Dating during the Coronavirus lockdown

Upforthematch

**This is meant to be a lighter thread**

For those that are single and want to mingle at the moment but looking at 2-3 months of no pubs, clubs or bars - what's the plan?

I'm not on Tinder myself but just wondering has it changed? More swipes to the right? left?

Are you still going on dates? Would the idea be mad with the social distancing going on?

It's only week 1 and I'm missing dating already!

Idbatterim

going for stroll and coffee is going to be the only option! If people are even prepared to meet...

this already has a video on youtube!!!

"How Does Coronavirus Change Online Dating?"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1hC23tlSKm8

Ubbquittious

I met a girlie only a week ago and started courtin. Met the day before the pubs closed. Surely a good sign that its meant to last

Upforthematch

“Shifting, meeting, tickling teeth, scoring, whatever the **** young people are calling it. It stops now,” confirmed Min. for Health Simon Harris in the Dáil. “It should go without saying therefore ‘getting jiggy with it’, sex, butt trumpeting and slam-jamming hip-hopping show-stopping orgasm spasms are off the menu”.

https://waterfordwhispersnews.com/2020/03/20/no-shifting-anyone-governments-new-emergency-covid-19-laws-in-full/

Donald Trump

Just no face to face stuff. None of that kissing or cuddling marlarkey

Straight in doggy-style, do the business and back out again.

She can wear an old raincoat to keep her back protected and if you are feeling romantic, you can offer to powerwash her down afterwards. From a distance though of course.

Upforthematch

Idbatterim wrote: »

going for stroll and coffee is going to be the only option! If people are even prepared to meet...

this already has a video on youtube!!!

"How Does Coronavirus Change Online Dating?"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1hC23tlSKm8

So that guy thinks that Tinder use has skyrocketed in Italy and then the Italian guy in the comments gives the reality!

weemcd

Don't.

Next.

Andrew00

Donald Trump wrote: »

Just no face to face stuff. None of that kissing or cuddling marlarkey

Straight in doggy-style, do the business and back out again.

She can wear an old raincoat to keep her back protected and if you are feeling romantic, you can offer to powerwash her down afterwards. From a distance though of course.

I always powerwash them before doing the deed. Coronavirus or no coronavirus.

Upforthematch

weemcd wrote: »

Don't.

Next.

I just can't see 500k+ young single people in Ireland living like hermits for 3 months plus.

Maybe they should... but I'm interested in reality!

listermint

Upforthematch wrote: »

I just can't see 500k+ young single people in Ireland living like hermits for 3 months plus.

Maybe they should... but I'm interested in reality!

I can though.

Not that hard to imagine and your figures don't sound accurate either.

You edited down from 1.3 million

Harry Palmr

Car, car park, flash your lights twice

Donald Trump

Andrew00 wrote: »

I always powerwash them before doing the deed. Coronavirus or no coronavirus.

You're a gentleman

paleoperson

I'm surprised to see escort-ireland not only still running ads, but girls are in numbers almost as normal?

*eyes shift left and right*

I was there for research purposes only of course.

Charles Babbage

Upforthematch wrote: »

I just can't see 500k+ young single people in Ireland living like hermits for 3 months plus.

Maybe they should... but I'm interested in reality!

One big dating matching program, they pair you off and you have to either stay a hermit or get your needs fulfilled by that one person until October.

fryup

Donald Trump wrote: »

Just no face to face stuff. None of that kissing or cuddling marlarkey

Straight in doggy-style, do the business and back out again.

She can wear an old raincoat to keep her back protected and if you are feeling romantic, you can offer to powerwash her down afterwards. From a distance though of course.

sounds like the perfect date

touts

According to official guidelines if you are with the person for less than 15 minutes you shouldn't catch Covid-19.

To that's all the performance pressure off the lads so. The faster the better these days.

theguzman

touts wrote: »

According to official guidelines if you are with the person for less than 15 minutes you shouldn't catch Covid-19.

To that's all the performance pressure off the lads so. The faster the better these days.

They are so porn addicted that half can't get it up and the other half can't finish the job.

paleoperson

touts wrote: »

According to official guidelines if you are with the person for less than 15 minutes you shouldn't catch Covid-19.

To that's all the performance pressure off the lads so. The faster the better these days.

