Adult children living at home

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123316203#Comment_123316203

That's another option! I honestly would get very tough on this, its the sheer disrespect.

I'd tell them no contribution, no room.

I'd sit them down one final time and ask them to contribute equal to what their sibling on SW is contributing.

If they refuse, they have two weeks to find a room to rent, and after that time, their possessions would be bagged up and left outside and the locks changed.

Then tell them you're going to let what was their room out under the rent a room scheme. It's worth up to 14k a year, tax free!

antimatterx

Weird people in this thread.

Yes he should pay, these mechanisms are odd.

chiefwiggum

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123316387#Comment_123316387

Tell us your mechanism for resolving the issue then?

HildaOgdenx

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Downlinz

Serious lack of compassion in this thread for young adults in a housing crisis who have little other choice and are trying to scrimp and save for almost impossible to obtain mortgages. In a country where average rents are over 2k now, kicking them out will probably result in them emigrating more likely than anything else.

Also when you're old, frail and dependent will you be accepting if they treat you in the same way?

DubCount

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123498608#Comment_123498608

I think that's a bit unfair. Not all households are in a financial position to allow an adult child live in the household without contributing to food and bills. Not all adult children are scrimping and saving for a mortgage deposit - some are just enjoying life and their income without saving. I dont think having an adult conversation with an adult child about personal financial responsibility lacks compassion.

When someone becomes an adult and is earning their own income, it is wrong to assume that mum and dad will continue to foot the bill for the cost of their accommodation. Many parents (myself included) support adult children to save for mortgage deposits etc., but that's a choice for the parents. That support means the cost of the adult children's food etc. is coming out of the parents pocket and out of their lifestyle, retirement savings etc.. In a sense, they are contributing to their adult children's savings, which is fine if thats what they want to do - but it should not be just assumed.

Flinty997

I does someone no favours not teaching them about financial responsibility and independence.

For starters I would get them involved in the looking at household finances, what it costs to run etc..

HildaOgdenx

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foxsake

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058402997/adult-children-living-at-home

you are right to kick him out. he is freeloading.

my adult son pays 33% of his net pay - that pays for a room , food and all other products used in the house .

he also babysits his younger siblings once a month or so (tbh never an issue).

now this will change in a few years as I wont be taking 250-300 off him … but for moment it works .. maybe 160-200 a week.

Its about another income contributing to the household - makes everybody's life a bit easier.

I will tell you - ive gotten grief off acquaintances who charge their kids nothing - im denying the young lad a good time etc…

well f that …

lucky my lad totally gets it and think parents who don't charge are fools.