Premature?

LegacyUser

What counts as premature ejaculation? I can't last more than five or ten minutes during penetrative sex. Almost any other sexual activity I've ever tried I can last in the region of half an hour before coming but once I'm inside a girl I find it difficult to last. Am I overly-sensitive, am I spending too long on foreplay or is there some trick I don't know?

Firewalkwithme

It could be to do with the fact that you are more sexually aroused during penetration. Try to relax, pay attention to your body and try to get used to the feeling without focusing too much on the actual act you are performing. Think about something else if it helps. Not quite 'lie back and think of England' but it helps.

Think of your granny

Beruthiel

now Papa, that is not good advice! if he does that it will never happen for him again! :eek:

MojoMaker

Stop worrying about it, premature ejaculation is in the region on 5 to 10secs on entry, or more worryingly, before entry happens at all. Didn't you see American Pie?

Sounds like you're simply very turned on by this girl. Nothing wrong with that. A condom will help reduce the sensitivity, alternatively have one off the cuff earlier in the day, or perhaps just beforehand. Hell why not do this together?

In 10 years time you'll be banging the drum for hours with no result and you'll think back to this thread and wince.

seamus

Regardless of what porn movies and TV tell you, anyone who can go for twenty minutes, full throttle and pumping sweat is a freak of nature.

Five to ten minutes sounds good, above average. Your concentration should lie in other areas, so that by the time it comes to penetration, she's aroused enough to only require those five or ten minutes you supply. Try other positions. Woman-on-top increases a man's ability to control himself, and will give you better longevity, whereas doggystyle tends to make you come quicker, because of the depth and tightness of the penetration.

Many (most afaik) woman never climax through penetration. If you can make her climax otherwise, your longevity is irrelevant. Most women will get sore after 20 minutes anyway.

Premature ejaculation is ejaculating before penetration (without masturbation obviously), so you're far from premature.

Firewalkwithme

seamus wrote:

anyone who can go for twenty minutes, full throttle and pumping sweat is a freak of nature.

Are you calling me a freak?

Beruthiel

Despatch wrote:

Are you calling me a freak?

Despatch
please take a few minutes to read this forums charter
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meditraitor

Papa Smut wrote:

Think of your granny

LOL

your doing OK dude, thats a good starting point, raw passion during sex will do that. if you want to go longer just go a second or third time, this will increase the time it takes to ejaculate.
But be aware time spent is not always the main factor, most woman would prefer 5 mins of passion to an hour of monotonous penetration, if she enjoys the rush dont worry.
as you get more sexually aware, this worry about time will be non-existent. as long the two of you get something from the sex thats oll that matters

ven0m

HowLong? wrote:

What counts as premature ejaculation? I can't last more than five or ten minutes during penetrative sex. Almost any other sexual activity I've ever tried I can last in the region of half an hour before coming but once I'm inside a girl I find it difficult to last. Am I overly-sensitive, am I spending too long on foreplay or is there some trick I don't know?

Maybe you should try a 'stronger' or denser variety of condom which should dull some sensation, or else try the '9 short, 1 long' approach.... You could also try out the Durex Performa [sp??] condoms, which apparently can help - from what I've been told. In fairness though, you're doing pretty ok by normal standards - most guys can barely make the 5/6 min mark....

Also might help if you relaxed & focussed more on the moment than the end result, which can also help bring about a premature big bang.... but it's not premature ejaculation by any standards; you wanna see that, watch American Pie in the scene with Jim & Nadia in the room - THAT'S premature!!!!

In the immortal words of Jim's Dad:

"Keep plugging away son, and good things will happen!"


::: ven0mous :::

Firewalkwithme

Beruthiel wrote:

Despatch
please take a few minutes to read this forums charter
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I'm sorry Beruthiel, that was inappropriate but I was just trying to be lighthearted because I really don't think HowLong has any need to worry.

Me too. Sorry

simu

seamus wrote:

Regardless of what porn movies and TV tell you, anyone who can go for twenty minutes, full throttle and pumping sweat is a freak of nature.

I've met a few freaks in my time then.

@ original poster, if you spend a lot of time on foreplay, 5-10 minutes might be enough time for both of you to come anyway. Everyone is different and it's arriving at the destination that counts rather than the journey itself or whatever.

