That time you first recognised something 'off' about someone

Cliquey and Shy

It might be something you didn't think much of at the time, or pretended not to notice, but there's always that first moment you remember with someone who later turned out to be odd.

For me, it was when my guitar teacher once spared 10 minutes to help me out buying my first amp. Afterwards when we were about to start the guitar lesson, I thanked him for it. He replied by saying "well if I help someone out then maybe the big guy upstairs will return good fortune to me". I didn't think much of it at the time, but that comment made so much sense with what unfolded with that guy later on.

This teacher was going through a mid live crisis and had set his sights on an unrealistic goal. He wanted it too much. He was working really hard towards it but he had no plan B. As a result of his philosophy for striving towards this goal, he bought into this idea of helping others. Only thing was at times he was a bit too eager to do things slightly crazy in order to be able to tick the box of having 'helped' someone when it wasn't asked for. He ended up falling out with a few people.

During one guitar lesson a few weeks later, he had been talking for too long at the start. It was about 15 minutes in to the lesson. He was trying to give me advice as regards an issue in my own life which had previously made the mistake of sharing with him. He was in over his depth with the subject matter and I eventually reminded him that I was there for a guitar lesson, and that he wasn't my mentor. But he somehow thought he was doing me a favour waffling on. He persisted and said "just this last point". I then made reference to how I shouldn't have to pay for a full lesson if I were to let him continue. That touched a nerve and he ended up kicking me out! All I'm saying is that when he made that comment after I bought the amp, it sort of gave me the impression that he wouldn't have spared me that time if he hadn't happened to have been going through his mid life crisis.

endacl

Post makes no sense without telling us what unfolded with that guy later on...

punisher5112

When they say I've many bodies in the freezer downstairs or in the boot of the Octavia.....

the beer revolu

endacl wrote: »

Post makes no sense without telling us what unfolded with that guy later on...

He became a priest, perhaps?

Gregor Samsa

Cliquey and Shy wrote: »

He replied by saying "well if I help someone out then maybe the big guy upstairs will return good fortune to me". I didn't think much of it at the time, but that comment made so much sense with what unfolded with that guy later on.

Did the fat lad in the flat above him buy him an amp?

Quantum Erasure

He won the lotto?

humberklog

Tried to pluck the G string when a gentle strum was required?

Your guitar teacher was trying to be nice..

Cliquey and Shy

endacl wrote: »

Post makes no sense without telling us what unfolded with that guy later on...

The post really is intended to be about sharing your own experiences. I needn't have even put in that part about the guitar teacher at all. Perhaps I might be more willing to share with you once you've shared with me!

Be right back

Seeing Ian Huntley and Maxine Carr being interviewed on the news and getting a weird feeling about them.

bucketybuck

Cliquey and Shy wrote: »

Perhaps I might be more willing to share with you once you've shared with me!

Is that the teacher told you?

Gregor Samsa

Cliquey and Shy wrote: »

I needn't have even put in that part about the guitar teacher at all.

But then the post would have been

"It might be something you didn't think much of at the time, or pretended not to notice, but there's always that first moment you remember with someone who later turned out to be odd."

which seems even more incomplete.

Cliquey and Shy

Be right back wrote: »

Seeing Ian Huntley and Maxine Carr being interviewed on the news and getting a weird feeling about them.

Did you forget to finish your sentence?

punisher5112

I see dead people

Cliquey and Shy

Gregor Samsa wrote: »

But then the post would have been

"It might be something you didn't think much of at the time, or pretended not to notice, but there's always that first moment you remember with someone who later turned out to be odd."

which seems even more incomplete.

No, that'd be an explanation of what I'm after. There's no real need for an example to go with it.

Larbre34

When he first appeared as "social media" presenter on The Voice Ireland.

Be right back

Cliquey and Shy wrote: »

Did you forget to finish your sentence?

No.

Gregor Samsa

I remember this one time, this new poster posted up looking for examples of a time you first noticed that there was something off with someone, and they gave this strange anecdote that left everyone hanging about how it ended.

endacl

Cliquey and Shy wrote: »

The post really is intended to be about sharing your own experiences. I needn't have even put in that part about the guitar teacher at all. Perhaps I might be more willing to share with you once you've shared with me!

The first time i recognised something 'off' about someone...

Earlier today I read a post online. The poster wrote about a guitar teacher who did a thing, and later went on to do an unspecified other thing, the details of which they declined to share.

Turns out, later on, they again declined to share the salient information that might have made their thread make sense.

