Involuntary Blushing

LegacyUser

Quite simple..Anyone suffer from redness even when they don't feel particularly embarassed? I am relatively confident, but in any situation I can go beetroot in a second. Not good. Happens a lot in class when asked a question, but has even happened around a group of my best mates when the joke turns on me. It's like I hate being caught off-guard or out of control in the situation.

I have booked in for a couseller as it is wrecking my confidence. I feel I'd be reasonably good at public speaking, chatting up girls, etc. Except this 'slight discomfort' gets written all over my face as if I was absolutely dieing to be out of the situation.

Thank u.

Crucifix

I go red in any situations where it's possible to be embarrased whether I'm embarrased or not. It can be annoying.

The_B_Man

ive actually gone red lookin at other ppl gettin embarressed. i think ur focusin on it too much and thats why its an issue for u.
i remember a cupla mates used to wreck me head. they used to stop in the middle of a conversation and shout "ah look, hes goin red!" at me. of course, as soon as everyone looked, i used to go red. luckily it didnt catch on and only happened bout 3 times.
i lived with a bloke last year who was red 24/7 nearly. but i think it was coz he fancied me other housemate. hehe.

pingu_girl

I used to have that same problem with people who i had to serve in the shop even when i didnt fancy em or even know them id start to go red then id think about it and it would get worse it just ended up going away eventualy

Dave

I had that aswell, still do occasionally. Doesn't really bother me as much as did before, when I was younger, hence it doesn't happen as often.

Victor

Red107 wrote:

It's like I hate being caught off-guard or out of control in the situation.

Our greatest fears are losing control and / or not having friends / being rejected. Part of resolving the blushing is relaising it's OK to lose control of the situation from time to time (within safety rules) and have fun.

LegacyUser

LoL!! Yes!! this happens to me sometimes!!! Usually i'm grand, but sometimes I go red when usually i'd be under no distress. I can clearly remember one morning i went to the shop to get the papers, and when i went to get served, the whole ordeal caused me to blush bright red from some reason.

As for going red when other people go red, this has happened to me. One day a girl we kinda knew was being introduced properly to me and my friend. The guy doing the introducing knew for a fact my friend was into this girl. So when he introduced her he said "And you know John of course, waaha". My mate who's usually very cool and collected blushed bright red, i turned red too, i was so embarressed for him.

Elessar

I saw on Sky news once this girl who had severe blushing that was wrecking her life. She got a simple operation done, where a surgeon/doctor cut two nerves inside her body, one on each side of her abdomen. These were the nerves responsible only for blushing. It took about 10 mins and afterward she said her confidence increased greatly, as its impossible for her to blush. It's a bit drastic but it can be done.

Bri

Yeah I get it from time to time too. Dunno why. Try not to think about it I guess.

CathyMoran

I still blush all the time - you just have to carry on regardless and hope that it will go away. Have been told by a few people that it is very cute but that is not much help.

luckat

If you blush, don't duck your head and try to hide it. Stare at the person who's making you embarrassed. People really only think of it as blushing if the accompanying body language spells "embarrassed" - otherwise they just think the room's too warm/cold or something.

Chinafoot

my nana used to always tell me to squeeze my toes together whenever i went red. not sure why but it seemed to work. probably because i was focusing on something other than the embarassment i was feeling.

PeadarofAodh

I find the same thing happens when asked in class
it sometimes means I feel reluctant to answer but I find if I just think
confidently of what I'm saying and don't pay any attention to the fact
then it helps a lot.

Pink Bunny

CathyMoran wrote:

I still blush all the time - you just have to carry on regardless and hope that it will go away. Have been told by a few people that it is very cute but that is not much help.

I have to agree, I think it's cute as well.
The way I look at it is we are all human, nobody is perfect. And sometimes (in a weird way I suppose) it's the little imperfections like blushing too much or a scar or whatever that make a person stand out from the crowd and make them more appealing to me. I feel more comfortable around someone like that, then someone who seems too perfect, ya know?

ShiverinEskimo

the worst part is when you go a little red, then a mate says, ah your going bright red, and then you just lose it and go beetroot. Bastards, if you hadn't have said it, it wouldn't have happened.

Sangre

DO NOT ACT EMBARRASED.
No one will ever make the link to blushing and being uncomfortable unless your body action lets them. I would know, Im the kind of guy who jumps at the chance to embarrass someone, them going red is just a bonus.

BaZmO*

I used to get this ALL the time when I was younger for all the reasons listed above. Just like this ->

I remember when I was about 15 or 16 I was working as a lounge boy in a pub and there was this girl that I really fancied and she copped on that I would turn red at the drop at the hat.
I remember a couple of times when we were waiting to get served at the bar and she turned around and said "Hey, look at how red Barry has gone!!" (referring to my face, not my hair!! I'm not a ginger - not that there's anything wrong with that!!!)
Anyway, older women can be so cruel!!

Doesn't happen anymore other than in situations when I am genuinely embarressed. If I was you I'd try not to worry about it too much.

B.

Bri

I like your avatar!

Roddy23

Red I've a fairly bad prob, myself. Can you inform the Forum how ye get on in the counsellor as sometimes I feel the world is closin on me.

cajun_tiger

its fine your heart races your cheeks go red, big deal i think its cute

LegacyUser

If you have an attitude of 'oh no it’s happening again', it’s only going to get worse. Don’t let it get at you. Think of it as an approaching train and your on the tracks. You step aside and let it go past. Anyway I used to suffer from this but now I find women respond better to a little redness in the cheeks, better than pale irish skin