[not] screwed

Victor

I know woman "A" for about 2 months. I've no particular interest in her, but am generally happy to talk etc.

I met woman "B" 2 weeks ago. New in town. I helped her with her CV (I have her contact details form this, but that would be stalkerish). There was a spark (when going to sit down she "jumped" at the same seat and landed on my lap and there was a lingering "moment") and last week I asked her for a drink. She accepted, but our schedules clashed, so we agreed to go for coffee 5pm Wednesday.

On Wednesday morning I get a "very important message" from one of the lads. He says it came from a really hawt girl. I smile knowingly. The message is a handwritten note "Sorry, I can't meet, I have an interview".

A knows B. On Friday I meet A, who is putting on a sad face of "nobody loves me". How the world is an awful place and how she needs love, not quite throwing herself at me, but definite batting of the eyelids.

I make small chat to try to cheer her up blah-de-blah, and ask her how B is, how we were meant to meet, blah-de-blah she had an interview and did she get the job? blah-de-blah

She smiles knowingly, too knowingly, and says there was no interview.

Now the note was unsigned and I don't know B's handwriting. I have the awful feeling I got screwed over by A. Yes A, the one batting her eyelids. I haven’t seen B since.

Now I'm sure TC and Typie will have me try to shag A (and B if possible), but I have no interest in A. Yeah, she's a woman, has all the right body parts (presumably, based on observation). She just does nothing for me.

And for those of you wondering, yes I am paranoid.

Tiriel

hmm.. is there any way you could bump into her accidentally on purpose? rather than use her details off her cv because that should be a last resort.. imo. It would be better if you could just meet her in person and see how her reaction is.. etc. and if there is chemistry you should know straight away.
hope A didn't screw you over.. that'd be really lousy. She sounds really jealous..

CathyMoran

Why don't you just try and reschedule coffee with B - if she says no then you have your answer. Alternatively write it off as not meant to be...

secret_squirrel

Ask A straight out if she stitched you up...if she fancies you - she may actually be dumb enough to admit it.

Can you get B's text details off anyone else? Or even be a little stalkerish and use her contact details? She may not mind....or she may call the Guarda.

Also interrogate the message delivery boy for proof of A's duplicitousness.

Alternatively get A's sister and B's sister to Typedef each other in a paddling pool full of jelly and sell the video on Ebay.

tk123

Vic would you not just try to reschedule the meeting B?! You have the contact details from the CV so away you go - she'll prob just assume you got her details from A...

Tiriel

or better still.. ask A for her details. what can she say!!!

goin'_to_the_PS

you could make something up like you just thought of something for her cv. It would be a good reason to call her

GuanYin

Erm, ask B out again, if she says yes all is well if no then see whats up.

You needed to post to decide what to do next for this?

I think the charter should be changed so that at least two siblings in a love triangle are involved before posting as a romantic PI thread...

monster_fighter

Talk to B ASAP.

Sort out who did what later. B is the imortant one right now.

Etain

Call B! You can mention that you still have her phone number, there's no mystery about how you got it. Talk to her. Tell her about the note, etc.. If she did have an interview, you'll know. If she didn't write the note, you'll know. Desperate and jealous people can do some outrageous things. It's up to you to find out what's what.

Amz

What Syke said.

Except the bit about the siblings ... That kinda talk results in people being castrated for sending odd gifts to others.

gubby

OOOOOH let us know what happens.... this is getting so exciting!!!! :rolleyes:

Amz

You need to get out more gubby.

Victor

syke wrote:

You needed to post to decide what to do next for this?

No, I know what I want to do, I'm partially indulging my morbid curiousity.

I know [edit] A from the neighbourhood. I might / might not see her 1-2 times a week, so isn't necessarily a firm point of contact.

Sorry folks spanner in the works. The phone number on the CV (I think I only have the top half of the first page, a misprinted draft that I wrote notes on) is her parents home number. Yes, with all the millions of mobile phones in the country, she doesn't have one (point was well made when I read her CV).

Imagine /me phones. Her father answers. Me: "Hi, I'm Victor. I'm stalking your daughter and trying to get in her knickers, I wonder if you could give me her new address ... "

PS What attracts me to B over A is B is a young woman, A is a big girl.

Tiriel

Ask A.. it'll make it clear to her that you are not interested and kill the 2 birds with the one stone! well lets hope not literally and that she isn't psycho!

CathyMoran

Did she not give an email - or could you even google her - OK, this is semi-stalker teritory but not quite...