My experience.

Cliquey and Shy

endacl wrote: »

Turns out, later on, they again declined to share the salient information that might have made their thread make sense.

Well it's edited in now. My guess is that people will only get distracted by my own experience.

Surreptitious

I'm just NOT able.

Leg End Reject

Cliquey and Shy wrote: »

Well it's edited in now. My guess is that people will only get distracted by my own experience.

It makes less sense now.

I didn't think that was possible so I guess this is one of my moments.

endacl

Cliquey and Shy wrote: »

Well it's edited in now.

Damn. Now my posts make no sense.

Cliquey and Shy

Steve Nolan wrote: »

Anyone got tips on how to finger A minor? I just can't seem to do it properly.

Open A minor

Fing 1: b string
Fing 2: d string
Fing 3: g string

You can also swap positions of fingers 2 and 3 if you prefer!

EmmetSpiceland

endacl wrote: »

Damn. Now my posts make no sense.

That makes two.

Cliquey and Shy

endacl wrote: »

Damn. Now my posts make no sense.

And no experiences of your own?

Elwood_Blues

When he said that's not where we put the communion...

fairweather friend. they could'nt operate that expensive toy. got very snarky. gave out to me for giving them wrong advice for their YouTube channel.

the beer revolu

Cliquey and Shy wrote: »

Open A minor

Fing 1: b string
Fing 2: d string
Fing 3: g string

You can also swap positions of fingers 2 and 3 if you prefer!

But what frets?

There was the time my so called friend and neighbour, Kate, came into the kitchen while I was eating breakfast. We don’t have doors down the country. Anyway she was talking about something. “I’m eating my breakfast, Kate, says I”.


An odd fish, Kate.

Cliquey and Shy

Deleted User wrote: »

There was the time my so called friend and neighbour, Kate, came into the kitchen while I was eating breakfast. We don’t have doors down the country. Anyway she was talking about something. “I’m eating my breakfast, Kate, says I”.


An odd fish, Kate.

You've some memory.

Umaro

There's an interesting book called The Gift of Fear which talks about how your senses will often pick up on something odd but your brain will try rationalize it away.

The author interviews many people who were the victims of physical or sexual violence and they recount how they "knew something was a bit off about the person" but they pushed away their fear and let themselves get isolated or cornered by the person.

There's no way this book could be released these days since its philosophies lie too close to victim-blaming, but I thought it was interesting nonetheless that so many victims shared this sensation of being powerless to act on their fight or flight senses.

Cliquey and Shy

the beer revolu wrote: »

But what frets?

perhaps I could put you in touch with this teacher for that question!

endacl

Cliquey and Shy wrote: »

Open A minor

Fing 1: b string
Fing 2: d string
Fing 3: g string

You can also swap positions of fingers 2 and 3 if you prefer!

Whoooooosh.....

Cliquey and Shy

Umaro wrote: »

There's an interesting book called The Gift of Fear which talks about how your senses will often pick up on something odd but your brain will try rationalize it away.

The only serious post so far. Did you read this book yourself? It's things like this that no one will ever teach you. So many valuable things that aren't taught. Critical Thinking being another.

Maybe it would be a strange world if things like this were taught in school.

Bobblehats

Think it was Jermaine Jenas. Big strapping lad with the head of a child

Cliquey and Shy

Surreptitious wrote: »

I'm just NOT able.

The intellect on boards has fallen a bit alright!

lawred2

Cliquey and Shy wrote: »

It might be something you didn't think much of at the time, or pretended not to notice, but there's always that first moment you remember with someone who later turned out to be odd.

For me, it was when my guitar teacher once spared 10 minutes to help me out buying my first amp. Afterwards when we were about to start the guitar lesson, I thanked him for it. He replied by saying "well if I help someone out then maybe the big guy upstairs will return good fortune to me". I didn't think much of it at the time, but that comment made so much sense with what unfolded with that guy later on.

This teacher was going through a mid live crisis and had set his sights on an unrealistic goal. He wanted it too much. He was working really hard towards it but he had no plan B. As a result of his philosophy for striving towards this goal, he bought into this idea of helping others. Only thing was at times he was a bit too eager to do things slightly crazy in order to be able to tick the box of having 'helped' someone when it wasn't asked for. He ended up falling out with a few people.

