Looking for advise, not sure now if I should move out of home.

I Corps

I've been living at home with my parents for the past years since I graduated college. Because of personal reasons, moving out of home hasn't been ideal.



However, with the current pandemic, moving out of home puts a slow brake to the plan just as I have been able to do so since last year. With the slow rollout of vaccines and me still needing to keep in touch with my sixty-something year old parents (obviously vulnerable to COVID) and with my siblings even after I move, I am getting cold feet to the idea of moving out as I don't want to accidentally transmit the virus to them. Seeing the number of everyday cases going up and down is also discouraging even if it is relatively only a handful down here in Cork.



I admit that the rational part of me says that I should wait until my entire family and I are all vaccinated to be sure. But at the same time I just can't stand my overbearing and conservative parents. I've been putting up with them for so long, in addition to the lockdown, and it's chipping away at my mental health.

Fake Scores

Move.

You're in Cork - so obviously move.

You have been putting up with them for so long???
I feel sorry for your parents.

I Corps

Fake Scores wrote: »

Move.

You're in Cork - so obviously move.

Looking at the figures, the cases everyday in Cork floats at about 14-18 cases. Sounds silly but should I still be worried?

I Corps

Bam Bam Mickey wrote: »

You have been putting up with them for so long???
I feel sorry for your parents.

You've no idea, lol.

Leg End Reject

Your parents won't change (and shouldn't to suit an adult child) and it's their home. Time to move out and be independent.

Other people manage with garden visits, phone calls etc.

Church on Tuesday

Bam Bam Mickey wrote: »

You have been putting up with them for so long???
I feel sorry for your parents.

Parents can be flawed people too.

Oranage2

Move out to do what and go where?

Moving out isn't always the best option especially for millenniums when rent is criminally high and socializing is expensive.

Leg End Reject

Church on Tuesday wrote: »

Parents can be flawed people too.

Yes, but it's their home so they should live and act how they choose.

I Corps

Oranage2 wrote: »

Move out to do what and go where?

Moving out isn't always the best option especially for millenniums when rent is criminally high and socializing is expensive.

I work on night shift so I'm getting paid premium. And luckily enough actually, the house I am interested to move in is walking distance from my work (where I currently live is also walking distance).


I'm not necessarily concerned with socialising; I am ambivert. I'm still sociable though largely I prefer to keep to myself. And it's not like there's anything do with the current pandemic anyway!

Fake Scores

Bam Bam Mickey wrote: »

You have been putting up with them for so long???
I feel sorry for your parents.

I think he cares about them but needs to strike out on his own. He's
putting up with the bad situation of having no independence and
freedom. Not that he's having difficulty with them personally.

I Corps, trust your gut. Your spirit is crying out for freedom and a new life.

Church on Tuesday

Leg End Reject wrote: »

Yes, but it's their home so they should live and act how they choose.

Agreed, but it's still not an ideal situation for some.

I'd just move OP, better off independent anyway.

Potential-Monke

If it's a situation that can't be improved by talking, then yes, it's time to move. I'm 37 and living at home, but I do my best to not interfere with their lives, and I will do anything they ask me to. They're doing me a favour by letting me live in their house during their golden years, but it has the flip side of me being able to give them some quality of life improvements (in the tech side of life).

I would love to live by myself again, but I just can't afford it and a somewhat happy existence at the same time. Living at home is beneficial to us all, but it's not for everyone. You can move out, and you can still visit, you just have to be more strict about it.

Hard one for someone else to call for you, you have to make up your own mind. But if it's negatively affecting your mental health, then it's a no brainer.