"user friend"

LegacyUser

well I just am kinda upset over my friends behaviour and am wondering wat should I do...
we were v.good friends for a while. I helped her out alot with a university society- came to every meeting without fail, helped design initial posters, gave out lots of flyers, rented films to watch (we had to decide which ones to show at soc). Basically I was there when no one else was!!
When soc ended we argued about the proceeds of the society. She wanted to share proceeds with her "friend" who was secretary of soc (she only agreed to become secretary a few months after the soc began). I was fuming over this. I said she didnt deserve a penny, considering she did nothing, never came down to pub with us after soc meetings. My "friend" said she cam to soc ball with her, thus, she did her bit. however she only went 2 ball with her at last minute! The fact that there was a free bar also had somthin 2 do with it, i suspect! (I couldnt go as I had no suitable attire)
Anyway, My "so called" friend told her friend what I was saying about her. Note: I never once made any derogatery remarks about her.
Well her friend purposely called me a bi!tch in public to other people BUT also admitted ahe done nowt for the soc!
My "so called" friend and I are talking but there is an air of nastiness between us. She often txts me looking for something or other, I help her, But when I need help from her she just ignores me.
I guess im jst posting to get it off me chest...

tinkerbell

Ditch your friend, she sounds like a user / muppet / ungrateful fool. Better off without being friends with people like her. Stop helping her out all the time, you're only letting her walk all over you.

Nala

The only thing the other girl had that you didn't was a place on the committee. But if she did nothing, she deserves nothing. Lose the friend, she sounds like a right bitch!

Nidge

quite right, do it for yourself, you could do without someone like that, who drains you, then when you need similar help is nowhere to be seen.

Sir Oxman

Similar situation - became good "friends" wih someone the past year, fckin drained me with their problems...I spent a *lot* of time being there for this person.

When my turn came to look for a bit of advice, I almost choked on the dust as this person made their getaway.

Time lost can't be recovered, I feel like I wasted the guts of a year - but that's life.

My advice - ditch your user. And don't look back.

Slutmonkey57b

The user will now go into student politics and become a TD. My advice is to stick around her, build up an incriminating dossier with lots of photos, and stick it to her later in life.

ArthurDent

Slutmonkey57b wrote:

The user will now go into student politics and become a TD. My advice is to stick around her, build up an incriminating dossier with lots of photos, and stick it to her later in life.

ROFL

LegacyUser

Thanks everyone. I was treasurer of the soc though. doesnt matter now as the soc finished up this year.
From now on Im having nowt to do with her...

Sleepy

You could point out that them splitting the society's money is probably illegal. Any proceeds should be passed on to whoever plans to run the society next year.

Victor

I'm with sleepy on this one. REdistribute money to the members or pass it on to next year.

sceptre

Sleepy wrote:

You could point out that them splitting the society's money is probably illegal. Any proceeds should be passed on to whoever plans to run the society next year.

Indeed. Most student unions or society guilds (as the soc watchers) will have specific guidelines outlining that in the event of a society being wound up the money should be given to the clubs & socs fund and in the event of a committee handover the money goes too. Even if they didn't, it's money held in trust for the members of the society and whether it's a mere handover or a windup, running off with the money is both a breach of trust and theft.

Hence if you're really pissed off, report her to the soc guild or SU. Yeah it's informing but you should have done that at the start anyway - people running off with the membership money or profits from a university society's activities just maintains the thought in some colleges that all those cnuts are only at it for what they can steal for themselves. What offends me is not that your mates are thieves (which they are), it's that they're petty thieves.

the_syco

*hugz* wall-flower & delah

Hasn't happened to me yet, but I'd get even if it did.

Sleepy wrote:

You could point out that them splitting the society's money is probably illegal. Any proceeds should be passed on to whoever plans to run the society next year.

OOOOOooooo. Lookie. A way to get even.

Its cool the way the cookie crumbles... :cool: