Meeting a girl I met in a chatroom..

LegacyUser

About 2-3 month's ago I met a girl in a chat room. I hadn't been in a chatroom for about 8 years before and I decided to just head on in. I had chatted with a few girls and got them into msn messenger. They were the typical 'wanna have msn sex?' ones. Now I wanna know how they think I'm gonna find my way inside them through the net.. :P But anyway.. There was one girl, who I don't know why, but I could tell her anything! I was totally honest with her about my age and everything. I even felt I could send her a pic although I didn't do that with many others. We've been chatting every day now and on the the day before nye (30th) we had a big chat and told each other what we think of each other. We had a couple days in between and kept talking about how great it was and how we should do it again, even though there was nothing more to say.. We were both wrong. Yesterday (the 2nd), we had another , and she sent me one of those messages about the soldiers in Iraq and how if you send it on, someone will tell them they love you. I felt this was the perfect oppertunity and told her I loved her, kind of jokingly, because I didn't want to ruin things with her. She said she really loved me too and that she always wanted to tell me but didn't want to ruing things. Everything we've said about each other, we both felt the exact same. It is unbeleivable! There are loads of signs of how we were meant to meet. She got broadband 2 days before we met, she was supposed to be on holidays, I hadn't been in chatrooms for years, and so on. I felt there was something special about her and I kept talking to her for month's. Now here's the thing. A couple days before the first convo, one of her friends mentioned how she was seriosuly thinking of coming to Ireland for a week to meet me (She's from Scottland). I was delighted and I'm really looking forward to it. But for ages I always thought the whole love on the internet was wrong. But now that has drastically changed! We both really love each other and we've said how love songs mean so much more now, and how we have 'our' soing too. Gwen Stefani's What you waitin' for. I always think of her when I hear this and same with her. I wanna know what peoples oppinions are about meeting people from the internet... Do you guys think it's a good idea?

Thanks!

MojoMaker

Have you seen a true and verifiable picture of him? How old are you and how old is he?

tman

look forward to meeting you bró

gubby

sorry mojo.. but isnt that post from a guy.. ???? in fact the title should give it away. "meeting a girl I met in a chatroom"
Am I missing something here?

David19

What have you got to lose?

Victor

ApeXaviour

gubby wrote:

sorry mojo.. but isnt that post from a guy.. ???? in fact the title should give it away. "meeting a girl I met in a chatroom"
Am I missing something here?

They are implying (and quite humorously so) that this scottish chick really wears a kilt..

But on a more serious note. This sounds like adolescent, movie brainwashed, puppy drivel..

Lets be realistic, have you seen a genuine picture of her? And vice-versa..
Do that and then decide whether you want to meet up. Make sure no money changes hands (eg would you pay for my flight *bats eyelash) before though OK!

StupidLikeAFox

haha, theyre all bitter fools! feck it, go for it, your either gonna meet her sometime anyway, so why not sooner rather than later, or else ya'l never see her and regret the missed opportunity forever

GRAB LIFE BY THE BALLS MAN!!!!


(also see the other thread bout the first time sex, some v.good tips re: lube etc)

gimmick

I met a girl from a chat room about 5 years ago. We didnt exchange pics or anything like that. We ended up going out for 18 months! After that broke up, I met 2 other girls from the net, both led to the bedroom, but no relationship (though that was my choice).

Go for it, just be safe, meet in a cafe during the afternoon, and let us know what happends.

Kevin_rc_ie

ring her first. or speak with her in some way.

ferdi

David19 wrote:

What have you got to lose?

this person will probably be wearing your face as a mask within about three hours, caution.

azezil

i've met a lot of people from the net, meet in a public place go for a coffee... see how it goes

Emmo

get her to pay for all travel

get a pix swap

meet in a public place

talk to her over the phone first

dont bring her home to your place, at all

have a look at my post from about 8 months back about a meeting that went well and then went really badly!

