Dating

tina4t

I've always liked a guy for over 3+ yrs, we cross paths very priefly once a week if lucky, in work, I actually think he's georgous and discovered recently he's single. He's tried to chat to me a few times, but coz of sourtoundings (no privacy) and being nervous I Bolt it. We borh work same jobs but dont cross paths at all as different locations in 2nd job. Im half guessing he probably dosnt think im interested coz he's missing a few front teeth, which i don't care as i really like him. This is going on about 2 to 3 months, me trying to bump into him to chat outside work which is like looking for a needle in a hay stack. ❤️

Hannibal_Smith

I'd say if he's tried talking to you and you bolted he's got the impression you're not interested. That's why bumping into him so difficult. Have you ever actually chatted? Or have you just admired from a far?

YellowLead

What’s the question here OP? Are you wondering what your next step should be??

tina4t

Yes we spoke a good few months ago, he stayed chatting to me while the others were outside, I didn't know he was single that time but I always had my guard up coz of his colleague whom didn't like me. I'd notice him glancing sometimes. Asked a couple of friends they say let him do the chasing, but it's pretty difficult when we cross paths so rarely plus he probably thinks I'm not interested due to me walking away after 3 words, I just don't feel comfortable chatting to him when lots of colleagues around in a small area 🤔

tina4t

Would I come across as being desperate getting his number and suggesting meeting up sometime, anyone I've ever dated its been on line I met them originally. Find it strange the taught of dating someone I know.

Hannibal_Smith

How would you get his number? I think you'd be better off just chatting to him when you're out next, see if you get along and go from there.

rolling boh

Only way really is make sure you chat to him the next opportunity you get you can't really blame him for thinking you are not interested by your actions before .He might just need a bit of encouragement so take the chance if you can .

Jafin

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120695836#Comment_120695836

Ask him out next time you see him and if he says yes then ask for his number. Don't try to get his number from someone else, that may come across a little creepy. Also ignore your friends that said let him do the chasing. That's juvenile, teenage stuff. Adults are perfectly capable of asking other adults out. The gender of the person that does the asking doesn't matter.

ElizaBennett

Seeing as you hardly ever bump into him then I'd go the email route. Presumably you know his work email as you're with the same company? I'd go with something simple to start with: anything you could think of to put in a short email ie a work social event coming up or any big workplace news at the moment that would prove a talking point. You'll soon know whether he's interested based on whether he responds quickly or not and what tone he uses etc. You could easily start up some contact tihat way and get a vibe as regards whether he's interested or not. Good luck.

Purple Mountain

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120706005#Comment_120706005

You have to be very careful about that in a workplace.

It might be frowned upon by management and make things awkward if the recipient doesn't reciprocate.

ElizaBennett

Seriously? I think that's massively over thinking it. I don't see how anyone could frown on something like 'hi, how did you find the course on procurement last week?' 'Heard you're speaking at the away day, good luck!' Or some such innocuous query that will lead to absolutely nothing if he"s not bothered answering. I get friendly work emails all the time.

Purple Mountain

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/120735711#Comment_120735711

What I mean is if he's not interested, and things are awkward for him or he gets embarrassed by saying no, then that might be problematic.

I'm saying this because he's not someone you would send friendly emails to normally or even bump into so he might feel awkward if saying no.

I've been in that situation and was blindsided into giving a colleague my number and he wanted it to ask me out. I had no interest in him romantically, lovely guy otherwise, but it was so awkward getting a call then having to say no, then see him the following day.

That was just my experience anyway.