Girl Fantasies thingy

LegacyUser · 02-01-2005 11:26pm #1

I'm a regular user and poster but prefere to post this anon because of the content.

I'm a guy, twenties going out with a wonderful girlfriend. I love her very much. We have a great sex life etc, even doing some fun handcuffy things. So as you see we try new things.

She has mentioned she wants to have a 3some with another girl. I know, this should be my dream as a guy come true, but I don't want to. I don't want to share her.

What should I do? Do it and see what happens? What if she finds she likes girls more than boys? Worse, what if she does it behind my back.

Help!

Victor · 03-01-2005 4:09pm

UnReg'd wrote:

Worse, what if she does it behind my back.

I'm not sure that would happen seeing as she is discussing doing it with you there.

If you aren't happy with the situation, just explain this to her.

Oeneus · 03-01-2005 4:29pm

Just go for it. You haven't really got anything to lose. Plus, if it's something she really wants to do, her curiosity is just going to grow over time anyway.

And you must realise that she has already probably had sex with another girl at some point in her life. Turned out my last girlfriend had (found that out after leaving her :P).

Doodee · 03-01-2005 4:40pm

heh, reminds me of one of the final scenes from chasing amy.
I dunno, I have my reservations about it but then different folks different strokes.

pickarooney · 03-01-2005 4:43pm

If you don't want to do it, don't. Find out how important it is to her, though.

uberwolf · 03-01-2005 4:45pm

even threesomes that both parties have agreed about, have established ground rules for each other etc can go absolutely tits up. So if you have reservations you're either further behind in making this work. Sometimes fantasies should remain so. Most don't even risk fundamentally changing how you view your partner.

lucky bastard though tbh.

I am MAN · 03-01-2005 4:46pm

Dont do anything if you're not comfortable with it.

meepmeep · 03-01-2005 4:52pm

UnReg'd wrote:

this should be my dream as a guy come true, but I don't want to. I don't want to share her.

There's your answer there - you don't want to.......so don't

mobile04 · 03-01-2005 5:02pm

well i was in the same boat a few years ago
i dont want to get too in to it but i wasnt a fan at forst but that night it was so good .
so id advise you
nothing ventured nothing gained my friend
now go do your duties................

Scratch Acid · 03-01-2005 5:06pm

UnReg'd wrote:

I'm a regular user and poster but prefere to post this anon because of the content.

I'm a guy, twenties going out with a wonderful girlfriend. I love her very much. We have a great sex life etc, even doing some fun handcuffy things. So as you see we try new things.

She has mentioned she wants to have a 3some with another girl. I know, this should be my dream as a guy come true, but I don't want to. I don't want to share her.

What should I do? Do it and see what happens? What if she finds she likes girls more than boys? Worse, what if she does it behind my back.

Help!

...Dude...Why are you even hesitating? :eek: :eek:

Pink Bunny · 03-01-2005 5:36pm

UnReg'd wrote:

I don't want to share her.

Tell her that. Her reaction might give you all the information you need.

MojoMaker · 03-01-2005 6:42pm

Dude, if she's getting bored and wants to go vegetarian then at least make sure you're there when it happens!!

Seriously tho, if it's nobody you know then it's likely to be a lot less weird. If t'was another guy then I'd say you have a problem. Hell, she may be suggesting this to you as a special treat for all you know.

Mr. Presentable · 03-01-2005 6:45pm

I say "try it". Chances are when she sees you with the other girl she'll see it from your side.

Lucky sod.

mike65 · 03-01-2005 6:56pm

How did you react as she mentioned this possibility? Maybe she's testing you to see if you're a soild chap or a dirty young fella!

Also how did she convey this bombshell? With a "matter of fact" attitude or an excitible gleam in her eye? If the former she's proberly done this sort of thing before, if the latter maybe she's been talking to a friend who has put the thought in her head and she likes the idea...

Mike.

pwd · 03-01-2005 7:09pm

yeah I was offered the same thing a couple of times and had the same sorta attitude; kinda jealous rather than turned on. Girls together looks cool in porn - but there's no emotional attachment in porn.
Would be really cool if you were sorta attached to both the girls though; wouldn't be the same sorta territorial instinct or whatever it is. Think I could have been in that situation, but then I ditched them for a headwrecking lying ****. So I regeretted that decision tbh. One of them rang occasionally until maybe three days before the aforementioned headwrecker dumped me. Wish I'd answered the phone.

