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I killed my girlfriends dog

  • 27-06-2020 09:56PM
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,088 ✭✭✭


    My girlfriend and I started to live together during the lock down and we are almost 3 months living together so far. She moved from the city and brought her dog here to my old family home. She wanted to bring the dog into the house as she had been used to previously. I am not a dog person and I hate dogs in the house so I refused to allow the dog in here as I tend to be OCD with cleanliness, she didn't like it but my house my rules sort of thing, a compromise. I had given him a nice nest with straw in one of the haysheds and he was ok there.

    The Dog did not initially get along with the working collies here and was constantly barking and causing them to bark in response, this caused friction between us as honestly I couldn't get a wink of sleep as some mornings he would wake me up at 5 or before it. We finally solved this by putting each dog in isolation with her dog far away from the house so his barking wasn't as loud then also.

    Anyway a few weeks ago she had him loose and out around the yard and was not watching him and he killed a lamb here in our farm in a paddock next to the house, these lambs belong to my father. I was enraged with the dog but it was decided by my father to give the dog another chance only he needs extreme supervision, mainly it was done out of consideration for her attachment to the dog and to avoid problems in the relationship.

    At the time I wanted him put down as he was a threat to our sheep and lambs and his barking was extreme and only tolerated for her sake, if it was one of our working collies who did it then he would be put down that evening but her

    Anyway thus morning the dog managed to come free from his collar and killed another lamb. I just carted him away and got the Vet to euthanize him as this was the second lamb he had killed, my father who is elderly was on the phone all upset and said he must go now, the dog was already put down when my father found the dead lamb.

    Now I am the villian here and being blamed for not allowing the dog indoors, for his conditions etc. She has told me she is leaving and that the relationship is over because I put her dog down. This house and farm belongs to my father who has kindly allowed us to live here during the crisis, we both lost our jobs and couldn't continue with the rental costs in Dublin.

    I am saying nothing because in my eyes I did nothing wrong, the dog killed twice and I feel justified in euthanizing him. The lambs were animals too and did not deserve that, the dog was uncontrollable and not suited to this environment.

    It's a messed up situation but I feel her ending the relationship with me is not warranted as I am being blamed for everything and made into the villain here.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,738 ✭✭✭PsychoPete


    If I was her I'd go full John Wick on you


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 630 ✭✭✭jay1988


    Seriously? You had her dog put down, you had no right to do that, it wasn't your dog, she is better off as far away from you as possible, if I was her I'd have the guards at your door over this.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 31 Cocobean1


    What kind of dog was it?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 72 ✭✭Huntline


    What colour was the dog?


  • Posts: 6,691 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Wow. Is this a pisstake? Did you tell your girlfriend you were getting the dog put down before you brought it to the vets? Of course the relationship is over.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 259 ✭✭sallyanne12


    I’m afraid I agree with her. It’s awful you put her dog down truly awful. The poor dog didn’t belong on a farm but didn’t deserve that. It’s unforgivable in my eyes. It’s clear you have no attachment whatsoever to the dog and don’t care about your girlfriend whatsoever to put her beloved dog down. The dog should have been moved away from the farm or alternative arrangements could have been agreed. Can’t understand you taking the animals life to be honest and can’t understand how a vet would agree to it...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,202 ✭✭✭✭callaway92


    Has to be a wind up (although maybe not for an account over a year old)?

    You wouldn't just ask to find the dog another home etc? Fúcking disgusted reading that.


  • Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators, Paid Member Posts: 7,497 Mod ✭✭✭✭Hannibal_Smith


    I'm not clear OP, do you want advice on how to fix the situation? You seem confident with your decision?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,386 ✭✭✭Indestructable


    You absolute cretin. I hope this is a wind up.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,733 ✭✭✭jam_mac_jam


    You put a healthy dog down because you couldn't look after it properly. It is entirely your fault. Why was the dog not properly secured?

    At the very least you should have found another home for him. Your girlfriend is completely in the right. Also it was not your dog to put down.

    My god.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 395 ✭✭Class MayDresser


    Please, this is a wind up.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,740 ✭✭✭Foweva Awone


    That is full on psychopathic behaviour. Not just the act itself, but the lack of empathy for your girlfriend. Leave the poor girl alone to mourn her dog and move on with her life without you.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 72 ✭✭Huntline


    #doglivesmatter


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,824 ✭✭✭Xcellor


    What a **** thing to do. It was beyond you to find a solution that didn't involve killing her dog?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3 cookiemonster80


    Wow from where I'm sitting, your girlfriend is well rid of you and has well and truly dodged a bullet. Your attitude towards pets in general would have been enough to have me running for the hills.

    Sorry OP if this is not a wind-up, you are a disgusting piece of work.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 199 ✭✭grinder23


    jay1988 wrote: »
    Seriously? You had her dog put down, you had no right to do that, it wasn't your dog, she is better off as far away from you as possible, if I was her I'd have the guards at your door over this.

