Ex's Family

Fromme

I broke up with my ex one year ago, we were living together and in a very long term relationship
He cheated and we agreed our relationship had gone through too much and ended it.
So we stopped contact for a long time and recently became friends, we're both dating other people.
So he told his family about us ending they didn't take it well, he didn't tell them why. They apparently speak daily about how much of a c*nt I apparently am. And apparently are blaming me for anything wrong in their family
His sister said she is receiving prank calls and messages. I've never had her phone number nor do I have her on social media. But I'm getting the blame
She thinks I've been saying she's lost her mind etc..
I'm thinking of cutting all contact to make his life easier, (less screaming in his face daily from his parents about how I'm a c*nt etc.)
However cutting all ties means it will be difficult for us to see our friends, he didn't have many friends so I introduced him to mine about 10 years ago and they've been close ever since. Also he doesn't want to cut all contact because we've known each other for so long and we're finally good with being friends.
Has anyone else been in this situation?
I guess I also want an unbiased opinion on all of this, what would you do in this situation, do I need to do anything at all? Maybe his family just need more time to adjust

cannotlogin

You seem like a very forgiving person which is admirable but I'm not sure what's in this for.

He cheated on you and now tells you that his family bitch about you daily and blame you for everything.

Doubt you really occupy their mind daily since the split and even if the above was true why would he even tell you other than to stir up unnecessary drama. In the same situation, most people wouldn't even mention it.

If you do continue a friendship with him, I would simply tell him you don't want to hear about it as there's no benefit in knowing etc.

listermint

You could just drift away from talking to him


It doesnt have to be a 'thing' . Contact will naturally just fritter out.

Sonic the Shaghog

I'm not being mean but being friends with someone that cheated on you and is letting his family away with doing this to you as he most likely didn't tell them teh truth? You really want to be friends with someone like this? You are being taken for a fool don't so this to yourself, anymore rubbish you get tell them why you broke up and then cut contact with all them including him

For God's sake he's most likely telling them you dumped him and still keep contacting him and they think your a head wrecker

Fromme

Sonic the Shaghog wrote: »

I'm not being mean but being friends with someone that cheated on you and is letting his family away with doing this to you as he most likely didn't tell them teh truth? You really want to be friends with someone like this? You are being taken for a fool don't so this to yourself, anymore rubbish you get tell them why you broke up and then cut contact with all them including him

For God's sake he's most likely telling them you dumped him and still keep contacting him and they think your a head wrecker

I was thinking this too

Antares35

Fromme wrote: »

I broke up with my ex one year ago, we were living together and in a very long term relationship
He cheated and we agreed our relationship had gone through too much and ended it.
So we stopped contact for a long time and recently became friends, we're both dating other people.
So he told his family about us ending they didn't take it well, he didn't tell them why. They apparently speak daily about how much of a c*nt I apparently am. And apparently are blaming me for anything wrong in their family
His sister said she is receiving prank calls and messages. I've never had her phone number nor do I have her on social media. But I'm getting the blame
She thinks I've been saying she's lost her mind etc..
I'm thinking of cutting all contact to make his life easier, (less screaming in his face daily from his parents about how I'm a c*nt etc.)
However cutting all ties means it will be difficult for us to see our friends, he didn't have many friends so I introduced him to mine about 10 years ago and they've been close ever since. Also he doesn't want to cut all contact because we've known each other for so long and we're finally good with being friends.
Has anyone else been in this situation?
I guess I also want an unbiased opinion on all of this, what would you do in this situation, do I need to do anything at all? Maybe his family just need more time to adjust

I think you're being more than reasonable and have already given him so much - even your friends. Personally I'd cut ties with them all.

Edit when I say with them all I mean him and his family, not your friends!

beauf

I don't think I'd believe him if he's the one telling you these stories.

You need to make a clean break.

strandroad

He could fix it with one convo telling them why you really split. He selfishly won't so he's not a friend is he? Cut contact, there is nothing of value there.

TheadoreT

I get the feeling you haven't fully let go of your feelings for this guy. Not much else makes sense, I think you're using the friends situation as an excuse for not fully cutting ties.

He deceived you by cheating and clearly deceiving his parent by feeding them with lies about you and then weirdly updating you about this? He just sounds like bad news all round to me.

Would also be more respectful to your current partners if you weren't in contact, unless there's kids involved which I assume there aren't it should be a clean enough break.

JasonStatham

To be honest, that family sounds like drama. I wouldn't bother with him or them.