Pigman II

Sounds to me that B wasn't as keen on 'coffee' as you seem to be.

Best thing you can do now is buy 'A' a new kitten and hope she doesn't boil it. In the meantime don't contact B and just leave it to her to get back to you. At least you'll have a better idea where you stand then and you won't be coming off like a stalker.

kleefarr

Dad says "Ah, yes, Victor. We've been hearing all about you. Why didn't you phone my daughter? She was expecting you too."

Victor.... "balh blah blah...thats what I'm trying to do but she gave me her Mothers phone number."


Err... on second thoughts might not be a good idea to mention the mother. :rolleyes:

the_syco

When you do speak to "B", ask her how she knows "A". May not be nice. May also explain the note. "A" 'n "B" may have history...

Also, a bit of paranoid is always good. Without paranoia, your niave.

BrianD3

Maybe B did actually send the note. She may have decided to cancel the date because she changed her mind, doesn't fancy you, met someone else etc. Instead of telling you straight out she strings you along and wrecks your head by telling you that she can't go on the date because of an "interview".

Maybe A and B know each other quite well and A knows the real reason why the date was cancelled, hence the knowing smile. And seeing as A is feeling bad about her crappy love life she decides to "accidentally on purpose" let slip the information about there being no interview in other words dropping a big hint that B is not interested in you.

BrianD3

[Jackass]

Cork_girl wrote:

Ask A.. it'll make it clear to her that you are not interested and kill the 2 birds with the one stone! well lets hope not literally and that she isn't psycho!

That's perfect! Here i was concocting all these illustrious plans in my head for you until i read that! It'll get fatty off your back + you'll have a very reasonable story for hotty when you call her..."Hey B, fatty gave me your number...." and just explain to her you got the note....if she knows what your on about you just arrange a new date, if she dosen't tell her about the note you got in work (make it out as if you think 1 of the lads might have played a trick on u...don't let her know fatty might like you...girls are weird about that kind of stuff, and for some reason the minger always gets preference!!). Also, if "A" wont give you her number/pretends she dosen't know it, ring the house number you alreday have pretending you thought it was her new places number...when pops answers the phone, just say is B there, no big deal...then when he sais no, apoligise,explain your confusion, then and ask if she has another number....he'll have no idea he just contributed to his daughter getting laid!! Brilliant!

Mercury_Tilt

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athena 2000

Victor wrote:

No, I know what I want to do, I'm partially indulging my morbid curiousity.

Please indulge ours when you get this one figured out!

I agree that it's a little bit fishy except that Miss A probably wouldn't have been described as "hot", would she, if she'd delivered the note?

Sleepy

Surely there's an email address on the CV? Can't you just send a "So, how'd the interview go?" email and take it from there?

The Corinthian

Instinct would tell me that B accepted your offer of a date, because you caught her unawares she accepted only out of politeness, at the time. She then went off and reconsidered and left you a note rather than tell you to your face. While A may be behind it all, it’s unlikely.

So with regard to B, find a point of contact and ask her out again, as Syke suggested. It’ll either succeed or put closure on the matter.

As for A, if you don’t fancy her, you don’t fancy her - simple as that (understandable, if upon meeting a woman, your instinct is to harpoon rather than fsck her, then it’s not a good idea to do either). Just politely ignore her flirtations and she’ll eventually give up.

skywalker

secret_squirrel wrote:

Also interrogate the message delivery boy for proof of A's duplicitousness.

Cork_girl wrote:

or better still.. ask A for her details. what can she say!!!

these should be your next 2 moves.

pickarooney

Why would B hand in a CV for a job with an incorrect phone number? She probably lives with her parents if she gave that number as a contact for a job.

But her "interview" was quite obviously a date with someone else.

The Corinthian

pickarooney wrote:

But her "interview" was quite obviously a date with someone else.

Why obviously?

pickarooney

The Corinthian wrote:

Why obviously?

IMO, she would have either left her phone number (or asked him to call if she thought he had it from her CV) or asked for his from whoever she gave the note to. If the note wasn't from her (although his mates described her as 'hawt', so that probably rules out A), then why didn't she send him a real note/message?

The Corinthian

pickarooney wrote:

IMO, she would have either left her phone number (or asked him to call if she thought he had it from her CV) or asked for his from whoever she gave the note to. If the note wasn't from her (although his mates described her as 'hawt', so that probably rules out A), then why didn't she send him a real note/message?

And how does this imply that for her it meant "quite obviously a date with someone else"?