During one guitar lesson a few weeks later, he had been talking for too long at the start. It was about 15 minutes in to the lesson. He was trying to give me advice as regards an issue in my own life which had previously made the mistake of sharing with him. He was in over his depth with the subject matter and I eventually reminded him that I was there for a guitar lesson, and that he wasn't my mentor. But he somehow thought he was doing me a favour waffling on. He persisted and said "just this last point". I then made reference to how I shouldn't have to pay for a full lesson if I were to let him continue. That touched a nerve and he ended up kicking me out! All I'm saying is that when he made that comment after I bought the amp, it sort of gave me the impression that he wouldn't have spared me that time if he hadn't happened to have been going through his mid life crisis.

huh?

Cliquey and Shy

lawred2 wrote: »

huh?

That confirms it. The intellect on boards has definitely fallen.

Surreptitious

Fck all to do with intellect. This thread is a hot mess

Leg End Reject

Cliquey and Shy wrote: »

That confirms it. The intellect on boards has definitely fallen.

And you've recently joined ...

Coincidence?

JustAThought

Flailing around the internet last night I came across an interview with a guy whose family had ( this is not a joke!) adopted a dwarf child from Lithuania. When they brought the child back to the hotel room to give it a bath the mother called the father in - turns out their ‘moment’ was noticing that the dwarf ‘child’ had pubic hair and was menstrauting.


‘Child’ would later be standing over them when they woke up holding a knife. etc. Was later legally declared age 22.

The story just kept on giving. (True story!!)

ShyMets

Cliquey and Shy wrote: »

That confirms it. The intellect on boards has definitely fallen.

I'll give you 2 out of 10 for you trolling efforts

Lollipops23

I had a weird vibe about Kevin Spacey since I was in my early teens- first thing I ever saw him in was K-Pax at around 14 (have obvs seen far more of his work since then!!). I remember trying to explain it to my dad but not being able to verbalise the feeling. It was just 'Ick'.

Felt vindicated all those years later!

JoChervil

Umaro wrote: »

There's an interesting book called The Gift of Fear which talks about how your senses will often pick up on something odd but your brain will try rationalize it away.

The author interviews many people who were the victims of physical or sexual violence and they recount how they "knew something was a bit off about the person" but they pushed away their fear and let themselves get isolated or cornered by the person.

There's no way this book could be released these days since its philosophies lie too close to victim-blaming, but I thought it was interesting nonetheless that so many victims shared this sensation of being powerless to act on their fight or flight senses.

I've read such book. I am not sure if the same one. It was very interesting.

The first story was about a girl, who escaped a murderer, who raped her in her own flat. When she analysed it later with this psychologist, the odd moment was, that a guy closed a bedroom window before going to the kitchen for a glass of water before leaving. Why would he do it, if he was going to leave? (spoiler: he went there for a knife and later discovered to be a serial killer)

BTW she ignored all earlier signs, when a stranger helped her bring her shoppings to the flat.

Church on Tuesday

endacl wrote: »

Post makes no sense without telling us what unfolded with that guy later on...

It's a cliffhanger shur.

Deemed as Normal

JoChervil wrote: »

I've read such book. I am not sure if the same one. It was very interesting.

The first story was about a girl, who escaped a murderer, who raped her in her own flat. When she analysed it later with this psychologist, the odd moment was, that a guy closed a bedroom window before going to the kitchen for a glass of water before leaving. Why would he do it, if he was going to leave? (spoiler: he went there for a knife and later discovered to be a serial killer)

BTW she ignored all earlier signs, when a stranger helped her bring her shoppings to the flat.

Well at least they caught him.

AlejGuzman68

Had a friend who always talked of people being "off". But he was the local coroner.

FHFM50

I used to play football with a lad who would lose his **** every time we lost a match or when someone would get the ball off him. Would start hitting people and was constantly banned. I found it odd but always just put it down to passion for the game.

I found out recently that he was hospitalized with bipolar disorder.

Tig98

A woman I worked with for a few weeks said I was one of her closest friends and she wanted me and other staff members at her very small/intimate wedding.

Turns out she was an absolute terrier who fires through friend groups and workplaces many times a year. One minute she loved you, next she hated you. She had similar up and down emotions towards her fiance, sometimes he was the best ever, other times she would be ringing him telling him to not come home...

.anon.

Be right back wrote: »

Seeing Ian Huntley and Maxine Carr being interviewed on the news and getting a weird feeling about them.

On a similar note, I remember watching Joe O'Reilly on the Late Late Show back in 2004. My girlfriend at the time rang me immediately after the interview and asked if I had been watching it. At which point, we both simultaneously said "the husband did it!"