This is of course totally false. Don't give misinformation that could be dangerous please. I know most people have more cop on but you'd be surprised.

johnnyskeleton

Ubbquittious wrote: »

I met a girlie only a week ago and started courtin. Met the day before the pubs closed. Surely a good sign that its meant to last

I'm afriad you're just going to have to marry her, as i the Irish tradition

YFlyer

Call back to her place. She'll put you in the basin and say it is for the two weeks self isolation before the shift.

Thelonious Monk

QuestionSpark wrote: »

I' m porbably going to be shot down for asking this but are people continuing to see/exercise/sleep with their partners (who are not living with you) during the virus and social distancing?

Yes but she's currently the only person I'm seeing, and vice versa

Kerry25x

Interesting question since many (most?) partners not living with each other are probably living with their parents.

super_furry

Keep it safe, be grand.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wV_BPDi8Ems

Beasty

Threads merged

Donald Trump

Thelonious Monk wrote: »

Yes but she's currently the only person I'm seeing, and vice versa

That's what she tell you anyways :P

Tea Shock

Upforthematch wrote: »

For those that are single and want to mingle at the moment but looking at 2-3 months of no pubs, clubs or bars - what's the plan?

What about us married folk who want to mingle???

Discrimination!!!

eaglach

How is everyone coping with the current restrictions and maintaining their relationships and dating lives?

Personally I'm finding very difficult as I had just met someone before the lockdown happened. All I can do is message and chat over video calls. Realistically I will only be able to meet them again from July 20th (over 11 weeks from now!) when the 20km travel restriction is lifted.

I have some friends who haven't seen their girlfriends in weeks and can't imagine how tough it must be for them.

EltonJohn69

So no new tinder dates till July 20 ?

Icepick

eaglach wrote: »

I have some friends who haven't seen their girlfriends in weeks and can't imagine how tough it must be for them.

Ask them. May help them talking about it too.

Beasty

Threads merged

ShineOn7

The amount of riding that'll go on when/if a vaccine/very effective treatment is found will be quite something

Upforthematch

ShineOn7 wrote: »

The amount of riding that'll go on when/if a vaccine/very effective treatment is found will be quite something

I don't think folks are going to wait two years plus!

Id say most singles have looked up their ex's also single at this stage

eaglach

Upforthematch wrote: »

I don't think folks are going to wait two years plus!

Id say most singles have looked up their ex's also single at this stage

What is the new norm now? As you say, people are not going to wait for a vaccine to hug their partners or to date again!

At what point does that happen? Loneliness will kick in soon, if it hasn't already. Would I be judged for going on a date and breaking social distancing guidance?

DebDynamite

eaglach wrote: »

What is the new norm now? As you say, people are not going to wait for a vaccine to hug their partners or to date again!

At what point does that happen? Loneliness will kick in soon, if it hasn't already. Would I be judged for going on a date and breaking social distancing guidance?

Sure who’d know? Anyone who sees you will just presume you live together

nthclare

Dating during the corona virus....

Well your status won't mean jack sh1t, it'll be like dating as a teen-ager again metaphorically I'm speaking.

Remember that guy that you snogged at a slow set at the local nightclub in 1993, he had an iron maiden t-shirt, longish hair, funny, bit of a messer.
He was Into fishing, hiking and camping etc
But he wasn't following the herd, and a bit of a mucker. But fck me you really fancied him, he was just really good eye candy and a loveable rogue.

You went out with him for say three months, moved on.
You went to college, had loads of fun.
John went to music school or art college, settled in a seaside or rugged country side place.

You qualified and got your degree and in the meantime you met Paul 7 years ago in Copper's, Lillie's bordello or O'Riordans in Cork.

Paul wore a Tommy Hilfiger Polo shirt and a pair of diesel jeans and a pair of jock shoes.
He was a coder, ye exchanged number's.
Starred dating, he wasn't as attractive as John or as interesting as him. But all your friends are settling down and your biological clock is ticking.
So you get along ok, not perfect but ye compromise.
Get married two kid's etc.
But Paul was really a covert narcissistic bstrd.
He got moody, controlling and sulked a lot.
A real lazy pr1ck, couldn't even change a light bulb, or cut the lawn.
So you confide in your friends that Paul's a dick, they're supportive and understand.
Then you hear the door opening some evening and in walks Paul... he's not looking after himself and he's just an empty shell.
Same old same old. Groundhog Day, no excitement.
You tried to compromise, but to no avail.
Saturday morning you say fck this, you get the kid's together and leave Paul sit at home.
Off to Lahinch for the day..
At this stage he's an embarrassment...

