Are men or women more romantic in your view?

completedit

I personally think males are more likely to experience romantic fantasies than women(for a whole host of reasons) but so much part of popular culture is the man pining over the long lost love that got away. Whereas women it tends to be about how all the chumps who came before led her to this perfect man she is now with. I think that tells a lot about how the two sexes approach relationships. Women are more pragmatic because they have more to lose, men can afford to be more wistful and melancholic about love and relationships. Women need to find a winner quick whereas the man can at least biologically spend years pining over some failed romance. A women does not have the luxury of time.

Dohnjoe

Who is the target audience for most romantic books and films? I think that's your answer right there.

completedit

It's a strange one because that's true, it is women. But in my real life experience, women are much more cut throat than men are and are much more practical. I'd like to know why women choose to escape to fantasy to be romantic but in daily life are not while men are less likely to be drawn to romantic themes but in daily life are more likely to display the romanticism that women do not.

EmmetSpiceland

I’m not sure you could call the sort of fantasies the guys you’re talking about are having “romantic”.

talla10

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119267977#Comment_119267977

50 Shades of Grey made all that romantic

gameoverdude

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058252379/are-men-or-women-more-romantic-in-your-view

So what you're saying that these chumps have to just wait a while until they'll get the one they want because of their fertility.

You've just given me a sublime parenting tip for my sons.

Wait until you're older. The one you fancied the arse off for ages when you are 22 is now desperate. With a lordly like raise of the hand say, "bathe her and bring her to me".

Did I get that right?

Pragmatic part will take another post. Suppose it answers which sex is more romantic.

Gant21

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119268535#Comment_119268535

Getting fingered in a lift, all the rage in Shopping centre lifts.

gameoverdude

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119268662#Comment_119268662

Don't knock it.

FFS. That's all I have to offer to this thread.

growleaves

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119267912#Comment_119267912

True but if you think some of the bestselling books of all time that men like, like The Lord of the Rings, there is a lot of romanticism in that too.

gameoverdude

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119268662#Comment_119268662

Don't knock it.

magicbastarder

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j95uDFgEpt0

..

EmmetSpiceland

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119268662#Comment_119268662

Romance, on many levels.

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119268932#Comment_119268932

Ah yeah, he was always great in Vicar Street.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yNKoH84ioz0

completedit

People have been fed the narrative that men are sex hungry who only think with their dicks which is such bullshit. Women are much more driven by biologically, men are driven by melancholy.

gameoverdude

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119269198#Comment_119269198

I'd go with dicks.

magicbastarder

famous last words.

igCorcaigh

I never understood what the word "romantic" meant, beyond Leaving Cert Shakespeare, and never will.

gameoverdude

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119269221#Comment_119269221

It's ridiculous. I'll be coming home home from work and buy herself a big bar of galaxy chocolate. Delighted out. And get an awww.

It's not just sex (which I was hoping for), but honestly thoughtfulness is a huge thing in a relationship.

banie01

Women expect to be "romanced" whilst men are expected to be romantic.

In hetero relationships at least, tho even at that? The most actually romantic relationships I've encountered have been male - male.

I have no theory as to the how's or why's, my sample size is small and it's not a hypothesis I'd care to defend to the world 😉

That said, romance in my experience is very much an action undertaken by men and received by women. I'd go so far as to say that's why so viral vids and stories of the contrary, of a woman's romantic gesture gain traction.

On top of all that, what's the line between romance and genuine thoughtfulness and consideration? Because, women IMO are far, far better at that, at shaping a gift, experience or gesture to the recipient. Whereas us men? Well, we try and sometimes even have success but when the "romance" dies? It's likely us that killed it.

gameoverdude

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119269275#Comment_119269275

That's kinda what I was getting at in a previous post (except for your last point).

Romanced is nearly an expectation (not for all of course). I'm also crap at it. I'd think what can I do for my other half, not for expectations.

Maybe there is a selfish element to it, maybe as simple as a bright smile and spending time with her. Makes me happy though. I dunno.

They killed it, I dunno. Relationships change. A lot of decent chats and laughter I have found a great aphrodisiac for both of us.

banie01

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119269338#Comment_119269338

Would agree with you that relationships develop, they change over time and the good ones get better.

Romance is a start, thoughtfulness, love, support and consideration are the goal.

The OP of this thread? And his transactional view of life and relationships? Won't, but he will keep rolling over ways to make the failures someone else's fault, it's what he does 😉🤷‍♂️

gameoverdude

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119269369#Comment_119269369

Failures? Don't know the OP (actually thought it was a woman which surprised me. Duh!)

Transactional, occasionally, without money passing hands. What I mean is that you want your bit and so do I. Grand!

banie01

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119269388#Comment_119269388

Nah, not a woman unless they are playing a blinder as a troll. A longstanding proponent of the auld incel type of BS and always the victim of those conniving wimmins

gameoverdude

Just popped into my head, which often happens.

I'm a big depeche mode fan. They had a lyric in one of their songs that sticks with me with me (not constantly) : "I disolve in trust".

My criteria.

con___manx1

That really depends on if the woman wants to have kids or not.

gameoverdude

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119269405#Comment_119269405

Ah! I need to learn to conive back. Haha! In your face non lover. You told me to get two galaxy bars,but I only got one! In your face!

banie01

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119269431#Comment_119269431

True connivance would be coming home with a sleeve of Yorkies and telling her "They're not for girls" before sticking on CoD and telling her you'll be up later and if she plays her cards right, she can lick your chocolatey fingers😉😂

**Warning** this course of action may result in injury

gameoverdude

I'm going to try that! Outstanding!

You may not see me post for a while, eh...covid.

riclad

Women watch alot of romantic films, read mills and boon books , but they are also very down to earth and practical. Women like sex, men like sex, most people who get married fall in love. Women expect to be romanced, courted, given presents, flowers, we are not at the stage where everything is equal yet. So you might say women are more interested in romance, but there has to be romance love on both sides of you want to be in a good relationship

Bobblehats

That would be *men* wouldn't it? ..it's got to be. Women; I think try to tap into that whereas for men it just comes natural I do admire a certain cold calculation although sometimes its best to just curb your enthusiasm where it just feels like romancing the stone.