Crucifix

Definitely ask the messenger. He must know something, and no doubt the information could be pryed out with a pint glass.

the_syco

One point you should notice; no signature on note.

Without a signature, it is no longer a note from person B, but just a note.

Also, if you mate knows you know A, he's hardly going to say "that flabby wh0re called in with this note", in all fairness, when she dropped in the note... oh, and one mans rubbish is another mans treasure. Your mate may have had the hots for A (if this is so, its a way to get rid of her).

ferdi

Victor = Hot piece of Ass

yossarin

Do you have any way to get to B without going through A ?

//sorry, couldn't resist

Beruthiel

keep on topic please
B

pickarooney

The Corinthian wrote:

And how does this imply that for her it meant "quite obviously a date with someone else"?

The knowing smile, it's all in the eyes, can't you read it?
I guess you just don't have the gift

Slutmonkey57b

Slutmonkey's patented soapy advice:

Go round to A's house, preferably while her mum is there (or flatmate if living away from home). Utter the immortal line:

"Put Kettle on Luv"

Plonk your fat arse down on the kitchen chair, follow with:

"Wooss Gaaaain on?"

She'll respond:

"Wot choo mean, woss gaaain on?"

Your riposte is as follows:

"Don't play the dumb tart with me luv, I know you wrote that note."

She'll get defensive, but don't let her get away. Her mum will pipe in at this point and say:

"Don't you talk about our A like that! You wanna get some manners on you sunshine or you'll feel the flat of my hand"

This is tricky, and involves an emotional family member. Say:

"Stay out of it luv, if you only knew half of what this trollop gets up to." Mum will be shocked and say to A:

"Woss e talkin about our A?"

A will be on the defensive at this point, saying "Nuffin mum". Press home your advantage by telling A you should "go outside for a quiet word, eh?"

Bish bash bosh, problem solved.

Don't dismiss it, years of study has gone into this reply.

impr0v

Slutmonkey57b wrote:

Bish bash bosh, problem solved.

It's you on the 'Getting dumped by text' Irish Times ad, isn't it?

Victor wrote:

...Yes A, the one batting her eyelids. I haven’t seen B since.

I don't want to be alarmist, but has anyone seen her?

Victor

"A" is most certainly not fat, in fact the complete opposite. Tall, not very curvy (but was flashing cleavage New Year's Eve, I just didn't think it was for my, eh, perusal). As I said a big girl as opposed to a big (OO) woman.

It turns out that A lives in the building next door to work. I just never realised this until this morning.

The number I had for B was right, but it was her parent's number. She had been staying with friends for the last 2-3 weeks. Hence, while the phone number was of use in arranging an interview, it was of less use in arranging coffee "Hi, can I arrange in interview with your daughter, 9pm XXXX bar?".

Anyway, B gave me a new copy of her CV on Monday night with mobile number and new address. She did have an interview and got a temporary job in the local Spar.

CathyMoran

Good to have a happier end to your story

Tiriel

and ????? why didn't you reschedule your coffee??? ah now man come on!!!

CathyMoran

Victor has her mobile and knows where she works...hope it works out, am a sucker for a happy ending

Victor

Cork_girl wrote:

and ????? why didn't you reschedule your coffee??? ah now man come on!!!

Well she blew me a kiss this morning, the repressed Catholic in me claims that she is just another evil woman taunting, but never willing to give.

Anyway, I'm playing hard to get, will text her in the next day or two.

Victor

CathyMoran wrote:

The "Rules" are so passee...though treat them mean and keep them keen...btw, 'blowing you a kiss this morning'? This seems cute though how were you seeing her first thing in the morning?

Wasn't first thing, was actually mid morning. I'm going to edit the above.

LegacyUser

Here´s the solution, buddy.

Forget about A.
Forget about B.

Go find C.

Good luck !

IANOC

Victor wrote:

Well she blew me a kiss this morning, the repressed Catholic in me claims that she is just another evil woman taunting, but never willing to give.

Anyway, I'm playing hard to get, will text her in the next day or two.

yep sounds like they both are taunting you
do not text her first in case she is looking for trouble
playing hard to get on your part will drive her mad either way
best of luck m8

secret_squirrel

Victor wrote:

Anyway, I'm playing hard to get, will text her in the next day or two.

In the meantime stalk her from the bushes - that way she will know you are still interested. I offer a stalking by proxy service if you are interested??

IANOC

you looper

Victor

No longer a PI. I am paranoid.

Locked.

GuanYin

really? Seems open to me

What happened?