There you are and yourself Jack and Riona having an Ice cream cone, sun blazing, your t-shirt and shorts on , your raybans or Gucci, Masunaga's whatever shades you wear...

From the distance you see a familiar site, same slightly awkward walk lol walk... your memories ignite..
There's a blast from the past, John in his wetsuit fck me you think wtf...
He has salty water running down his hair, tanned and as fit as he was in 1993...
Bearded, and chiseled cheek bones like Morten Harket but looks like Andrew Cooper.

You lower your Masunaga's, John catches your eye, you his...@#***

Rachel, how the **** are you, omg fckin hell.
Haven't seen you since that party at Johan's house in 98, remember that time we all rented the few holiday cottages in Doolin and had a barbecue etc
John say's hello to your kid's and admires Jack's batman t-shirt (Paul doesn't even remember Jack's birthday let alone favourite super hero) fckn dick..
John tells Jack he preferred superman and, Jacks mouth covered in ice cream chuckles, first time he laughed in a few days...
Because dad's just too busy on the laptop and trying to flirt with Sandra from accounts...

Then there's awkward silence, then ye ask about each others family etc
As usual John's a gent, doesn't ask about her marriage or relationship status etc
Ye talk for around 3 minutes, but Rachel never stopped fancying John, he's still manly, mannerly and a loveable rogue.
Paul's just a sad narcissistic Jock counting his money and no soul and spirit.
Still wears Tommy Hilfiger Polo shirt s deck shoes and bootcut diesel jeans...
Think's he's still 27.

Rachel's 44 John's 47 but he's still manly mannerly and just a man really.
He's a chippie and shapes surfboards and design's t-shirts.

Back to the moment, John JOHN... a gorgeous 35 year old Susannah Hoff lookalike with a kid in her arms arrives over, big smile on her face. John introduces Gabriel, he met her in Bali 5 year's ago she's from Rome.
But they got married 2 years ago. Gabriel is really funny and has banter with Jack and Riona. They have a good laugh, and John's lad is three, Jack's 5

Gabriel say's we're going for lunch to O'Looneys come and join us. Fck it she joins them. In walks
Piero Gabriel's brother he's 45...

You're introduced....

12 months later Paul's gone, you're flicking through Bumble you see a familiar face it's Piero.
Rachel tries to match him, a day later bingo...

She's getting to know Piero, he's funny, rough around the edges, living in Liscannor.
Rachel's in Ennis...

There's always a sliver of hope.

This is a true story but I changed the name's, my friends female, she's been through a rough time with your atypical narcissist.. alcoholic gambling bumbling mess.

She's going to meet Piero for a coffee when this covid has less restrictions and she's not in love or has expectations.
She's just looking forward to the date...

Never let status or financial potential dictate your potential partner...

There's always a treasure waiting to be discovered burried in the ground...

Mister Vain

If you get stopped at a garda checkpoint just say you're going on a tinder date.

eaglach

DebDynamite wrote: »

Sure who’d know? Anyone who sees you will just presume you live together

Oh I know, but I don't want to be putting anyone at risk of catching the virus, even if I could get away with it.

It would be nice to have a statement from medical professionals or the government about relaxing social distancing once contact tracing and testing has improved. Maybe allowing 2 or 3 people within your 2m zone (not that I'm suggesting dating 2 or 3 different people at the same time!)

Going without the shift for at least a year before a vaccine is a hell of a long time!

Gael23

Had been thinking about this too. Open to correction but I always thought the best way to pick up with someone was by mingling in pubs and clubs. That’s not going to be an option for the foreseeable future.

Suppose new dating methods need to be tested. Apps don’t do it for me though

Mister Vain

I've been chatting to a girl on Bumble for the last few days and she seems fairly keen. She lives in Dublin though so it will be a while before we can meet. I'm not sure where we could even go tbh.

eaglach

Looking at the government road map, there is nothing which suggests that dating is ever possible. Maybe in an additional stage beyond what they've outlined so far, but who knows.

I started chatting to someone on Tinder before the lockdown happened, but never got to meet. I've been chatting to them almost every day since and have had regular video "dates", but it's wearing thin at this stage. Not that they're getting boring, but the frustration of not being able to meet is getting to me.