Good luck

Emmo

LegacyUser

Well, I've chatted to her through Skype, a program that allows you to call people through the net. And I've got countless pics of her and we've seen each other on cam a few times. I wouldn't pay for flights for her, mainly because I'd seem WAY too desperate and also, she offered to pay for herself I'm hoping I'll need the help of that first time sex thread! :P We're both 16, actually, she turned 17 today. She's planning on bringing two mates and I'm gonna bring the same. Another question, where should I meet her? I really wanna spend as much time with her as I can, so I'd be tempted to meet in the airport..

Heineken

This reminds me so much of the brother in Napoleon Dynamite! Classic!

ApeXaviour

I was intruiged Emmo.. for anyone else, this is what that post he's referring to said:

I met a girl online, got talking to her quite a bit. She was from the States and we chatted via yahoo for a bit.

Then we moved to email, swapped phone numbers etc etc.

I paid for her to visit me and she came over, was completely hot. We hit it off like a house on fire untill her last two days here.

She told me she had a fiance in the States and that she loved me but had to go back to him.

It all got to much for me when she freaked out one night and pinned me down on the ground in my appartment and rang my best mate in the middle of the night and told him that I was trying to kill myself.

I wasnt, nothing of the kind but I think that she might have been a complete mentalist.

Emmo

Mad stuff!

azezil wrote:

i've met a lot of people from the net

Yeah but az.. you must admit it's more normal in your circles, you have the -dar! There's a less agreeable stigma for us's.

gimmick wrote:

I met a girl from a chat room about 5 years ago. We didnt exchange pics or anything like that. We ended up going out for 18 months! After that broke up, I met 2 other girls from the net, both led to the bedroom, but no relationship (though that was my choice).

This also intruiges me.. Ach I can't imagine it! How!? When yis just saw eachother for the first time! I suppose.. it would cause some sexual tension which isn't a bad thing. Nah I still can't picture it, can you elaborate the actual meeting any more?

PeadarofAodh

Heineken wrote:

This reminds me so much of the brother in Napoleon Dynamite! Classic!

Exactly what I was just thinking!

"You're just jealous cos I've been chatting to chicks on the internet all day!"

Skud

If you meet her and you want a relationship how are you going to have one with a girl in a different country. If you really want to you'll go for it. See what you can do just be cautious, meet away from town/where you live and meet in public. Don't give her your address and if you do give her your mobile make sure it can't be traced. Tis your call, ppl said missed oppertunities on the other post.. you're young, so try not to throw your life away over something that could be just puppy love. Consult your friends too... They know you better than us

FranknFurter

Met my bf online 6 years back, after a year of saving, he flew here from the U.S.


.......................... we've been living together since the day he got here, five years now!

Somtimes, just somtimes, it does work!

isolde

Nervous guy.. wrote:

About 2-3 month's ago I met a girl in a chat room. I hadn't been in a chatroom for about 8 years before and I decided to just head on in.

Nervous guy.. wrote:

I'm hoping I'll need the help of that first time sex thread! :P We're both 16, actually, she turned 17 today.

You were on chatrooms when you were 8?? Right...

~ isolde.

tom-thebox

azezil wrote:

i've met a lot of people from the net, meet in a public place go for a coffee... see how it goes

Slut.

Skud

lol busted... :eek:

Evilution

Kevin_rc_ie wrote:

ring her first. or speak with her in some way.

Its the language of love, Kev. Speaking in tongues.

Bubba

She could be a filthy minger or just be having you on u never know.

mayordenis

Heineken wrote:

This reminds me so much of the brother in Napoleon Dynamite! Classic!

lol your an idiot did you even watch the film

anyway thread started go for it

impr0v

tman wrote:

look forward to meeting you bró

+rep

My mate is now living in orange county california after meeting a latino bird on yahoo chat and marrying her, so it does work out. Whatever leap into the unknown you are making, he flew 13 hours to meet her, with nowhere else to stay except her house, which was either brave or very stupid.