LegacyUser · 03-01-2005 7:29pm

Be careful. Say you go ahead with this threesome involving you, her and another girl. She could just as easily turn around next week and say why don't you do it again but this time with a guy instead of a girl. Do you really want to go down this road?

D!ve^Bomb! · 03-01-2005 7:50pm

if you dont want to do it then DON'T... it could ruin your relationship.. so what if it's another woman.. it doesn't mean anythin.. if you don't want to share her then you'll feel just as jealous as you would if she was with another guy!!

it's just not worth it tbh

Sleepy · 04-01-2005 11:11am

If you DO decide to go ahead with this, make sure it's with a total stranger that you're never going to see again. That should prevent the whole scenario of emotional attachments forming between either of you and the third party. Personally, I'd probably go for something like this under those circumstances but if it were a situation where she wants to do this with her best mate who just happens to be a lesbian I'd be very, very wary.

dudara · 04-01-2005 11:32am

talk to her, and say exactly what you just said in your post. You're obviously not comfortable with the idea right now, but let her try to explain her motivation to you. But don't feel pressured into doing what you don't want to do, that can only harm a relationship

Kingsize · 04-01-2005 11:38am

even if you agree to it its not that easy to get it together
unless of course she already has someone in mind....

vibrant · 04-01-2005 1:13pm

Do it. They're totally going to need someone to make the tea.

Seriously though... what you need to do is just have a chat. If she sees how uncomfortable you are, she will understand.

BEAT · 04-01-2005 2:10pm

My first reaction to reading this post was that she may be trying to please you
Has this not entered your mind? I know plenty of girls who would do it for the pure thrill of doing something *taboo* and also to please thier man because they think thats what men want...the much talked about 3some

Perhaps discussing it further with her is best before just saying yes or no, explain it isnt something your interested in but if she wants to try it you will consider it and see what she says.

Sometimes its just about trying new things, it doesnt mean she is going to leave you , she may just want to spice things up a bit

a bit of experimenting could be good as long as you set boundaries before hand .

HJ Simpson · 04-01-2005 2:16pm

If you do it make sure you lay down ground rules in terms of who is allowed to do what. She may not want to see you pawing another woman or worse. She may just want to excite you with a bit of lesbian fantasy.

HJS

ChRoMe · 05-01-2005 12:22am

It can be excellent or it can ruin your relationship with everyone involved.

Just to 2nd the person who said it earlyier. If you are going to do it, seriously do yourself a favour and do it with a stranger. Again dont do it with someone who you know. Ok.

I dont think you can really lay down ground rules. It mostly seems to be the case that someone is always the 3rd wheel. Since your in a relationship with one of the people that should make it less complicated (note _should_)

ChRoMe

simu · 05-01-2005 12:45am

vibrant wrote:

Do it. They're totally going to need someone to make the tea.

Could be some truth in that. As the old Klingon proverb goes, two women having sex need a man as much as a fish needs a bicycle.

Amz · 05-01-2005 12:49am

Arg! You beat me to the Klingon quote!

Mr.Nice Guy · 05-01-2005 12:57am

Some guys get all the luck.

The Corinthian · 05-01-2005 1:06am

simu wrote:

Could be some truth in that. As the old Klingon proverb goes, two women having sex need a man as much as a fish needs a bicycle.

You have much to learn grasshopper.

Evilution · 05-01-2005 1:10am

UnReg'd wrote:

I'm a regular user and poster but prefere to post this anon because of the content.

I'm a guy, twenties going out with a wonderful girlfriend. I love her very much. We have a great sex life etc, even doing some fun handcuffy things. So as you see we try new things.

She has mentioned she wants to have a 3some with another girl. I know, this should be my dream as a guy come true, but I don't want to. I don't want to share her.

What should I do? Do it and see what happens? What if she finds she likes girls more than boys? Worse, what if she does it behind my back.

Help!