MojoMaker

simu wrote:

it's arriving at the destination that counts rather than the journey itself.

Spoken like a true virgin

LegacyUser

simu wrote:

I've met a few freaks in my time then.

@ original poster, if you spend a lot of time on foreplay, 5-10 minutes might be enough time for both of you to come anyway. Everyone is different and it's arriving at the destination that counts rather than the journey itself or whatever.

I'd usually have spent around half an hour of foreplay at the point of penetration. Most girls I've slept with would have already had an orgasm before the main course itself.

ChRoMe

"Five to ten minutes sounds good, above average" Not getting all male bravado and all but 10mins above average wtf?

To the original poster you just seem to be too excited (which is fair enough!) The previous advice of not totally concentrating on one small detail but just relax and let the experience take you in so to speak. If you have problems doing that a spliff of good skunk will let you last ages. I had a ex who nearly demanded that I smoke up before we got close.

edited to add:

If using illegal substances doesnt agree with you there is other options. Why dont you get your girlfriend to **** you off. When you feel very close to cuming get her to slow down. If you do stuff like that you will train yourself pretty quickly to only cum when you want to.

ChRoMe

simu

MojoMaker wrote:

Spoken like a true virgin

There is no absolute truth in these matters - you have to adapt for each PI and I think the expression I used, though clichéd, could help and enhearten the original poster.

MickFarr

seamus wrote:

Regardless of what porn movies and TV tell you, anyone who can go for twenty minutes, full throttle and pumping sweat is a freak of nature.

Thanks !

There's nothing wrong with you. Don't stop after the first one relax for a while, then go again you'll last longer the second time. Also

seamus wrote:

Woman-on-top increases a man's ability to control himself, and will give you better longevity, whereas doggystyle tends to make you come quicker, because of the depth and tightness of the penetration.

That's interesting I've always found In the doggy position the you’re in control, you can dictate the pace of action but now when the woman’s on top (my fav) they control the pace you'll end up telling her to slow down or speed up!

If you’re talking about one night stands I wouldn't be worried in the slightest.

If you've just started going out with a new girlfriend give it a bit of time and you'll last longer.

Now Papa Smut has a good idea but that's taking it a bit to far try thinking about work
(Don't if you work in the p0rn biz )

Good luck & keep it up!

seamus

ChRoMe wrote:

"Five to ten minutes sounds good, above average" Not getting all male bravado and all but 10mins above average wtf?

Yeah, allegedly the average from penetration to ejaculation is around 3 minutes. Maybe that we're all younger men, or maybe they include 17 year olds in that figure...who knows?

elvis2002

3 minutes.... wtf..... How boring is that?

What position do you normal ejaculate in? Are you wearing condoms? If you are wearing condoms I would consider 10 minutes to be too short, if you then went from condoms to no condoms you wouldn't last 30 seconds. If your not wearing condoms at all then its okay i suppose, you just have to eat beans and grow more hair on your testicles.

Doodee

simu wrote:

I've met a few freaks in my time then.

@ original poster, if you spend a lot of time on foreplay, 5-10 minutes might be enough time for both of you to come anyway. Everyone is different and it's arriving at the destination that counts rather than the journey itself or whatever.

Both Seamus and Simu are right.
The average time (point from which the rhythm starts after penetration) is about 3 minutes, according to alot of articles / People I've heard talking.
Its also true that once a womans stimulated enough you should not be required to lat very long periods of time in order to 'Get her off'. The heat of the moment should decide the time needed, but bear in mind, even the best made plans of mice and men go astray. By that i mean, it doesn't always hapen.
The best thing to do is just enjoy it, or else learn to stimulate her with your tongue. Either way, practise will be fun

REDZ

HowLong? wrote:

am I spending too long on foreplay or is there some trick I don't know?

u can Never spend too llong on foreplay!
and
yes theres a couple of tricks, go on your back as gravity is your friend, and some people say that tensing up your ass as if taking a dump, can help u hang on longer! :eek:

ether

Try to take your time, theres no rush. Instead of maybe going at her like a jackhammer go slow it'll allow you more time to concentrate on other areas.

Victor

REDZ wrote:

tensing up your ass as if taking a dump

:eek: I must have been doing this wrong for the last 32 years then .....

