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Partners Aunt asked me to mind her child.

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,282 ✭✭✭✭iamwhoiam


    When I replied to the OP he / she had not said what age the child is . It was added in later



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 56 ✭✭purpleshoe


    Why are you even minding the child and so frequently at that?

    You say in your opening post that the child is your partner's aunt's child. On the face of it, your partner's aunt has an expectation of you that I view is abnormal.

    I can't understand why the aunt is constantly going to you? Have you a wider track record of child minding, or are you currently studying something in that area? Why you?



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 803 ✭✭✭afkasurfjunkie


    I’d say if you went to her house the child would have been in their pjs and maybe not even out of bed. So by asking her to drop child to yours, she would’ve had to get said child up, dressed and fed. That’s why she took the hump. I think you are absolutely correct in this situation.



  • Posts: 19,178 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    She expects you to babysit her kid 2 or 3 days a week for free?

    She's taking the piss OP. Don't be a doormat.



  • Posts: 11,734 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    I won’t be anymore thanks to everyone for your thoughts and opinions.



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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 542 ✭✭✭Pistachio19


    You've had a lucky escape - no more free childminding for her. If she does ask again just say you're not available - no excuses needed. She's clearly taken the piss and is in a huff now because you dared try to put your convenience ahead of hers. Good luck to her finding some other mug to drop all and mind her child.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,482 ✭✭✭Princess Calla


    Just be careful.... Rhetorical questions here, obviously I have no idea of your situation.

    But what are the rest of the family like? I mean the aunt is showing severe leechy behaviour, no one asks extended family for free babysitting on such a regular basis, grandparents at a push!

    If I did that I'd have my sister/brother/mother on to me saying pay the girl or find someone else. There's a severe sense of entitlement from the aunt ....does it run through the entire family?

    Also from my experience these are the type that people that never repay babysitting favours they'll be heard stating "I'm done I reared my family" when the reality is they passed their kids around like pass the parcel.

    Just something for yourself to ponder. Very easy to fall into a people pleaser trap.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 151 ✭✭Mr Burny




  • Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators, Paid Member Posts: 7,497 Mod ✭✭✭✭Hannibal_Smith


    Mod Note

    Warning issued to Mr Burny for breach of forum charter.


    HS



  • Posts: 11,734 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]




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  • Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators, Paid Member Posts: 7,497 Mod ✭✭✭✭Hannibal_Smith


    Mod Note

    As you no longer to appear to want advice tajd, we'll close it there.

    Cheers folks.

    HS



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