Confused..

LegacyUser

OK, my head is so confused at the moment...

I was in a long term relationship about 2 years ago which was going nowhere but neither of us had the courage to finish it. We would break up but then meet out again and it would be back on. I was offered a chance to work abroad and jumped at it, fresh start and a good way to finish the relationship and be somewhere I wouldn't see my ex.

While abroad I met someone new and we clicked, everything was going great until work fell through and I had to return. Now it's just a long distance relationship, we see each other every month or 2 for a few days. But I really like this girl, we've been together over a year, first time I saw her I was instantly attracted and we get on great.

Since I've returned I've met up with a really good friend. I've know her for a number of years and we just get on so well. I could easily say she knows me better than anyone and we just click. She recently told me that she has feelings for me and I must admit I also have feelings for her too. I'm not physically attracted to her, but she is cute and there is just something that I can't explain between us.

My girlfriend is visiting for Valentine's and now I'm confused. I don't know where this relationship is going to go, and now that my friend has made her feelings known it has placed doubt in my mind!
I've been trying to think things through but my head is not clear. I keep wondering was I just with my girlfriend because I didn't know anyone else at the time when I was abroad, i don't think so... I don't even know what I'm asking here, just want get my head clear..

cajun_tiger

i went through something simular
me and my best male mate
i never seen him as anything more than a mate or even a little brother(he is younger than me) until he then makes it clear that he feels for me i say nothing.. a few months pass and all of a sudden i feel it too. i can't understand this emotion at all, i confide in a friend who sats as everyone that we are well suited and look great together get on so well why don't i give it a go?.. i dont because i have bad realitionship after bad.. and i dont want to ruin my friendship..

we both sat down talked it through and still to this day have never done more than hug or cheek kiss.. but he is so close to me and i do love him with all my heart, we still could never chance our friendship for something that we don't need..

think long and hard.. are you just feeling lonely at the thoughts of being away from your partner? are you grabbing at straws??

you can love someone and spend your lives together with out being more than just friends.

Kell

confusedMind wrote:

I'm not physically attracted to her, ..

The why are you considering a relationship with her?

K-

MojoMaker

Because he is lonely and he feels society is pressuring him to be with "somebody" or he will be worthless?

Ah modern Ireland, dontcha just love it?