Solution: Get her to bring her friend along and wait for them to get it on in front of you. If you've not joined in after 1 minute flat then leave and consider yourself a disgrace to the word heterosexual

Miles · 05-01-2005 1:25am

Just remember when you're ninety and lying on your deathbed your gonna think one of two things:

"What the f$ck was I thinking not sh@gging those two birds"

or (And this is what I would be thinking)

"Thank God I sh@gged those two birds, now I can die a happy man"

You have a responsibility to the team to tag these two.

:cool:

Evilution · 05-01-2005 1:36am

Miles wrote:

You have a responsibility to the team to tag these two.

:cool:

Yeah, we demand results!!!!

MojoMaker · 05-01-2005 2:24am

Sec...no thirded!

pickarooney · 05-01-2005 11:33am

This happy chappy concurs.

Mr.Nice Guy · 05-01-2005 9:16pm

Miles wrote:

Just remember when you're ninety and lying on your deathbed your gonna think one of two things:

"What the f$ck was I thinking not sh@gging those two birds"

or (And this is what I would be thinking)

"Thank God I sh@gged those two birds, now I can die a happy man"

You have a responsibility to the team to tag these two.

:cool:

You'll never find a better bit of advice than this. :cool:

Ro: maaan! · 05-01-2005 9:20pm

If I think either of those two things when I'm on my death bed you have permission to shoot me.

Amz · 05-01-2005 11:35pm

Mr.Nice Guy wrote:

You'll never find a better bit of advice than this. :cool:

I think it's pretty safe to assume you and your "cronies" have a lot of trouble getting one girl to willingly sleep with you, let alone two.

Miles · 05-01-2005 11:46pm

That's the first time I've been called a crony.

Or at least I assume I'm included in that statement.

Mr.Nice Guy · 06-01-2005 12:15am

Amz wrote:

I think it's pretty safe to assume you and your "cronies" have a lot of trouble getting one girl to willingly sleep with you, let alone two.

Are you coming on to me?

Cake Fiend · 06-01-2005 12:22am

pwd wrote:

Girls together looks cool in porn - but there's no emotional attachment in porn.

Spot on. It's very different having a threesome with a girl that you're actually in a loving relationship with.

elivsvonchiaing · 06-01-2005 12:34am

simu wrote:

Could be some truth in that. As the old Klingon proverb goes, two women having sex need a man as much as a fish needs a bicycle.

There were plenty of fish in need of bicycles (or any form of transport) throughout SE Asia for 20 mins on 26/12 :eek: (They also needed propulsion - a driver)

First thoughts on this are... I am so jealous - when I was younger I would have jumped on this without thought. Will still do this, I we were only going out for a few weeks and I have some doubts, - christ I wish :rolleyes:

If your relationship is really serious, you need to identify whether she is serious about you, whether she is just trying to please you with this, whether she has some lesbian need for this, whether you can handle this - and what are the terms and conditions of this.

Miles · 06-01-2005 12:36am

And we're going to need to see the pictures on this one. Ok?

MojoMaker · 06-01-2005 1:45am

elivsvonchiaing wrote:

First thoughts on this are... I am so jealous - when I was younger I would have jumped on this without thought.

Oddly enough it's usually young people that have a problem with the proposed scenario.

Slutmonkey57b · 06-01-2005 6:41am

God DAMMIT MAN.

Seriously dude.

You should be expelled from the human race for even THINKING of turning her down.

Cactus Col · 06-01-2005 1:44pm

If you're not into it then say no.

If she goes off behind your back and sleeps with a girl (and you find out), then dump her.

Slutmonkey57b · 07-01-2005 5:40pm

No.

No we didn't.

Because there's nothing wrong with it! It's the best thing ever!

pwd · 07-01-2005 5:45pm

Did any of U sick f*cks ever think that their might be something wrong about this in the first place ? What a f*ckin country this is becoming !

it's usually people who are this reactionary who actually turn out to be sick in my experience.

D!ve^Bomb! · 07-01-2005 6:11pm

Amz wrote:

I think it's pretty safe to assume you and your "cronies" have a lot of trouble getting one girl to willingly sleep with you, let alone two.

well said

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