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Aliinthecity1992

Hello,

How do you deal with a BF who was regularly liking a woman’s suggestive/posed pictures online during your relationship? (Not a female celeb, lives in the next town)

Thanks…..

Atlantic Dawn

Ditch him unless he works in a womens clothing outlet.

Aliinthecity1992

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118260790#Comment_118260790

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Aliinthecity1992

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Jequ0n

Not a lot of context in your op. Is this the only issue or one of many? Or are you worried that you will be cheated on?

Tork

Why did you delete the comment about him being secretive with his phone?

Tork

Duplicate post - thanks Vanilla

Aliinthecity1992

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118260918#Comment_118260918

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118261226#Comment_118261226

Tork- Trying not to be recognised.

Jequ0n- No there have been other issues. [EDITED].

YellowLead

Are the posts about other things - eg events or work and you feel her poses are suggestive or it is specifically her posing with no context it’s about anything else?

Are they friends?

Aliinthecity1992

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118262291#Comment_118262291

Just posing selfie and in mirrors. You know the type. No context only being suggestive.

Not friends.

Jequ0n

Why are you remaining in the relationship if you feel insecure and undervalued?

If the pushing of boundaries means that you give in and adjust your mindset you might have a problem at hand.

Tork

Everybody has their own ideas of where the boundaries are in a relationship. If you're not OK with him liking these photos, there's nothing wrong with that. In my mind, liking suggestive photos of a woman who lives in the next town is different to liking some beach babe in California who he'll never meet. Others won't bat an eyelid and that's their prerogative. This is your relationship we're talking about here, not theirs.

You also mentioned but deleted a post about him being secretive with his phone. You now tell us that he has said and done things that are pushing your boundaries and are hurting you. Are you sure this is a relationship you want to be in? No relationship is perfect but the least anybody should be able to expect from one is to trust their partner. Do you?

Aliinthecity1992

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Aliinthecity1992

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118262555#Comment_118262555

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BanditLuke

Move on if not happy OP. There are plenty more fish in the sea who will put time and effort into a relationship with you instead of flirting with other women.

YellowLead

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118262489#Comment_118262489

Is this something he’s always done and does with a large volume of women? If so it’s probably less meaningful. Doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be hurt by it, I know I would be. But if liking lots of women’s suggestive pictures is a habit he’s had for years it probably means nothing to him.

YellowLead

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118262692#Comment_118262692

this could mean he realised it was hurtful for you and decided to undo the damage rather than him trying to hide things. But look it seems this is bigger than what he’s doing on social media. If he’s hurting you on a number of levels - would you not just break up? You don’t have to stay and be miserable.

Aliinthecity1992

Mods can delete or lock thread please

Hannibal_Smith

Locked as per OPs request

Thanks folks

HS