Dr. Paco

Well my friends, stamina is the one thing every man wants. They all imagine themselves to be able to achieve the lenghty duration we see in adult films, but alas it really takes some work. Remember, the movies are completed edited to splice several parts together, but regardless, here are some suggestions you may consider.

Someone mentioned mixing between short and long strokes, which is a very important technique. When you come close to climaxing....stop. Use it as a tease to your partner, switch to something different for a minute or two and then return slowly. Continue the cycle numerous times and it'll take up at least 20-30 minutes and drive your partner wild.

Condom textures can have the issue as well, but the technique above will help with that no matter what type of condom you wear.

You can also just work on using masterbation in the morning or before you know you're meeting up with you partner. Remember, once you've ejaculated, and completed the downtime until the next ejaculation (anywhere from 1 to 30 minutes), then the next round will take even longer to achieve another ejaculation.

Another thing for men to try is to develop a muscle that can help achieve a longer drive. The next time you visit restroom/bathroom/WC and you're standing and relieving yourself of excessive amounts of alcohol or other liquids, attempt to stop the flow in midstream and hold for 2-3 seconds. Let it flow for a few more seconds and then repeat the hold. It's another technique said to help as well.

But finally, I personally just prefer taking a long, slow approach focused on giving a woman full attention and pleasure. Once you make her extremely happy, your turn will come and will often be well worth the wait. Why? Because you can again use the slow technique to drive her wild. Work a combination of slow strokes with clitoral stimulation by hand at the same time either facing your partner or from behind your partner.

Most importantly....relax and enjoy.

Sleepy

Was always curious about this myself: what is a normal length to last? Ladies?

Zulu

Sleepy wrote:

Was always curious about this myself: what is a normal length to last? Ladies?

....well "my friend" says...

Dr. Paco

Dr. Paco says that no "normal length" exists....instead one should ask the question of "what will it take to pleasure a woman?" and within that question find out how long it will take. Once you know, adjust your methods accordingly.

Sleepy

I'm just curious as to what the average is and tbh, the ladies (or the gay guys) are the ones with the best experience to answer that question

WhiteWashMan

Sleepy wrote:

I'm just curious as to what the average is and tbh, the ladies (or the gay guys) are the ones with the best experience to answer that question

the average what?

time to orgasm?
legs?
miles per gallon?

MickFarr

How long is a piece of string?

ether

Aww! A purrfect pussy.

[Jackass]

MickFarr wrote:

How long is a piece of string?

12 inches......

Dude! Havn't you ever seen "There's something about mary"?
Ya gotta clean out the pipes before the prospect of a nigt of sex...that is the trick, you say hello to your little man as close to the event as possible....you'll last much longer..example, if you cum during foreplay, then according to my (scientific) theroy, you should last 3 times longer...as apposed to being pumped up during foreplay, then creaming youself as soon as you get it in (are you all still with me?) Also, you could "practice", by wackin off, useing creams and loob to generate the sensation and thus become more accustim to it, and less sensitive.

MickFarr

DubGuy22 wrote:

12 inches.......

Lucky you mine is only 6inches

Forgot to add this in Penis Owners Manual

Make sure you read it all and remember he's your best friend, get it serviced regularly!

nesf

3 minutes?? Seriously? I find that hard to believe to be honest. Although, I can see how including 17 year olds in the figures would mess it up a bit...

Personally I'd say to the original poster not to worry so much about it, sex isn't the most important thing in life and FAR too many people care too much about it. Yeah its fun, but it's not the be all and end all. Well, for some people it is, but you know what I mean.

That said, I'd like to hear some female opinions on what a normal time lenght for sex is, since men seem to have so many issues with the truth on this topic...

The Clown Man

Sorry about this but:

Mackfarrs POM wrote:

Farthest medically recorded ejaculation 11.7 feet

WHAT!?! Holy fcuking jebus!

Legend.

Talliesin

HowLong? wrote:

I'd usually have spent around half an hour of foreplay at the point of penetration. Most girls I've slept with would have already had an orgasm before the main course itself.

Unless you are trying to get her pregnant there's no reason to think of penetration as the "main course".
35-40 minutes of pleasurable sexual activity which (perhaps) happened to include 5-10 minutes of penetrative sex is a more balanced view of things than 5-10 minutes of penetrative sex after half an hour of foreplay.
"Foreplay" is a misnomer.