so fed up with life and death

Nightshiftguy

Within 6 weeks I have lost my gran grandad and to of my favourite aunties.. am so fed up. I am giving up on life.. It has nothing to offer me anymore.. am just gonna make no attempt to have a happy life.

Mrs.Babalady

I am so sorry for your losses.
No wonder you are feeling so low at the moment. It would be extemely difficult for anyone to cope with so much death so close together.
It is such a cliche but time does ease the pain, really it does.
If your anything like me you just want to get from A-Z without going through all the pain in between. But I guess we all learn & grow from such painful experiences. It's so very hard to see any reason to life at times like this but I can only hope you will slowly start to feel hope again & to enjoy life.

Sending you many good wishes........

Nightshiftguy

Thank you very much for your kind words and sympathy. They put a wee smile on my face. Thanks for understanding.

ravenhead

Aww Nightshift!! Sorry to hear that, you're usually so full of life & fun...
But it will get easier, I promise you. When my dad died a couple of years ago I really thought that nothing would make me feel any better, I was wrong, time really does heal. & Make sure to talk to your family, it really does help to share the load. Chin up .....

Nightshiftguy

Thanks doll.. Your one in a million x

ravenhead

Nightshiftguy wrote:

Thanks doll.. Your one in a million x

Anytime babe, PM me whenever you need a chat

Tiriel

that's so so tough nightshift
I can't imagine how you feel.. it's a hard time to be going through. I guess just don't lose hope, and know that as others have said time does help
I'm sure that your Grandad and Aunties lived their lives, and enjoyed their time.. and would only wish for you to enjoy yours xxx

Nightshiftguy

Thanks raven head.

Cork girl

I guess what i need is friends which currently I have none of due to relocating and returning etc etc..

ravenhead

Nightshiftguy wrote:

Thanks raven head.

Cork girl

I guess what i need is friends which currently I have none of due to relocating and returning etc etc..

What about your g/f? Have you talked to her about how you're feeling?

Tiriel

well we're here to listen .. if that helps.. it is a hard one on you, 'specially when having moved etc.

but things do change, so try to stay positive and keep hope for your future.. because you have one to do with what you like.. that might seem daunting now.. but it's a great opportunity when you are ready to make the most of it

Victor

Then perhaps you need someone to talk to. Talk to us. Or if you want, ask your GP for a list of local counsellors.

MistressPandora

Awh, dude, I know how you feel, but please don't give up. I lost my brother when I was 6, admittingly it took me until age 14 to actually accept it, but once I did, the pain eased.
Here is a big hug, and just remember, us Boards people look after our own. *hug*
You're a cool and nice guy, remember that too.
My pm is always open too, and rants are always welcome.

Nightshiftguy

Ravenhead I haven't really She knows but i perfer talking to ppl outside of my life its much easier form me I will talk to her and she will make me feel better. Just need to get it out other ways too

Beruthiel

that is an awful lot of death to deal with in such a short space of time, it's really no wonder you feel down right now
would you consider a grief councillor to help you with it?

ravenhead

Nightshiftguy wrote:

Ravenhead I haven't really She knows but i perfer talking to ppl outside of my life its much easier form me I will talk to her and she will make me feel better. Just need to get it out other ways too

I can understand that, at times it's easier to talk to people that don't know too much about it, But remember she will be there if you need her, & try to keep yourself occupied as much as you can.

Nightshiftguy

I know she will always be there. and my closest friends on boards#! all is good

tinkerbell

You poor thing, I'm so sorry to hear about your losses. I can't even begin to imagine how much pain you're in, six weeks is such a short time for having to deal with so much pain It will get better though, like everyone else said, time will ease the pain, and you have your girl to support you, as well as all the boards people.

ven0m

NSG - I know where you're coming from. I spent a period of a few years where friends or people close to me kept dying & it really sucked!!!! Hang in there mate - take pleasure in the simple things in your life, cos when it comes down to it, they're all that can ever really make you happy or get you through sh*t times - I'm only realising this now while I deal with my own crap, & it is hard as hell to focus on them but I have to otherwise I'm gonna get in a situation I can't afford to revisit ever again..... just make sure you look after your self, talk to people about it; a problem shared is a problem halved & those who are your friends will understand if you need to blow off some steam so you can deal with it all in a proper, healthy & safe manner..... life IS worth living & has so much to offer once you ignore all the bullsh*t distractions/ bells & whistles that are shoved in our faces on a daily basis..... I feel for ya mate & know exactly how you feel..... this will get better, I promise...


::: ven0mous :::

Nightshiftguy

Thanks everyone please keep them coming and msg me or whatever

LegacyUser

That is really sad man. I hope you get over it and this just makes you a stronger person.

On the bright side, you are fortunate to have known these people even if it was for a brief period of time. Some people do not have the chance.

Anyway, really hope you get over it and this helps you in the long run.

Chin up!

Nightshiftguy

HI everyone and once again thanks for your support. Well I woke up this morning not to bad. Had a wee cry now sitting in work and don't wanna be here but I know that I can't not be working I gotta be strong. I gotta carry on with life.. Just great to have you ppl to talk to.

Mrs.Babalady

Fair play to you. That's exactly the way to approach it. One day at a time & then you'll get to the stage when you think "oh,i've been up & at work for 3 hrs without feeling quite so down" & gradually the times between will get longer & longer.
I've been there myself.
And is great to have the support here. I find it great for myself too so your really never alone...

Mind yourself Nightshift

bringitdown

I have lost all my grandparents bar my Granda, who has been living for the past 12 years alone after my grandma passed away. He is a rock at 82, an amazing man, I listen to him a lot, an visit him often. He tells amazingly simple and eloquent stories about his life. He fills me with a sense of pride and wonder at how he still goes on despite having lost the woman he loved so very much.

The reason I tell you this is that I have been so far down in the dumps before, soo pissed off with life that it nearly ended me. What brought me out of this stupor was a small conversation with my granda, the realisation that life is there to enjoy, no matter what happens, no matter what obstacles are thrown in your way. If you stick to a simple rule of doing your best and not hurting others as much as is possible.

I know one day he is going to pass away. He knows it too. Says he looks forward to seeing his wife (my gran) again. I know it will hurt, but I know that I look at the example he has set and it will bring me through.

Apologies for the large amount of sentiment, but hey it is the truth.

I hope you can look at the lifes of those you lost NightShift and take something from them,
Best of luck
bid.

vibe666

i've lost quite a few people close to me too, most recently my granny. it sounds harsh to say i've gotten used to it, i don't think it's that, but you learn to channel your grief and accept that things like this happen over time, and you need to try and

(sorry, having trouble explaining what I mean)

take how you are feeling and wrap it up inside happy memories of those people and concentrate on how lucky you were to have been a apart of their lives and visa versa, rather than on the empty space that they leave behind.

its a terrible thing and I really feel for you, but you can't give up on life. you'll get through it. you'll have good days and bad days, but over time it will get easier. keep your chin up, and if things start to get on top of you then you know where we are.