4 positive pregnancy tests!!!!

Bambinoonboard

Hello folks,

My partner and I found out I'm pregnant a few days ago.

According to my doctor, I'm 5 weeks.

We're both first time parents. I experienced a missed miscarriage 7 years ago and found out at the early pregnancy scan. Naturally, I feel nervous/scared this time again, yet at the same time a hell of a lot more relaxed in general, with my life at a different stage too. My doctor has suggested an early pregnancy scan again.

As classified as high risk, I'm now working from home again.

What reason can I give for being absent? Colleagues have already asked why I'm out.

I've phoned my doctor, made an appt to see her and for an early pregnancy scan next week.

What should I start doing next/ thinking?

We hadn't planned to conceive so soon (all going well we get good news next week of course) and until now were both in house and wedding mode.

I'm already Googling nursery ideas for a 1 bed apartment.

ANY tips/help are appreciated. I dont have many close women in my life I can confide in at this time.

kiki smiling

Huge congrats on your exciting news, wishing you all the best for next week

Bambinoonboard

Thanks Kiki!!

catrionanic

Oh this is a very exciting time for you, congratulations! You don't really have to do much at this stage. Get on the folic acid and try to eat well. You should think about what maternity hospital you'd like to attend and whether to go public or private. If you want to have a home birth or get on a domino scheme (Community midwives), you usually have to book these very early in the first trimester as they tend to be over-subscribed.

Otherwise just try to relax and enjoy the excitement. It probably won't be long before some of the difficult first trimester symptoms begin, so try to make the most of the next week or two if you can

Bambinoonboard

Thank you catrionanic.

I went straight on the folic acid. I feel nauseated after I eat and my appetite has decreased. I dread the more difficult symptoms to come, haha... I remember the OVERLY TENDER boobs and sweats the last time!! Time will tell....

I have no idea what the domino scheme is- I'll get onto it.

I dont have private health insurance (for the past few yrs) and so assume now it too late... I've heard pluses from both public and private. A friend who has private health insurance, for some reason decided to go public and felt it was good for her baby and her.

Minier81

Public maternity care is really good in ireland so you will have no worries about that.

For the nausea try to eat small and often if you can.

Also don't fret about the one bed apartment. We still have our 2.5yo in our room and we live in a 4 bed!! It has just been easier that way for us but we will move her out soon, if she is ready.

Bambinoonboard

Thanks Minier. That's reassuring. I have the image of being cooped up and struck between our kitchen/living area and bedroom but probably thinking the worst.

We live 1 hour from Dublin. Ive heard of many people opting to go to the Rotunda from here instead of the local hospital. Is this because the Rotunda is better?

Mildred22

Congrats bambino! Re being off work I was the same I work in a school so Was told I couldn’t go back and I was only 5 weeks and was worried to about others would say, but then I just said they can talk about it and try guess behind my back but I knew knowone would say it to my face so I just left it, when they text me I just tell them it’s personal why I am off and there hasn’t been much else! I’m sure everyone is guessing but that’s life! Safer to be at home atm!

uptheduffagain

Congrats!

I agree with the poster above, I'd just say 'for personal reasons' to your colleagues and let them think whatever - it's none of their beeswax!

Once you have your GP appointment done, they'll advise you to get in touch with whatever hospital you want to attend to make a booking appointment (around 12 weeks). I think some GPs do this referral for you, but mine didn't - but it can all be done online/over the phone (with Holles Street, anyway).

If you have an option to go to a dedicated maternity hospital I would go there, whether it's the Rotunda or Holles Street or The Coombe. I'm sure your local hospital is fine but I'd feel better knowing that IF there was a problem, there are maternity specialists on hand. That's just me, though. I went public at Holles Street with my first and am doing the same with my second.

Bambinoonboard

Mildred22 wrote: »

Congrats bambino! Re being off work I was the same I work in a school so Was told I couldn’t go back and I was only 5 weeks and was worried to about others would say, but then I just said they can talk about it and try guess behind my back but I knew knowone would say it to my face so I just left it, when they text me I just tell them it’s personal why I am off and there hasn’t been much else! I’m sure everyone is guessing but that’s life! Safer to be at home atm!

