Were you ever mocked for being thin by a fat person?

Electric Gypsy

I'm the same as the next person in that I think it's unfair to mock fat people. But I do have a problem on the rare occasion. And that is that some people seem to think I'm thin because, first of all I've a thin build, and secondly given we're the second most obese nation in Europe that means that by comparison, I'm going to seem thin anyway. But if you account for both those factors I'm actually just the way I should be, and it's their problem that they don't get this. I've gotten comments like "did your mother not feed ya at all?". It's so ironic in that the people who are mal-nourished are actually tend to be the fat people.

The other day my bus was broken now at the terminus and I'd to wait for maintenance to come. Another bus driver (fattest of them all btw) arrived and I told him what the situation was. He said "what are you waiting here for, I'd walk down to the petrol station and get myself a 99". I just said "nah I'm grand". After a few more words he started quite forcefully with his ice cream suggestion again. More fellas would pick up from somebody's demeanour that it's not really something they'd do, but this guy was basically implying that I was stupid for not getting an ice-cream. I was there thinking about about how I could give a 5 minute lecture about how he's the stupid one, so I sarcastically said "I wouldn't do that now, you might end up fat!". The conversation turned cold and I knew it was time to go. He shut the doors a bit too quickly on my way out!

It's his right to be fat but when he starts pushing his lifestyle on me, that's where I draw the line. Come to think of it, he probably thinks that I'm thin just by chance. Anyone else have to put up with issues like this as a result of being fat becoming normalised?

kabakuyu

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058311494/were-you-ever-mocked-for-being-thin-by-a-fat-person

Never happened.

89897

What?! He said absolutely nothing to you about being thin, if anything you went straight to fat shaming.

Cienciano

Why are people offended by every little comment these days? Move on OP

Deeec

I think you are very easily offended. He didnt say anything remotely insulting to you - he just said you should go for an ice cream or something while you were waiting. He never implied you were too thin. You need to cop yourself on a bit if you were offended

BlueSkyDreams

Got 99 problems but an ice cream aint one.

For Forks Sake

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Shedite27

Fat people are nicer than thin people, wouldn't do that

nachouser

Plus, a 99 is probably about 8 quid these days. Good call, OP.

quokula

So, the guy made an innocuous suggestion as to what there was to pass the time in the area while waiting, and you immediately had a go at him about his weight?

Electric Gypsy

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121047773#Comment_121047773

they've a bigger carbon footprint... not nice on our future generations

Rubberchikken

Shouldha just got the 99 op. I would have 😁

89897

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121048035#Comment_121048035

Yes when all the fat people destroy the planet at least they'll be the best ones to eat when it descends to that.

macchoille

Yes, I started running about 9 months about due to a health scare in the family. I wasn’t clinically overweight (BMI 24.7) or anything but I have an IT job and WFH so was really needed. (Not mentioning actual weight as I’m not tall)

I’ve lost a significant amount of weight (BMI is now 20.5), i look quite slim but I’m toned.

Anyway an in law (who really needs to lose a few pounds) gives me constant jibes about my weight (anorexic, go eat a burger you Et****an , don’t you think X looks really happy with their weight, do you not think you looked better before ) ; it drives me mad. Thing is I have never directly/indirectly mentioned anything to them or anyone else about their weight or eating/drinking habits so it really pisses me off.

BTW I eat non-stop (3000+ calories a day on average ) but the running (60+ km a week) burns most of it off. And yes I probably need to (and will) start more strength work(do pull-ups, pushups , crunches etc) but it’s not going to make me look filled out.

BrianD3

To fit in in Irish society, you need to be fat, drink alcohol and follow GAA. If you are a healthy weight you'll be an outlier. Snide comments disguised as "slagging" are then likely. I have had a good few of these over the years - I was asked if I had worms and have been asked on several occasions if I'm a jockey with these comments being aimed at my height or weight or both. I remember one jockey comment when I was 12 stone at 5 foot 9, not sure I'd make much of a jockey at that weight. I've also had women and men tell me that I'd get beaten in a fight as I'm so small. I've heard of other men being slagged about being slim behind their backs - does he not eat, he must be very anxious about what he eats etc. Faux concern, in other words.

As for the OP and being badgered over getting an ice cream, it's quite likely that him being slim is at least part of this. But an environment like a bus depot (especailly if semi state) would IME tend to be childish and herd like anyway "who does this skinny fcuker think he is, does he not know that we ALWAYS go to the shop when the bus breaks down, he must be a snob/swot/nerd/lickarse" "

jumbone

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121050207#Comment_121050207

Took me a minute but... you censored Ethiopian?

Ezeoul

Interesting that you chose to use a deliberately perjorative term for describing overweight people, but a not thin people.

tesla_newbie

No , been mocked for my height plenty of times though

Badly Drunk Boy

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121050589#Comment_121050589

I assumed the person meant the Etruscans. They were very averse to eating burgers, apparently.

