What to wear to a funeral

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D-Lo Brown

Hi folks

Wondering the same here. It is for my aunt's funeral. I always thought that immediate family (siblings, spouse and kids) would wear the black suit. My assumption is that a nephew wouldn't generally do the same. But would be open to advice

Thanks in advance!

Yvonne007

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Firstly, sorry for your loss.

Secondly, I think a nice pair of trousers/jeans and a shirt and jumper would be absolutely fine. It's absolutely not disrespectful once you look neat and clean.

bucketybuck

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If you are up front with the family or carrying the coffin then I would wear a suit, or at least a white shirt, tie and dark trousers with a long black coat.

If you are just part of the crowd, then a suit is probably not necessary as long as what you are wearing is reserved an respectful. Again, dark trousers with a white shirt and a black coat is pretty basic. And black shoes obviously, no runners.

I don't think there is really anything wrong with jeans if you are in the crowd, just as long as they are dark and reserved, with dark shoes and a shirt.

You will often see people in the crowd wearing what is their normal sunday gear for going to mass, and that is just fine because that sunday wear is usually reserved anyway. Just remember that it isn't a fashion show, you aren't there to look good, you are there to give respect to the deceased. So no runners, bright clothes, hoodies or T-shirts.

Don't forget that you might be just a nephew, but that means your mum or dad lost a sister. It won't cost anything to be respectful for them.

apache

I think it's fine to go in what you are comfortable with.

Hannibal_Smith

Hi @D-Lo Brown rather than bump an old thread, I've moved your posts and those replying to it to its own thread. Hope the replies are of some help.

HS

D-Lo Brown

Thanks folks 😀