is entitled to but it was her that suggestd it etc, but she's always doing that, now she wants to go but says she might come home after a week and for me to bring another friend for back up if she changes her mind. We get on great and have the same sense of humour etc but things like this annoy me about her, like we would mean to head out and she would change her minf JUST IN CASE some guy might aske her out.

Some people tell me she's not worth having as a friend but i don't know. I mean the fact that im thinking, Il go myself, and SHOW HERthat im capable of being idependent etc dosent say alot about our friendship or prehaps me as a person. Sorry if this is confusing , im kinda thinking about everything as a write.