She would rather be with her girlfriend!

poppop1968

I was seeing a lady on a couple of dates . To me they were dates , but later she said they weren't . It was just 2 friends hanging out she said . We kept that going for a few weeks . She said though that it was just ' a fling ' . We slept together a few times and were intimate , but afterwards she said she didn't want it to develop further and just wanted us to stay friends , nothing more. She friendzoned me after we went on a couple of dates. I asked her why . She said that she just didn't want a relationship and just wanted to have ' fun ' with me . I wanted her as my girlfriend but she doesn't want that. She's very attractive but I truly believed that she wanted me as a boyfriend at the time but realised then that she doesn't. On nights out at the weekend she gets loads of attention from guys . If she is in a pub up to 12 guys or more in a night will chat her up. She doesn't give them her number or date any of them. She just loves the attention she gets from them . There is another lady , a friend of hers that she hangs out with every week and it's as if they are surgically attached to each other . They both go out and love the attention they both get from fellas . The lady I went out with would much rather be single and soak up the attention she gets from multiple guys in a bar chatting her up than go out with one guy if she was dating him. I still think about her a lot and when I do, my male friends keep telling me to give her up and stop ' simping ' over her and that its futile and that she won't go out with me or be my girlfriend. I keep hoping maybe she will develop feelings for me but I don't think she will and I think her mind is made up that she would much prefer to be single and get attention from guys in pubs instead for validation. Myself and her are still friends, but it will never go further now and it upsets me .

What would you suggest I do? Should I just forget her and move on and try to find someone else ?

jj880

If she wanted to be with you she would be with you. Move on.

Cork2021

Straight up, forget about her and move on. As much as a cliche as it is. There’s plenty more fish in the sea.

suvigirl

Seems very obvious, forget her and move on.

thegame983

Separate entirely.

Shellfishfcuker

She's a pr I ck teaser, calmly let her know that's what you think and move on with your dignity intact.

Deregos.

Don't, don't and don't whatever you do become obsessive about her. Let her go mentally and find someone else who shares the same mutual respect and admiration you have for them.

Obsessive people are dangerous people.

fran38

Man, ive been there. I wont go into details but my advise, cut her loose. You'll grieve for a few weeks but you'll get past that. At least you fucked her, thats more than what a lot of fellas can say.

bobbysands81

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/122468650#Comment_122468650

Do not do this… do not call her names… from what you say she has made it clear that she just wants fun with you and doesn’t want you to be her boyfriend. You either agree to this or you don’t.

For what it’s worth… you both want different things so time for you to move on… you had some fun but it sounds like there’s a huge imbalance in feelings which will (more than likely) leave you getting even more hurt, losing your self respect and trying to be something you’re not.

Stay friends with her and move on.

Danny healy ray

i would stay put if the sex was hot I might be scooting about for some place else in the meantime but good sex is good sex

Ezeoul

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Don't do this ^^^

You haven't lost your dignity, yet.

But you will, if you start going around calling women pr!ck teasers because they don't want to be in a relationship.

If you want to preserve your dignity, accept that she doesn't want to take it further with you, and wish her well.

Then move on yourself.

charlie14

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058363096/she-would-rather-be-with-her-girlfriend

Herself and her friend sound like two attractive women who like to play the field and have each other as a safety backup when going out, and fair dues to them. From what you say your lady has been pretty much straight up with you on that from early on, and made it plain to you when she suspected you were expected something more. To me that was very honourable of her and not the actions of what some here are calling a prick tease. She could have said nothing and have you hanging around like a lap dog, but she didn`t. She showed respect for you, so you should do the same as regards her wishes.

If it`s any consolation from her mention of staying friends and having "fun" she may have found you good in the sack and regards you as a "friend with benefits" who accasionally have no strings attached sex. As tempting as that might seem, emotionally it`s not something when it comes to how you look on this woman I believe you would be able to handle without becoming even more obsessed than you are with her. And as a poster here said, obsessions are dangerous.

Avoid being anywhere she will be for a while and move on would be my advice for what it is worth.

Galwayguy35

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058363096/she-would-rather-be-with-her-girlfriend

My first suggestion would be to ask Roe, she is a professional and will steer you in the right direction in this tricky situation you find yourself in.

Don't see where the op has stated they've actually had sex, he said they've slept together and were intimate. For all we know it's a friend who's crashed out beside him at a party but doesn't want to be with him sexually.

anyway, hope everything works out for you op. maybe take a look at this website before you go and ruin your life.

https://www.toointoyou.ie/