I can see that there will not be any government "advice" that it's okay to break social distancing in the near future and it's pretty frustrating. I feel very strongly about keeping the virus at bay, but I think I've reached breaking point and finally go on a real date, even if it is just a walk in the park. It may sound selfish, but I can't put my life on hold indefinitely.

EltonJohn69

eaglach wrote: »

Looking at the government road map, there is nothing which suggests that dating is ever possible. Maybe in an additional stage beyond what they've outlined so far, but who knows.

I started chatting to someone on Tinder before the lockdown happened, but never got to meet. I've been chatting to them almost every day since and have had regular video "dates", but it's wearing thin at this stage. Not that they're getting boring, but the frustration of not being able to meet is getting to me.

I can see that there will not be any government "advice" that it's okay to break social distancing in the near future and it's pretty frustrating. I feel very strongly about keeping the virus at bay, but I think I've reached breaking point and finally go on a real date, even if it is just a walk in the park. It may sound selfish, but I can't put my life on hold indefinitely.

Just wrap yourself in tinfoil and you will be grand x

Quantum Erasure

eaglach wrote: »

I feel very strongly about keeping the virus at bay, but I think I've reached breaking point and finally go on a real date, even if it is just a walk in the park. It may sound selfish, but I can't put my life on hold indefinitely.

if you live within 10 km its possible to meet for a walk and not break any guidelines... even if you don't live that close, I wouldn't be too worried about it, unless either of ye are in a vulnerable category or living with someone who is

eaglach

Quantum Erasure wrote: »

if you live within 10 km its possible to meet for a walk and not break any guidelines... even if you don't live that close, I wouldn't be too worried about it, unless either of ye are in a vulnerable category or living with someone who is

Unfortunately he lives beyond 20km. Neither of us are in a vulnerable category or are living with someone who is.

I am starting to feel like a fool when I see so many others, and even friends who are in favour of the restrictions, breaking the rules and visiting their boyfriends / girlfriends / family beyond the limit.

I feel I will soon break (mentally) and go beyond the advised travel distance for a socially distanced date. I've acted very responsibly up until now, but when there's no end in sight it is very demoralising.

Mr rebel

It’s terrible and really disheartening.
I’m still on tinder but I can’t muster the enthusiasm to properly chat as there’s a strong sense of “what’s the point?” when we still can’t realistically meet up with anyone for another 2 months at least (I live rurally so the 20km travel limit won’t make a difference).
For me, video call dates are just horrible and a hundred times more awkward than meeting someone in person.

thegolfer

Mr rebel wrote: »

It’s terrible and really disheartening.
I’m still on tinder but I can’t muster the enthusiasm to properly chat as there’s a strong sense of “what’s the point?” when we still can’t realistically meet up with anyone for another 2 months at least (I live rurally so the 20km travel limit won’t make a difference).
For me, video call dates are just horrible and a hundred times more awkward than meeting someone in person.

I'm on tinder and bumble, chatting away at the moment. What it's teaching me is to get back in the habit of text and chatting again, it could be anything and nothing at all.

But the benefit is even if you do not meet up once there is a release, you have gotten your self back in the game to chat, your texting is strong and better able to deliver the compliments. It's not to become a pick up artist, it's the pick yourself up and possibly hit it off with someone.

Pay the extra and super swipe or like or whatever it's called, and grab someones attention.

YFlyer

For those that caught the virus and recovered. Can they get back on the saddle?

ShineOn7

So how will dating work with social distancing?*

Will you just date people in your social circles and try minimize the risk that way?

Or will you date people you've never met from Tinder, POF and Bumble?

Or! Will you go the whole hog and not date until there's a vaccine?

I think, for single people, it's going to be a bigger problem than we think. I mean, who doesn't love the buzz of those first few dates when you click with the other person right?

Single people of Boards: with the current Covid situation, when will you date again?



(*thinly disguised "When will we get The Ride again" thread)

ShineOn7

Poll added

If there's an option you'd like added you can list it here and maybe a Mod can add it to the poll

But there's plenty of options to start

SweetCaliber

Never. I'm becoming a Hermit.

2 fast

Never I wasnt very good at it before covid, and now I just couldn't be bothered... hello singledom

ShineOn7

I chose "not til 2021" in the poll

I think by then my hormones will be over-riding (pardon the pun) any fears

It's all very subjective though because things are constantly evolving with Covid