D!ve^Bomb!

i say forget about it... you're 16 ffs, which means you're in school, probably not a lot of money.. and you're both in different countries.. which means you'll NEVER see each other... is it worth it? causing so much grief for yourself.. long distance relationships are NOT easy.. i presume you have the leaving cert coming up?

I say forget about it and stick to the locals:)

LegacyUser

I think I'll go for it.. I'm young, and I can't stop thinking about her. I've got a part time job which pays pretty well, and it's only like a total of 100 euro to fly over and back and stay a week in a cheapo B&B. My sis knows a guy, she met him here who had to move to England, she flies over now and again and stays with him. Seems to work for them. I'll be finished school soon, I'm in 5th year now.

][cEMAN**

Always ask for a picture taken from a camera phone or whatever, that clearly shows the face and a same day newspaper for evidence.

.....though in my version of this in my head they're tied up and the guys holding the newspaper have masks.....but to each their own

As for meeting people over the internet, well i've not had a problem so far. Though i've not been going to meet them thinking I love them. Just make sure your expectations aren't too high. That way you won't be disappointed*


*when you find out it's a guy

koneko

Saying you love them already is never a good idea. You don't actually know this person. You may think you do, because you talk and you get along and you like eachother, but you haven't actually met. People are often quite different in real life to the way they are online. You can't really know someone imho until you've met them.

Don't set your expectations too high, and meet in a public place. If she's bringing a bunch of friends, do the same, otherwise anything could happen.

MojoMaker

Were you really in chatrooms when you were 8?

Why don't you drop up to Wesley some Friday night. Lots of 16yr olds there that won't be half as much work as this scottish guy.

Echo the mask comment. You wouldn't believe what goes on out there.

Cake Fiend

isolde wrote:

You were on chatrooms when you were 8?? Right...

~ isolde.

Most of the technically-minded people on this website have probably been using chatrooms since they were 8. I first dialled into a BBS when I was 8 or 9, and that was before the web you newbies love so much was even around.

MojoMaker

Easy child. You've a few years to go yet

I doubt you were in sex-based chatrooms when you were 8. I doubt the original poster was either. I think his story is fraying.

Sleepy

Go for it... life's biggest regrets are always the things we didn't do...

LegacyUser

I've been to Wesley, but I think it's a ****hole. Some of the birds there are pretty hot, but half of the time they're just hot and absolutely no personality or sense of humour. Besides, club ain't really my thing. I'm really trying not to get my hopes up but it's nearly immpossible. I really didn't wanna talk about loving each other, but it was hard not to. I've got until April until she'll be coming over, so I've got loads of time. We've seen loads of pics of each other and she's sent pics that are really bad and she still looks alright. I wasn't in sex based chatrooms since I was 8, no, I was in just ordinary chatrooms, where I was all innocent and just amazed at how I could talk to people from america effortlesly and my dad was beside me half the time too. It was also bet into me not to give out my personal details online, so I don't realy wanna bring her back to my place the first night, but maybe after 2-3 days. She seems very genuine and straight forward too. My cousin has met about 3 girls online and in real life, although they were all irish, 2 from the country one from Dublin. I'm debating whether to talk to him about it or not, because I don't know why, but I feel kinda silly saying I met someone in a chatroom because my parents were always against it, and so was I until I met her. Do you think I should tell them, or just say I met them in town? She says to her parents that I'm a friend from school, but it would be kinda risky if we both covered it up to our parents. I've told a couple friends tho, and so has she. They're friends that I have alot of trust in and I doubt they'd be stupid if anything serious happened god forbid.

IANOC

mmmm the wonder of chatrooms
if its genuine i hope it all works out for you mate
but unfortunately most of the time ,chatrooms are full of those that have something or lots to hide :eek:

Keyzer

She's probably got a face like esther ranson's arse....

IANOC

Keyzer wrote:

She's probably got a face like esther ranson's arse....

or an arse like esther ransons face which is just as bad

Keyzer

IANOC wrote:

or an arse like esther ransons face which is just as bad

Indeed, toushee and all that jazz...