    He was 100% right


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,035 ✭✭✭Simi


    I know farmers lack empathy, but ****ing hell OP!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 692 ✭✭✭unhappys10


    This has to be a joke, a bad one.
    If you did that to my dog you'd be following him fairly lively.
    She needs to get away from you ASAP and I hope she tells anyone who will listen what you did.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,733 ✭✭✭jam_mac_jam


    Simi wrote: »
    I know farmers lack empathy, but ****ing hell OP!

    Farmers generally know how to secure dogs though if they have sheep.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,938 ✭✭✭statto25


    Huntline wrote: »
    What colour was the dog?

    Howya Joe


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,088 ✭✭✭theguzman


    I'm not clear OP, do you want advice on how to fix the situation? You seem confident with your decision?

    I took the dog to the vet as he had killed 2 lambs in 3 weeks, the last time she actually said he was only playing with the lambs etc. she would be detached from the reality of rural life unlike me.

    I made my decision solely based on safety of the livestock and out of respect for my father, when he killed the last lamb it was clear that the dog was on thin ice and if it was our own he would be put down.

    I really can't see her point in ending what was a good steady solid relationship over this. I am confident in what I did was right, rehome him and he cause havoc somewhere else for some other farmer maybe. She had really humanized that dog beyond reason.

    The dog was a staffordshire german shephard mix, a large and substantial dog.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,627 ✭✭✭dobman88


    You should have told her you were going to kill the dog before doing it so she had a choice of actions, then she could have broken up with you and moved away with the dog. You took that opportunity away from her, you killed her pet and you're surprised you're the bad guy?

    At the very minimum it was a horrible thing to do.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,077 ✭✭✭Away With The Fairies


    Did the girlfriend have any say? Did she get to hold her dog in it's last moments?

    Unforgivable and she's well rid.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,872 ✭✭✭Sittingpretty


    theguzman wrote: »
    My girlfriend and I started to live together during the lock down and we are almost 3 months living together so far. She moved from the city and brought her dog here to my old family home. She wanted to bring the dog into the house as she had been used to previously. I am not a dog person and I hate dogs in the house so I refused to allow the dog in here as I tend to be OCD with cleanliness, she didn't like it but my house my rules sort of thing, a compromise. I had given him a nice nest with straw in one of the haysheds and he was ok there.

    The Dog did not initially get along with the working collies here and was constantly barking and causing them to bark in response, this caused friction between us as honestly I couldn't get a wink of sleep as some mornings he would wake me up at 5 or before it. We finally solved this by putting each dog in isolation with her dog far away from the house so his barking wasn't as loud then also.

    Anyway a few weeks ago she had him loose and out around the yard and was not watching him and he killed a lamb here in our farm in a paddock next to the house, these lambs belong to my father. I was enraged with the dog but it was decided by my father to give the dog another chance only he needs extreme supervision, mainly it was done out of consideration for her attachment to the dog and to avoid problems in the relationship.

    At the time I wanted him put down as he was a threat to our sheep and lambs and his barking was extreme and only tolerated for her sake, if it was one of our working collies who did it then he would be put down that evening but her

    Anyway thus morning the dog managed to come free from his collar and killed another lamb. I just carted him away and got the Vet to euthanize him as this was the second lamb he had killed, my father who is elderly was on the phone all upset and said he must go now, the dog was already put down when my father found the dead lamb.

    Now I am the villian here and being blamed for not allowing the dog indoors, for his conditions etc. She has told me she is leaving and that the relationship is over because I put her dog down. This house and farm belongs to my father who has kindly allowed us to live here during the crisis, we both lost our jobs and couldn't continue with the rental costs in Dublin.

    I am saying nothing because in my eyes I did nothing wrong, the dog killed twice and I feel justified in euthanizing him. The lambs were animals too and did not deserve that, the dog was uncontrollable and not suited to this environment.

    It's a messed up situation but I feel her ending the relationship with me is not warranted as I am being blamed for everything and made into the villain here.

    Honestly, I’d never forgive you and I’d end the relationship immediately. Because of your view of dogs as working animals you’ve completely disregarded the bond she had with hers.

    That being said if I had been her I would have ensured my dog could not become free from where he was kept in a working farm for his own and the safety of the farm animals.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,133 ✭✭✭Idle Passerby


    Jesus OP! Very unfortunate for the poor lambs and I fully understand a dog who does that can't be allowed remain on the farm but to have it put down without even consulting your girlfriend! Of course she won't want to stay with you after that! I'd be surprised if she ever looks you in the eye again!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,440 ✭✭✭Rodney Bathgate


    The girlfriend should have re-homed the dog after the first attack / kill.

    She is responsible for this.

    How well trained was her dog?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,153 ✭✭✭jimbobaloobob


    From my experience once a dog has the taste of a kill they run with it. It’s too hypothetical to say what would happen if the dog was removed from that environment no one knows what it might do in the future. As you said yourself it’s a mess of a situation. I’m sorry for everyone involved in this one.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,400 ✭✭✭✭kippy


    Have you had a conversation about this post the first lamb being killed? What did you both agree to do?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,893 ✭✭✭Bullocks


    Simi wrote: »
    I know farmers lack empathy, but ****ing hell OP!

    How do you know that? What a statement!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 349 ✭✭sugarman20


    You should have given her the chance to rehome the dog.

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