True Mildred!!! Congratulations to you too 😊 I am in the same boat. Its funny. I reckon people will assume I'm off for Covid close contact reasons or something at first. We shouldn't be even letting what other people think affect us. So much more going on right now. 😎 I got out for a walk - jog this morning. It was SO hard. But, glad to be doing it. Only 5 weeks and I feel so big and heavy and I know this sounds crazy but walking was a struggle towards the end. Omg. So, I'll keep going!!!

Bambinoonboard

uptheduffagain wrote: »

Congrats!

I agree with the poster above, I'd just say 'for personal reasons' to your colleagues and let them think whatever - it's none of their beeswax!

Once you have your GP appointment done, they'll advise you to get in touch with whatever hospital you want to attend to make a booking appointment (around 12 weeks). I think some GPs do this referral for you, but mine didn't - but it can all be done online/over the phone (with Holles Street, anyway).

If you have an option to go to a dedicated maternity hospital I would go there, whether it's the Rotunda or Holles Street or The Coombe. I'm sure your local hospital is fine but I'd feel better knowing that IF there was a problem, there are maternity specialists on hand. That's just me, though. I went public at Holles Street with my first and am doing the same with my second.

Hi uptheduffagain, thanks for the advice. OK, I didn't realise you had the option to go to a maternity if out of the vicinity. I always just assumed you went to your local hospital unless you were private or something. Brilliant. I've heard great reports of all. Maternity specialists on hand absolutely.

For the past 9 months or so I'd experienced a strong dull ache in my right thigh on the first day of my period. I Googled it, of course. And had planned to visit doctor soon about it prior this and to be honest one of those things I'd then put on long finger/soon forget about. Endometriosis is of course the Google result.

I had about 6 packets of crisps last night girls!!!

Its very funny. I spoke to a friend yesterday in the phone and she asked me straight out if I was expecting, so randomly. Also video called another friend who keeps saying I look like I'm hiding something or have something to tell. Worst poker face ever!!! 🙈

shesty

You can go to whatever hospital you want, just if your GP is referring you tell them where you want to go - they might just assume the local one is where you want and send the letter there.

Alternately you can ring the Rotunda yourself and schedule a 12 week appointment - if you are going private/semi-private just ring that number, you will find it on their website.
Obviously I am biased because we were in the Rotunda for ours but the care is excellent, public or private. If you are nervous, and there is a big maternity hospital within reach, then maybe the bigger hospital is the way to go for you, rather than the local one.

Bambinoonboard

Hi shesty! Great stuff. Within reach is an hour away - lets say 1.5hours if rush hour, haha!! I mean that's ok ,right? I am a little nervous. I'm counting down the days until next Thursday!!!!

I feel so relaxed, happy and not at all scared - apart from nervous re scan of course - I'm already thinking of nursery colour schemes and avoiding thoughts re the due date!!!!!! The last time I was ultimately petrified thinking about the birth. Maybe I am subconsciously mentally prepared for the worst .

catrionanic

Personally, I would favour the closer hospital. Youll be travelling there a lot, later in the pregnancy, and you'll likely find long car journeys uncomfortable at that stage. Also, the thought of sitting in a car for an hour or more while in labour.... torture!!!!! If you are low risk, stay local IMO.

Pawwed Rig

We had our little boy together with us in a 1 bed. When he was 2 we felt we needed somewhere bigger so no rush with that aspect.

Bambinoonboard

catrionanic wrote: »

Personally, I would favour the closer hospital. Youll be travelling there a lot, later in the pregnancy, and you'll likely find long car journeys uncomfortable at that stage. Also, the thought of sitting in a car for an hour or more while in labour.... torture!!!!! If you are low risk, stay local IMO.

I get what you are saying... I already feel huge what will the next 6 months feel at all..

Bambinoonboard

Pawwed Rig wrote: »

We had our little boy together with us in a 1 bed. When he was 2 we felt we needed somewhere bigger so no rush with that aspect.

Brill stuff. I'm already thinking about storage and all of the bits 🙈 it'll work out.. It'll have to... Unless something comes up in the market that suits
We don't want to make any hasty decisions though either.

Bambinoonboard

Just a little update to say we got positive news!!! Thanks for the support and tips all. . Fingers crossed all continues to go well.