Royale with Cheese

I used to be quite thin when I was younger, I'm nearing 40 now though and growing into more of a dad bod. Still I've only graduated from a size small up to medium thus far (have no intention of it going any further).

I think openly having a go at men for being thin or underweight is seen as far more acceptable than doing the same to overweight people (especially women). I remember taking shít off some girl when I was 16 who was comparing me to Mr. Burns. As soon as I gave some shít back about her massive fat arse (it was quite large in proportion to the rest of her body) the tears came out and this wasn't fair and I was the asshole etc.

DownByTheGarden

Does your mother constantly asking are you eating after you leave home count :)

I remember once my wife had a few friends over for dinner and a few drinks. I walked in while they were well on and they started slagging me off, which is just a bit of fun.

But there is one rather overweight total cow who nobody like at all and she started slagging me about my spindly legs. I'll take the slagging off enyone but that cow , but i didnt want to say anything back so i turned and left them to it. I was getting something out of the fridge in the utility room and i heard her brag to the rest of them that she finds most men are intimidated by a strong curvy woman and dont know what to say to her. The truth really is that she is a fat cow who nobody likes and they only invite because she is related to one of them and would moan if they didnt invite her. Men who are intimidated by her i assume are men who dont want anything to do with her, which is most people, not just most men. Im 100% sure she doesnt realize this and in her head she is some curvy goddess that every man thinks is out of their league.

macchoille

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121050589#Comment_121050589

Yeah as I wasn’t too sure how’d it would look if I put that in the clear but guessing since I’m quoting someone else it’s not actually bad

macchoille

I think often the mocking is really deflecting their own insecurities about their own self body image and jealousy that the person they are mocking may be closer to their body ideal.

Since exercise and/or cutting down on alcohol and/or trying to eat healthier are just too difficult for whatever reason it’s easier to just mock others.

Schnooks

I used to get this alot in my teens and 20s - "skinny f*cker, gust of wind would blow you away, you look like you have AIDS etc". I would never mock anyone about their weight, fat or thin. You don't know what battles they may be fighting in their head.

My mother used to shovel food into me constantly but it made no difference, I was 6'1" and only about 10 stone until I hit late 20s. And I hated it. I was the only one in my family like this (took after my paternal GF, other lads were like my Dad, shorter and stronger).

As the metabolism slowed down, I bulked up to about 12.5 stone in my 30s and now in my 50s am happy enough at a steady 14.5 stone, which is probably a little overweight, but not hugely. My doctor has never raised any concerns with my weight.

But as a 50-something now, I am actually glad that I had a skinny build as a youngster and am now glad I wasn't a 14 stone teenager. I can eat and drink anything I want and my weight never changes much. I keep fit a bit also, not hugely though.

I look at a lot of my friends, some who were very strongly built in their teens and 20s. But unfortunately some of these lads are ranging from 18 st to one lad who must be around 23 st. And they are aways saying they wish they had my build/metabolism. Mind you it doesn't decrease the amount rubbish they eat and the industrial amounts of pints some of them drink 😂 And I am not trying to slag them here, they do it to themselves all the time.

At the end of the day, we are all different, and being thinner or more rotund is just another example of this. And should be respected and not sneered at or mocked.

tesla_newbie

You aren’t allowed be truthful about women’s body condition , a very significant percentage of women are utterly self deluded about how they look ( overweight) and because telling them the truth is a war crime, they remain often very unhealthy

j2

You should be able to lift 100kg overhead and run 10k in under 45 minutes to be consider "in good shape" or "fit". That's for men, for women I have no idea what the requirements are.

Strumms

No, if it ever happened I’d just suggest the person doing the slagging might be better off asking for a prescription before they go clothes shopping..

guy in the boozer used to get it… he’d eat the head off a scabby sheep but he’d never put on a kilogram. I was at football trips with him, and jeez… it had to be seen to be believed .. talk about appetite ….

a great saying of his which he’d make the auld wans giggle.. “ string along with me love and you’ll have a body like twine “…

Electric Gypsy

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121050917#Comment_121050917

Couple of questions there; who's side was your wife on? Because women nearly always take sides.

When you say you didn't want to say anything, do you mean that you didn't know what to say? That's kind of what I intended this thread to also be about... being able to handle such insults confidently. This cow was obviously implying that you left the room out of fear.

Electric Gypsy

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121050381#Comment_121050381

I'd might have looked like an eegit if maintenance showed and there I was eating an ice cream like a child.

cj maxx

I’ve been mocked for being very thin. Even a specialist doctor asked me about my weight , though I had lost some due to being so busy rearing 2 children . I told her i was out for dinner the other night , she said good. What I didn’t mention was it was the CL sf against Barcalona and i had 8 pints too 😷

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/121050381#Comment_121050381

That's not an Irish society thing. A certain sector of it, but not Irish society as a whole.