Elessar

You CANNOT, repeat CANNOT, have a proper relationship with someone over the INTERWEB. Nor can you "love" them. This "love" you're feeling is your idealised vision of this person based on text, a few calls and a few pictures. More than likely she is different in real life, which is where most of us live. Just be cautious and don't get your hopes up!

Keyzer

Whilst looking at a fine ass bitch one day a friend leaned over and said
"Somebody somewhere is tired of putting up with her shlt"....

This applies to all women, so remember that when you find yer cd collection melted into a nice art nouveau ashtray....

ando

be wary, the last time I meet up with a women from the net she turned out to be abominable

Coney Island

Just got for it man! in the last couple of years i met about 8-10 girls over the internet and in 80% of the cases had a wonderful time when i met them... just got for it!

And i am not ashame to admit it, even because i have no problem meeting girl in more traditional ways too.

ChRoMe

Coney they are both under 18

Elessar's bang on. Its a crazy notion to say you are in love with someone after txts,email,webcam etc You dont nearly have enough proper information about them. Your in love with the fantasy.

I just pray for your sake you arnt being "groomed"

ChRoMe

BolBill

Youre a crazy bastárd mate !!!!!!

Pink Bunny

2-3 months isn't a very long time to know each other and fall "in love" even if she lived in your same town, let alone someone you've never met in person.

I've never met anyone in person that I've met online, but I can see the appeal. Lots of times it's just easier to talk to someone "mind to mind" as opposed to getting distracted by looks or whatever. Some people have mentioned about what if she was unattractive in person, but I think that misses the whole point, doesn't it? Beauty being only skin deep, and all that.

If you go meet, pick a public place and I think you should be okay. If you think about it, we end up talking to strangers all the time when we are out, so at least with this girl you are ahead of the game, having talked to her already. Just go with no expectations other than you get to meet someone new.

LegacyUser

That's actually great advice there Pink. I'm no too pushed about looks, although she is pretty hot. She is just unbelievably sound. I'm kinda putting down my expectations now, just incase. So hopefully it'll be alright when we do meet.

LegacyUser

Met my current girlfriend over the net. We were talking for 3 months online before we went to phoning each other daily (I had seen her on webcam so there was no kilt ) before we met....a whole 9 months AFTER we decided we wanted to be together.

That was a year ago, and we're still going strong, good luck with the girl, just be careful, public place with friends is good.

Cactus Col

isolde wrote:

You were on chatrooms when you were 8?? Right...

~ isolde.

exactly what I was thinking.

but ****it, meet her, have a bit of fun.

BolBill

Met an American girl in a Yahoo Chat Room a few years ago. stupidly gave her my home address and she sent me a letter along with a few pictures. The pictures dated back to when she was 18, she looked great. After turning 18 she decided to eat all the pies. Later pictures to arrive weren't so flattering. Anyway, she mailed me one day after I hadn't been in touch for a while (due to having no net access) and told me I'd broken her heart !!!! Feckin bunny boiler !!!!!

Ha Ha I still laugh

WhiteWashMan

actually, while im no big fan of internet realtionships because of the misconceptions that go on, there is actually no difference tha if you met someone in a bar.
the only difference is that you can see what the other person looks like.

with regards to the whole telling untruths over the internet by mail or chat or whatever, well, how many people complain about people they meet who are 'fake' or who put up some sort of front. it takes about 4 dates to actually break through that facade and get to see the real person underneath.
you just have more time to answer awkward questions online

and one up for the online side, is that your relationship can be a lot more intense than if you were to meet physically.
all you can do is chat, and if you are both actually telling the truth, you do about 6 months worth of talking in about a week! you tell each other things that you wouldnt normally tell people when you cant see their face.
people are also a lot more open to telling the truth about very personal things, and to asking those questions.
hey, how many times have you been asked your cóck or breast size online (at the same time)

it is just another medium for meeting people, except you dont have to buy her a drink, and there are no 'pretty ones' who you feel too embarassed to go and talk to.